Re: Don't want sex when he's been drinking
I'm glad to hear that I am not the only person out there that feels the same way. Before I met my husband he got into trouble with the booze. His father was an alcoholic, his brothers are alcoholics and drug addicts. Mainly pot. He was honest with me when we started dated. Told me he would never go back to that way of life. I told him I wasn't going to live with a drunk. We have been married for 14 years and he started drinking about 3 to 4 years ago behind my back. I don't drink so it was easy for him. I guess I should have figured it out because one day he said to me he could handle the drinking. One night he came home drunk. I was so angry. I asked him why he started drinking again? He had nothing to say. I told him he isn't bring booze into the house, that I'm not going to bail him out of jail and I'm not having sex with him when he has been drinking. He told me, but you already have. Like I said I don't drink. I know what beer smells like and I can't stand it, but as for other drinks go had no clue. I work 70 hours a week to pay the bills. He might work 20. He owns a business and has employees, so he is free to what ever he wants. His income pays for his bar tabs and his hobby. We use to have sex 3 to 4 times a week. Now I'm lucky to see one time a week. Which is sad because I want sex more (even with working all those hours), but I guess drinking and getting drunk is more important. He tells me when I complain (which is often) to go use my toys. It's not the same. I know he won't stop drinking unless something bad happens like another DUI or an accident. I will never be a priority in his life even though he tells me I am. If I was, he would have stopped drinking when I asked him to. I have asked him to get help, but he won't. His friends don't help any either. We have had some pretty bad fights over the drinking. He has broken things, but the booze still is top priority. I know if I tell him I don't want to live with an alcoholic he'll just tell me to pack his stuff and he will leave. I just need to get there first.