Actually, he is the one that wants children more than me and doesn't care if it happens at the very beginning. I am the one that wants to delay children but not sure what to do since he is worried about the affects of contraception. Hope this makes sense now.
If HE is the one worried and he indeed wan you to be as healthy as you can be, then a barrier method is preferable. If you think he may object to condoms AND you are just trying to delay children for a while, then you could try a diaphragm. Combining a diaphragm with the timing method should be sufficient, and you can ask him to wear a condom during your fertile days or at moments when the diaphragm may prove awkward.
While many men complain about condoms, many aspects about them can be rather erotic as well if you can each view them from a playful perspective. You can playfully brag to him how much better it will be without them and ask him to use his imagination as a way to tease him. 80% of sex happens in the mind, and the more you can stimulate his mind during sex, the better it can be for him!
My wife had some medical complications that lead to the decision that I did not want her taking hormonal BC anymore and I agreed that I would take responsibility for contraception. Her OBGYN freaked out about this by the way, claiming that it would be a bad idea because men do not like options that are available to us (condom, vasectomy, or withdrawal). So I went back to condoms for a brief period and I tried to make the most of it by reliving all my teenage moments together with my wife.
Of all the different ones we tried, lambskin condoms felt the best for the BOTH of us in that I could hardly feel them and they felt very natural to her as well. They are however a bit expensive at about $3.00 to $4.00 a condom compared to others that only cost about $0.20 each. Another awkward thing about lambskin condoms is that they do NOT do well if you try to place them on for any significant time prior to penetration as they dry out and the texture becomes rather leathery in a crinkly kind of way. So you can not let them dry out. For this reason they should not be used during any forms of foreplay.
Some men may enjoy condoms for what is known as a "posh wank" in that they do not have to worry about making a mess AND they can allow themselves to get accustomed to how it feels to wear a condom. You should recommend that your husband try this if he experiences problems with them, but cheap latex condoms are best suited for this as lambskin ones will dry out.
By the way DO make it a point to be very open and discuss your views about masturbation with your partner. Hopefully you are both open to it and can enjoy the aspect of how desire sometimes needs a little distance from one another to thrive. If this is the case, you could buy him a box of condoms now, and ask him to begin experimenting with them on his own solo while he thinks about you. THIS type of thing will go a long way towards helping him feel confident and comfortable with them when it is time to become active together. Otherwise they actually can be awkward and stressful, which will kill the mood. Start with latex ones and the graduate to lambskin for a special occasion. Then before you know it you may not even need them again!
Best thing about this is if for any reason you need to resume non hormonal birth control after being married for 10 years or more, you will have some fun memories to replay together with condoms that can serve to even help add a little spice to your lovemaking.