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post #1 of 202 (permalink) Old 03-12-2017, 02:39 PM Thread Starter
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Do any men NOT enjoy facials, anal and cum shots?

My husband and I have always had pretty normal and tame sexual appetites and up until recently I wasn't bothered by it. Lately, however, our sex life just seems so stale and boring.

He's never asked to give me a facial, anal or cum shot, but I don't mind any of these things too much so I figured that would be a good way to spice things up, right? Wrong. He doesn't seem interested in any of them and I confess it's making my feel extremely unattractive and undesirable.

I always thought men liked to do these things and I'm a little paranoid that he DOES want to do these things, just not wit me. I mean, how many men DON'T want to give a money shot now and then? What is it about me that makes the idea of these things so unappealing?

After months of playfully telling him to stick it in my ass we had a few failed (but fun attempts) at anal. I don't detest it, but I need to be drunk for it to be enjoyable and successful. I'm not saying I need to be drunk to have sex with my husband. No. But when I'm all done up and we've had a night out I tend to be in the mood more and I think that's a fair assessment for most women.

I hope we're not experiencing that Madonna/***** complex in which the thought of cuming on my face turns him off, but on some twentysomething it's appealing because I'm his wife and she's of no importance. Maybe that's a stretch, I don't know... His response and lack of interest just doesn't seem normal. I don't think he's cheating, but I think he's just a man... And men want these things, don't they?

Do any of you NOT like to do these things? If so, why?
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Yes, some men do not like those things.
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As EleGirl said, there absolutely are men who have no interest in those things. My husband is one of them.

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You weren't specific, but I'd hate to be on the receiving end.
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You weren't specific, but I'd hate to be on the receiving end.
No, lol. As a male you're the giver, .
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As EleGirl said, there absolutely are men who have no interest in those things. My husband is one of them.

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Don't you worry he's lying to you? Like he doesn't want to tell you when he's secretly masturbating to the idea of doing it to someone? I guess I should have put this in the Men's Club... I'm more interested in their honest opinion. Not women who've been "told" one thing...
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None of those interest me. I had one or two gfs who liked facials occasionally, and one who liked anal. I'd do it for them, but it wasn't something I myself wanted.

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No, lol. As a male you're the giver, .
As a heterosexual male and a giver, I'm all in. I'd rather finish on her than in her.

Not all males qualify as givers. I guess gay guys take turns shooting off on each other, in a twisted sort of way that's probably fair. "Oh yeah? Take THAT!" Splat.
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Don't you worry he's lying to you? Like he doesn't want to tell you when he's secretly masturbating to the idea of doing it to someone? I guess I should have put this in the Men's Club... I'm more interested in their honest opinion. Not women who've been "told" one thing...
Women reply in the men's forum just like men reply in the women's forum. It does not matter where you post since many people use the "New Post" link and it just shows all the new posts.

I think your attitude towards women posting in this is pretty lousy since we also have valid experiences with men.

As bowser said, he would not want to be on the receiving end of this kind of thing. So some men realize that if they would not enjoy this, they can understand why their wife would not enjoy it.

The fact is that some men do not like this kind of "play". Some men consider it disrespectful.
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No, lol. As a male you're the giver, .
From a guy who tried all of the above I would never ask my gf to try a facial,I've done it with past gfs but not it's not something I want to do with someone special to me.As for anal,lube is your friend in this situation.
You say your sex life has become dull and boring so why don't YOU spice it up.A few toys,role play,grooming each other can work wonders.
My own personal favourite is the geisha girl role play but that's just me.
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Don't you worry he's lying to you? Like he doesn't want to tell you when he's secretly masturbating to the idea of doing it to someone? I guess I should have put this in the Men's Club... I'm more interested in their honest opinion. Not women who've been "told" one thing...
If I was that paranoid about what the man I was with thought, I would end the relationship.
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Some men enjoy those things and many women do not. A lot of guys learn about sex by watching porn where all sorts of things are done to paid actresses. As someone into BDSM for 52 years, ejaculating on a girls face is a sign of sexual dominance, a submissive act for the women if she is into being sexually submissive and also a form of marking your territory. This is common in the BDSM world but not something non submissive women like. If I tried that with our girlfriend I would have gotten my head handed to me. My wife would do it because she loves me and it would make me happy. No matter what the reason, it is a dominance/submissive act. Not unlike urinating on someone. The fact that two people like it does not examine the reason why they like it or think it is fun. Do girls look better with semen on their faces? I do not think so but maybe some do.

Anal is mainstream now. I was doing anal 40 years ago before porn stars did it. 14 year old girls are doing it today to preserve their virginity and/or prevent pregnancy. It is mentioned on TV and in the movies, indirectly most times. It has entered mainstream society. I guess I am more interested in how I get to my orgasm and not what I do with it which is mostly what BDSM is all about. Most never explore why they enjoy sexual things or are aroused by it. The things mentioned in the OP are often signs of male dominance. Anal sex can be done out of love if both enjoy it. It can also be done as a sign of dominance much like it is in prison. When the two sex acts are mentioned together I just think of porn where a man shows his dominance over some submissive woman (paid to do it, I should add).

In my fetish life the things being talked about are common ways to dominate or humiliate a woman. They are not things I would do if I was just making love. My wife is/was sexually submissive so she did more than the average wive. However, I know it is a D/s thing and not a regular part of sex as portrayed in porn. It is bad enough when I reads young guys posting about the unsatisfying sex they have with girls when what they are expecting is what girls are paid to do, not real life. Once again, if the girl is submissive and indicates that it is OK, then go for it even if it makes you feel like a porn star for a few minutes. No harm done but it is not something I would just do the first time I had sex with a woman without her permission.

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From a guy who tried all of the above I would never ask my gf to try a facial,I've done it with past gfs but not it's not something I want to do with someone special to me.
You make it sound like it's a negative thing and that she won't enjoy it. Lots of girls do, especially if it's enjoyable to the man she loves and cares about. Some girls I've known are really into anal, I could take it or leave it, and others almost beg for the money shot as if it's something they earned for good achievement.
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Women reply in the men's forum just like men reply in the women's forum. It does not matter where you post since many people use the "New Post" link and it just shows all the new posts.

I think your attitude towards women posting in this is pretty lousy since we also have valid experiences with men.

As bowser said, he would not want to be on the receiving end of this kind of thing. So some men realize that if they would not enjoy this, they can understand why their wife would not enjoy it.

The fact is that some men do not like this kind of "play". Some men consider it disrespectful.
True, all opinions are welcome, I gues I just feel like he's LYING to me. Like he actually does want those things and is too shy, proud, etc. to actually admit it?
I understand some consider it disrpectful to people importance. Wives. That's what has me paranoid. He does want to do these things, just not to me.
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You make it sound like it's a negative thing and that she won't enjoy it. Lots of girls do, especially if it's enjoyable to the man she loves and cares about. Some girls I've known are really into anal, I could take it or leave it, and others almost beg for the money shot as if it's something they earned for good achievement.
If your so doesn't mind facials then try this.It is a bit rude.
If you are taking her from behind just as you are about to shoot pull out and spit on her back,when she turns around give it to her in the face.
Then run.
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