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My wife wanted to use the rhythm method, being from a Christian background. She got pregnant in 5 months.

Then she wanted to use an IUD. That hurt. Both of us. They did not mention the string attached to the IUD. And she bled more. The IUD is just bad.

She switched to the pill within two months. Stayed on that from 1975 'till 1981. She stopped, and we used condoms for 6 months before she got pregnant by choice. Then we had another baby right after that.

She was sterilized after the third baby. That works well for contraception.

The children were all born healthy. And, as she says, all of them are smart asses.
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What happens if you just time and take precautions during your cycle without using anything? Would that be too risky?
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My wife took the Pill for years with no problems, now that we are done having kids she is using a Mirena IUD (2nd one now) with no problems.
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I would absolutely start on the pill now.

Then after you are no longer a virgin, I would switch to an IUD so you don't have to deal with any "user error" when you forget your pill.

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I would go with the pill at the start. After a few years just switch to condoms since we all know marriage leads to a lot less sex
Not for them, they are waiting for marriage till they have sex.
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The rhythm method supposedly works. My wife got pregnant in April of 1974. So that was only 5 months after we started having sex. I can't say that was any better than just luck. But having studied the issue, it is true the method should work.

However, my wife was not careful. I discovered she never actually timed her period at all. She just guessed. She didn't care at all if she got pregnant or not.

There are lots of books on the rhythm method of birth control. How to judge your fertile days is the important part. You can actually discover a lot of useful information in books about how to get pregnant, and apply it in reverse, by avoiding unprotected sex the days when you are most likely to conceive, and a few days before and after.

The most important thing to know, as with any birth control method, is you can get pregnant. If you can live with that, it can be fun. I was a bit miffed at my wife when I discovered she had been just making up her information on her periods, but I love my son. He is a great man, and I am very proud of him.
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Not for them, they are waiting for marriage till they have sex.
Lol, I guess that is one way to look at it. As long as they compare their sex frequency post marriage to pre marriage they should always be ahead of the game
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Go on the pill 3 months before wedding so your body can adjust to the hormones. Make sure you get into the habit of taking them or it will be ineffective.

Please reconsider giving up your profession when you have kids. This is something that both of you have to decide on, after looking at the many different angles. This is your prime earning period and being a SAHM is not for everone. Make sure you payoff all your loans first before you even think of this.
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Lol, I guess that is one way to look at it. As long as they compare their sex frequency post marriage to pre marriage they should always be ahead of the game
Yep, unless she's marrying someone like John Ruskin.
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I used Natural Family Planning during my entire 10 year marriage and we only ever conceived when we actively tried (sidenote- not counting our first of three. That was when we were very young -20- and irresponsible). NFP works incredibly well if you have a regular, predictable cycle and are organized and responsible enough to follow all protocol.

I had my third child two years ago and have been on Lo Loestrin Fe (pill) ever since. I have an alarm that goes off at the same time every night and I have never missed a pill. Hormonal birth control pills work very well when they are taken as prescribed. User error accounts for the very vast majority of accidental pregnancies. Missing pills, not taking them at the same time each day, taking other medication without looking into a reduced effectiveness, etc.
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Go on the pill 3 months before wedding so your body can adjust to the hormones. Make sure you get into the habit of taking them or it will be ineffective.

Please reconsider giving up your profession when you have kids. This is something that both of you have to decide on, after looking at the many different angles. This is your prime earning period and being a SAHM is not for everone. Make sure you payoff all your loans first before you even think of this.
Well I'll definitely be heading to the doctor sooner than later then. Lucky, I made this thread or I would have went to the doctor about a week before the wedding lol

As for my profession, I will work until we decide to have children. Once children come we both agreed that I will leave my work and dedicate my whole time raising them. We are already financially stable and everything is already paid off. I will be working for experience rather than just for money. However, in the future if I ever have children once they are old enough I'll probably start work again or even start my own business.

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Lol, I guess that is one way to look at it. As long as they compare their sex frequency post marriage to pre marriage they should always be ahead of the game
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Yep, unless she's marrying someone like John Ruskin.

I don't understand :/

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I don't understand :/
You're not the only one. I don't get the reference, either.

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I don't understand :/


You will.
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You will.
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