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post #61 of 65 (permalink) Old 03-17-2017, 04:54 PM
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teamwork.
If there is ONE THING in my marriage that makes me feel loved, it is knowing that my wife and I always feel like we are on the same team. Even when we argue about things, we do so understanding we are a couple. She gives me a sense that in everything I do that I am never alone, as I always think of "us" in every decision I make and I know she does the same for me!

@Becka from a husband that appreciates this aspect of marriage, you are 100% correct in my opinion. Just make sure he makes you feel the same, and if not emphasize the importance that the two of you always need to work together on things. If he needs help to unwind, perhaps teamwork means going shopping together for a set of reclining sofas for your family room!



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When I've bought it up before, he'll just say non- committal things like 'I know', usually with a sigh or suggest I have a drink with him.


Ok so you need to be more direct and have a serious conversation with him. Honey I hate having sex with you when you drink. I love you and want to have sex with you more, like 3x a week would be perfect for me. But your drinking is such a turn off for me and it seems you are drinking every night which is not good for our sex life. Can you not drink everyday for me? If you need help unwinding I have some better ideas than beer
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Men aren't mind readers. Be direct and blunt and tell him what you want.
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Men aren't mind readers. Be direct and blunt and tell him what you want.
In addition to being horrible mind readers, we are also horrible listeners! If you want to be direct and blunt only ever keep ONE or TWO beers in the fridge for him. Leave the rest out somewhere nice, warm and hard to get to!

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Honey, Where is the rest of the beer?
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Up in the attic, in the crawl space behind the hot water heater.
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How did they get there?
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You must have drank too many and gotten lost with them or something!
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Dang! You mind going to get them for me?
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Sure, just go into the bedroom and get naked!
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OK, but why do I gotta get naked?
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We are going to have sex to help pass the time while your beer needs to cool down in the freezer!
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Double Dang, you are AWESOME honey!
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You said that if you need a drink or two a day to unwind and relax you're an alcoholic. That's ridiculous.

I wasn't talking about this guy - this guy obviously has problems that reach far beyond having a few beers.
I said if you need alcohol to relax, you have a problem. Doesn't matter if it's 2 drinks or 5. Everybody's tolerance is different.

Why so defensive? It's because it's me, isn't it?

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