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post #16 of 55 (permalink) Old 03-13-2017, 11:59 PM
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Re: Do some men really not like this?

My wife doesn't like cunnilingus. Does that make her a lesbian? Do you know women who don't like to be licked?

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Re: Do some men really not like this?

Some men like it while some others don't

Have you asked him why he doesn't like it?
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I love BJ's only as a precursory warmup to the "real deal!"

Let's just say that whenever I'm going to explode, I greatly prefer to be contained vaginally!

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My wife doesn't like cunnilingus. Does that make her a lesbian? Do you know women who don't like to be licked?

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I am one of the rare males that does not like receiving oral. The reason is having a very forgettable summer with an older brother. I will leave it at that
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My husband doesnt like it either, he says he just prefers sex instead.

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Re: Do some men really not like this?

Everybody has their hang up of what they like and don't like. Some might be fuelled by genuine dislike and some might be fuelled by a traumatic experience or by how they were raised. If your husband doesn't want them, then don't give them. It's just that simple. If you think he might like them but something is preventing him from saying so, just let him know with no pressure that you really enjoy giving them and would be happy to do it anytime he wants, but leave it at that. You can only make yourself sexually available to your husband,you can't force him to want or like what you are offering.

Has your husband come right out and said to you I hate bj's? The reason I asked is because my husband likes them, but would never asks me for one as he feels it is not proper to ask your wife to do that. Even though he knows I love doing it, he still has a hard time asking. I think it's a how he was raised issue with him.
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I dont know. I haven't seen hide nor hair from the OW
Wait, what?

Looking back at your other threads, it seems that your H is carrying on an EA (if not a PA) with another woman, and you're wondering if he's gay? How did you make that leap?

You've gotten pretty consistent advice to simply divorce him. Are you looking for more reasons to do so before you're ready to make that decision?
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blow jobs. Yes My husband does not like them and has never cared for them. I don't know how many other men are like this and why? Maybe closet homosexuals?
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Yes...... Damn good
It has nothing to do with sexual orientation. It is just a preference.

I would say that there is a bigger issue in your marriage based on the above than your H not wanting you to give him a BJ, that you feel you are danm good at giving.

A BJ has a low probability of transmitting STI's & STD's. Low is not zero and safe sex should always be practiced in a non-monogamous relationship. If there was another woman, then you are very wise in being tested.

As to wanting to give him BJ's when he doesn't want them, that may be you trying to control your man. He may know that, and if you really are "damn good" at it, he may not want you to control him.

My suggestion is that you either need to really talk about your relationship and where each of you feel it is headed and the level of commitment you want with each other OR you need some professional help on working out the issues in your marriage.. Not easy, but good luck to you.
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Re: Do some men really not like this?

People sure seem to go from the idea that a guy either has to love getting a Blow Job or hate it for some reason.`

As I said, I don't like getting a Blow Job. But it's just boring. A waste of time. Should I watch porn while I get a Blow Job? What is there to turn me on? Nothing. 69? That's almost useful. I find I'm busy and can't pay attention to what I'm receiving. I pay attention to what I'm doing.

It's just not exciting. Why do people need to think a guy must hate it to not want it?
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blow jobs. Yes My husband does not like them and has never cared for them. I don't know how many other men are like this and why? Maybe closet homosexuals?
Sorry, what's the connection between not liking bjs and being a cupboard homosexual?

Different people like different things.

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I have male genitalia and I do not enjoy oral to completion. It feels selfish and one sided to me. Only had one a few times and did not enjoy it.

Ironically, I love to give a woman hand jobs and oral. I just don't like getting them. I know I am weird. But your H is not the only male who feels that way.
Handjob to a woman...What kind of woman requires a handjob?
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I don't know and have never met a man that doesn't like it.

I love it but for a while didn't want it much from Mrs. C. Because she was bad at it.

She is now getting pretty good and can take over half my length.

A good BJ is heavenly. Your H needs to loosen up.

Is he more passive or dominant?
I remember my second gf....She would place her teeth sideways on it, and then move them up and down.
Needless to say, I was not delighted but still wasn't put off BJs.
I think I may still have her teethmarks on my ****.
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Re: Do some men really not like this?

Some people just aren't built to receive things (BJ's, gifts, compliments, you name it).

Look, apart from the relative minority of men who do not like receiving BJ's because they're boring, or they simply don't do much for them, there are many men (and women) out there who view standalone oral sex as imbalanced, and otherwise feel there's a 'catch' to it. This, I believe, is the main reason many people don't enjoy giving OR receiving oral sex, or other standalone sexual favours.

Not many people like the feeling of owing somebody something, or even being owed something. I don't. I don't view sex or sex acts as tit-for-tat, mind you, but many people DO.

Some people are givers, some are receivers. Some are both, some are neither.

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I remember my second gf....She would place her teeth sideways on it, and then move them up and down.
Needless to say, I was not delighted but still wasn't put off BJs.
I think I may still have her teethmarks on my ****.
Ugh...
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