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post #31 of 55 (permalink) Old 03-17-2017, 09:48 AM
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Not my preferred method. Tons of other ways to get it to work that it's good to enjoy every once in a while as part of a journey.

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Haven't had one in a long time, and mainly with an ex, but when I was getting them somewhat regularly, never finished to completion. I'd fondle her while she was doing the deed, then when I was almost there, we'd finish with PIV.
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How can you say you are damn good at it ? Have you received any compliments ?


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blow jobs. Yes My husband does not like them and has never cared for them. I don't know how many other men are like this and why? Maybe closet homosexuals?

I love BJ's but your hubby doesn't?


At first Mrs.CuddleBug was horrible at oral sex. Felt like a bag of rocks and I was raw afterwards. I never complained and told her the BJ's are bad.


That could be why he doesn't like BJ's.


Now over time, I told Mrs.CuddleBug what I liked she got better and better, to the point her BJ's are amazing now, but it did take a long time.


Is your hubby gay because he doesn't like BJ's? You'd have to snoop and see if he views porn and what sites he visits.


Mrs.CuddleBug doesn't want me giving her oral because she is insecure about her size. Is she secretly bi sexual and into the ladies? I'd have to snoop but I doubt it.


Oral sex just may not be his thing. Try something else, like oiled breast and foot jobs. Even anal. Toys.


Some ladies like anal sex but their men are flat out against it and its not for them.

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This guy loves them. I love when my wife gives me one before we get out of bed in the mornings. It makes my work day much happier.
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blow jobs. Yes My husband does not like them and has never cared for them. I don't know how many other men are like this and why? Maybe closet homosexuals?
highly doubt he is gay. My wife doesn't like when i give her oral, it's not me it's her because of past experience i know what i am doing and more importantly i am open to guidance as every girl is different.

My take on the blow job is this: it's a novelty, it's fun, it feels different, it's like the 2nd doggy style position (i say this because it has that different feeling just like flipping the girl over feels like a whole new ball game at times), however the problems with the blow job are: guilt for making your girl do this, she isn't getting any pleasure out of it.
90% of my pleasure comes from knowing i am pleasing the girl, some men are different perhaps and want to only receive pleasure.

My question would be: is he very eager to please you always? if that is the case he might just feel guilty about the blow job.

other aspects are: well it might be too sensitive physically stimulating to him, he might get overwhelmed by it, just like if you pull back your hood and directly stimulate the clit it can be overly stimulating at times.

Other possible issues: he is insecure about the taste or smell of his penis, it's possible, some women are that way with their vaginas.

I would say if he is more eager to please you it could be the issue here that he doesn't want you to please him.

it could also just be the sensation, men like sex because well it's sex, and the blow job is not as intimate.

When i was 16, blow jobs were common as water, and sex was the holly grail. So, as i got older, blow jobs became more like a childish activity. Then sex became like water as i got married so now i like blow jobs.


If you suspect he is gay however, there must be a lot of other issues? Gay men probably give bjs more than other forms of sex is my bet but i haven't got a clue what they do, so being gay simply doesn't mean you'd not like a bj lol
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For me, oral sex was always the appetizer before the main course, or many times, the only course. A lot of women either do not get, or have trouble getting, orgasms by intercourse. It is usually much easier to bring women to an orgasm by oral sex.
Okay, I may not be the most experienced, but I am not seeing how a woman could become aroused to that extent from oral sex. I didn't think the mouth was that much of an erogenous zone...?
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Okay, I may not be the most experienced, but I am not seeing how a woman could become aroused to that extent from oral sex. I didn't think the mouth was that much of an erogenous zone...?
I don't think he was talking a woman getting oral sex causes her to orgasm.

He was not talking about a woman having orgasms from giving oral sex to a man.

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I don't think he was talking a woman getting oral sex causes her to orgasm.

He was not talking about a woman having orgasms from giving oral sex to a man.
Hmm. In a way that makes more sense. That never really crossed my mind, heh. The genital area definitely IS an erogenous zone.
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Hmm. In a way that makes more sense. That never really crossed my mind, heh. The genital area definitely IS an erogenous zone.
It crossed you mind that when a woman receives oral that she will most likely be able to orgasm?

Most women cannot orgasm via PIV. They need what we call foreplay to orgasm. Oral sex given to a woman is one of the best ways to bring her to an orgasm.

I'm curious as to why you don't know this.

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It crossed you mind that when a woman receives oral that she will most likely be able to orgasm?

Most women cannot orgasm via PIV. They need what we call foreplay to orgasm. Oral sex given to a woman is one of the best ways to bring her to an orgasm.

I'm curious as to why you don't know this.
I have experienced neither female orgasm nor oral sex.

I have had some idea of the existence of female-on-male oral sex since middle school. Male-on-female oral sex, however, is a concept that pornography has recently introduced into my "field of vision", you might say. So it's not something that just pops into my head when "oral sex" is mentioned.

I would be surprised if my wife were aware of any of this.
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Information about sex is not nearly as widely distributed as many might think. There was another male poster here who said that it was only recently he realized that women could have orgasms.




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It crossed you mind that when a woman receives oral that she will most likely be able to orgasm?

Most women cannot orgasm via PIV. They need what we call foreplay to orgasm. Oral sex given to a woman is one of the best ways to bring her to an orgasm.

I'm curious as to why you don't know this.
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Information about sex is not nearly as widely distributed as many might think. There was another male poster here who said that it was only recently he realized that women could have orgasms.
I am half-convinced it is purely a put-on by pornographic actresses to show off their acting abilities.
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I am half-convinced (that women having orgasms) is purely a put-on by pornographic actresses to show off their acting abilities.

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