Re: Don't want sex when he's been drinking
Thank you for your comments so far.
I do find I can still smell the alcohol quite strongly even when he does brush his teeth and use mouthwash. I guess in addition to the smell I find repulsive, the effects of him having a drink is that he's less coordinated and he is just... different when we are intimate.
My grandfather was an alcoholic, he died when I was 12. I had no idea until I was well into adulthood that he was though. There's no family history of alcoholism on his side and that isn't a worry to be honest. He works shifts so is off for 3, on for 3. It's his 3 days off work when he drinks but it's not like he's constantly drinking.
Not sure how to quite correctly but the poster who said he should want to give it up if it bothers me- I agree and I suppose that's why it irks me so much. I think we have a good marriage and it upsets me that he's not willing to sacrifice his couple of beers on my work nights when he knows sex is important to me. In his mind, Im wondering if he thinks I'm the one with the problem and I should just 'get over it'.
Someone else asked if there's stress and yes, his work is very stressful. I understand drinking to relax and if it wasn't for how it affects our intimacy, I would be fine with it.