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My wife has been doing this for circa two decades, due to a good diet and appropriate techniques pain and mess have never been an issue at all.



I concur.
We eat a very good diet, and yes there would be pain. The muscles are for expelling waste, they are going the wrong way and in some people can be damaged which gives them many horrible issues later in life. Its simply not designed for anything being inserted.
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Absolutely and it infuriates me he'd rather sit and smoke with a depressed old man in utter silence while they play games on their phones than spend time with his wife. It makes me bitter and unlikable. It actually makes me not want to be around him and is a big reason we are apart every Sunday. We used to trade off, but now I'd rather he go do what he wants to do.
So its ok for you to go and see you mum but not ok for him to see his dad?Honestly you have a good man, stop being discontent and be thankful you have a man who is so easy to please and so respectful of you.
Loads of men dont like those things, neither of my husbands have, I have no idea why you think they do.
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We eat a very good diet, and yes there would be pain. The muscles are for expelling waste, they are going the wrong way and in some people can be damaged which gives them many horrible issues later in life. Its simply not designed for anything being inserted.
Since it is evolved, of course it isn't designed.

As to pain my wife says anal sex doesn't hurt. Just like it doesn't hurt me, whenever my wife gives me a prostate massage during oral sex.
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Since it is evolved, of course it isn't designed.
I'm one who actually agrees with Diana on this, regarding evolved vs designed. But that has nothing to do with the discussion of the topic at hand. This part is about personal beliefs, so just be careful how you respond to things of that nature. 😉

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As to pain my wife says anal sex doesn't hurt. Just like it doesn't hurt me, whenever my wife gives me a prostate massage during oral sex.
Now, as for pain... You both say there is no pain during either of those acts. However, I am fairly confident that, if your wife told you that it DOES hurt at some point, you would no longer do it. Whether designed or evolved makes no difference in this discussion. You and your wife are in agreement on this, and that is the only thing that matters. There have been multiple women on TAM who enjoyed anal sex and then one day, it started to hurt. So, it CAN happen. And, in a loving relationship, I think it is easy to express those things without fear of angering your partner.

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Now, as for pain... You both say there is no pain during either of those acts. However, I am fairly confident that, if your wife told you that it DOES hurt at some point, you would no longer do it. Whether designed or evolved makes no difference in this discussion. You and your wife are in agreement on this, and that is the only thing that matters. There have been multiple women on TAM who enjoyed anal sex and then one day, it started to hurt. So, it CAN happen. And, in a loving relationship, I think it is easy to express those things without fear of angering your partner.
Pain is normally a great indicator, that one should avoid whatever is causing it.

Which is why I encourage people to remain sober and avoid the use of numbing creams while having anal sex.
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My husband and I have always had pretty normal and tame sexual appetites and up until recently I wasn't bothered by it. Lately, however, our sex life just seems so stale and boring.

He's never asked to give me a facial, anal or cum shot, but I don't mind any of these things too much so I figured that would be a good way to spice things up, right? Wrong. He doesn't seem interested in any of them and I confess it's making my feel extremely unattractive and undesirable.

I always thought men liked to do these things and I'm a little paranoid that he DOES want to do these things, just not wit me. I mean, how many men DON'T want to give a money shot now and then? What is it about me that makes the idea of these things so unappealing?
I'm just wondering why you are putting so much energy into going after things that you "don't mind too much" or need to be drunk to enjoy. Shouldn't spicing up your sex life be about doing things you love to do? Especially since it seems like you're the one who is bored/unhappy?
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We eat a very good diet, and yes there would be pain. The muscles are for expelling waste, they are going the wrong way and in some people can be damaged which gives them many horrible issues later in life. Its simply not designed for anything being inserted.
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There are millions of gay men and heterosexual couples who enjoy anal sex on a regular basis who would correctly refute yet another of your many ignorant statements that is based on nothing more than what you think sounds about right.
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Since it is evolved, of course it isn't designed.

As to pain my wife says anal sex doesn't hurt. Just like it doesn't hurt me, whenever my wife gives me a prostate massage during oral sex.
Having had several very small pessaries inserted in the past which DID hurt I have to disagree.
Its for the expelling of waste, we have a vagina for sex. Your wife may well have issues in the future with leakage etc, many do.
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@UnicornCupcake. Re various sex acts and porn - porn is a visual stimulation source and many things can stimulate a man that they are completely uninterested in doing. For example, there is a huge amount of cuckolding porn out there, yet I suspect there are far fewer actual (knowing) cuckolds. There are other aspects to open than the act - for example, the female dominance of cuckolding might be intriguing... similarly femdom is a big thing and again - what might be interesting might also be of no interest irl.

Anal sex is another thing that has really exploded online - I'm old enough to have seen this as a small porn fetish decades ago become mainstream porn (versus mainstream real life). I think it has to do to a certain degree with taboo, but again -as it grows more common the taboo qualities diminish. Huge member porn is big too (pun intended) but it isn't quite so fun IRL for many / most women.

So I admit weird, unusual, extreme porn can be exciting but not on the real menu.

Personally I'd feel weird shooting onto my W's face unless we were role playing and she was begging for it or something. So the setting would have to be the turn on - the act - meh. Re anal - I "threaten" her with that in a playful why when she's pushing me back in a playful way - because there are 100 things I'd rather do and 1000000 things she'd rather do.

Re: guys sitting there.... years ago I went to a friend's cabin / house on a river. The women all stayed in and played a game and smoked while my friend and I fished at night. My w hated the smoking and games and kept begging me to join us fishing. So we let her. Afterword she was astonished -"you guys just sat there! You didn't even talk!". We didn't notice - we were just 2 guys enjoying each other and fishing on a boat. She assumed it was a cluck-fest. So don't assume sitting around isn't fun for a guy.

Finally - maybe watch porn with him -start with lighter porn and nothing too harsh or dirty (given how you've described H). Then ease into what you like and maybe SHOW him it turns you on by a little rubbing / moaning. I think the key with this guy is to avoid pressure and avoid being too forward. You'll need to bring him along so he feels like he's driving this. You're yelling "put it in" might be too aggressive for him


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People do lots of sexual things that their bodies were not [designed / evolved] for. People's bodies were "designed" for intercourse, probably on all fours. While that's fun, it turns out that people like variety so they invented new positions, use of hands, mouths, sex toys etc etc. Its not clear why a lot of people find receptive anal sex to be pleasurable but many do.

As will all sexual activities, people who don't like it shouldn't do it. People who do can enjoy without any damage as long as they are careful.

I really haven't heard any significant problems with anal sex if it is done carefully. I'm sure that in the case of force / rape there could be long term damage but that isn't what we are talking about.

I'm absolutely not saying you should try it if it doesn't sound appealing, just that its OK for people who do want it.

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My husband and I have always had pretty normal and tame sexual appetites and up until recently I wasn't bothered by it. Lately, however, our sex life just seems so stale and boring.

He's never asked to give me a facial, anal or cum shot, but I don't mind any of these things too much so I figured that would be a good way to spice things up, right? Wrong. He doesn't seem interested in any of them and I confess it's making my feel extremely unattractive and undesirable.

I always thought men liked to do these things and I'm a little paranoid that he DOES want to do these things, just not wit me. I mean, how many men DON'T want to give a money shot now and then? What is it about me that makes the idea of these things so unappealing?

After months of playfully telling him to stick it in my ass we had a few failed (but fun attempts) at anal. I don't detest it, but I need to be drunk for it to be enjoyable and successful. I'm not saying I need to be drunk to have sex with my husband. No. But when I'm all done up and we've had a night out I tend to be in the mood more and I think that's a fair assessment for most women.

I hope we're not experiencing that Madonna/***** complex in which the thought of cuming on my face turns him off, but on some twentysomething it's appealing because I'm his wife and she's of no importance. Maybe that's a stretch, I don't know... His response and lack of interest just doesn't seem normal. I don't think he's cheating, but I think he's just a man... And men want these things, don't they?

Do any of you NOT like to do these things? If so, why?
I personally am not into giving facials much prefer to finish inside, anal is something I really enjoy giving but I have friends who think it is gross and would never consider it. All just personal preference not a reflection on you.

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He's never asked to give me a facial, anal or cum shot, but I don't mind any of these things too much so I figured that would be a good way to spice things up, right? Wrong. He doesn't seem interested in any of them and I confess it's making my feel extremely unattractive and undesirable.

I always thought men liked to do these things and I'm a little paranoid that he DOES want to do these things, just not wit me. I mean, how many men DON'T want to give a money shot now and then? What is it about me that makes the idea of these things so unappealing?

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Do any of you NOT like to do these things? If so, why?
I have no interest in anal.

I wouldn't object to giving a facial if requested, but I'd rather finish in her mouth.

I've never understood the porn "money shots" in which a guy having sex with an attractive woman climaxes by handling the situation himself.

They have to show that the male had an orgasm and it's a lot more obvious if he does it on her face than in her mouth.
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Well, this had been a head scratching thread. Basically men are designed to cheat when they get bored, want anal sex, and can't wait for the chance to blast their SO in the face like a firehose at a 5 alarm fire

I see nothing intriguing about facials (whether me giving or in particular would just shut off the porn instead of watching).

Had anal sex before, rather stick with the V. I have no issues though with people who do enjoy

The rest of the thread I don't quite understand. The OP doesn't like the way her H spends his time with his father b/c it is not how she spends the time with her mother
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What in your life are you finding boring besides your sex life?

@EleGirl I'm going to go out on a limb and speculate that she would much rather eat an exciting and elegant rare-cooked filet, instead of the same fast food tofu sandwich day after day.



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@EleGirl I'm going to go out on a limb and speculate that she would much rather eat an exciting and elegant rare-cooked filet, instead of the same fast food tofu sandwich day after day.



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You can get a fast food tofu sandwich??? Where?? Sign me up!

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