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post #61 of 71 (permalink) Old 04-03-2017, 08:48 AM
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Re: wife reveals truth after 17 years....

OP, detach a little so you can be stronger. Get yourself in a place where you now you will survive. You say in your other posts that she has lied about little stuff before. Maybe you should try some marriage counseling.
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Well I think he's reacting to the fact that she's lying sack.

She's also cruel and manipulative.

Why come out and blurt this out and tell him this, after all this time, for any other reason other than to be a mean-ass witch? Why? What is her agenda? Or is she really just a thoughtless, vacuous moron?
Vacuous moron.

Good choice of words............... Buster!

In some people and in our brain chemistry there are forces [mental prods, mental pitch forks] that impel us to blurt out the most inappropriate babble.

Unconscious thoughts that burst out of the brains gray-peat-bog and jab another fellow traveler, within earshot.

Tourettes Syndrome light. Petite Mal-practice.
I know. And I agree with you, SunCMars.

But at the same time, I would be a total liar and hypocrite myself if I refuse to admit that this sentiment resonates with a part of me.
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So my wife pulled my aside the other day and confessed that she made it up, not so much a lie but more of an embellishment (what ever that means). She said that she had no idea that I would take it the way I did, that she feels that her life before me was boring and trite, and she just wanted to make herself seem sexier and thought I would 'like' the story. I know that she has been really trying to work on herself and feels a certain sense of inadequacy about getting older. Above all, she said she was sorry.

I told her, laughing, that I didn't know what to believe but that it didn't matter and either way doesn't change anything between us. I adore her and always will.

Met with my new T. And of course, wife wants to know everything that T and I discussed.
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So my wife pulled my aside the other day and confessed that she made it up, not so much a lie but more of an embellishment (what ever that means). She said that she had no idea that I would take it the way I did, that she feels that her life before me was boring and trite, and she just wanted to make herself seem sexier and thought I would 'like' the story. I know that she has been really trying to work on herself and feels a certain sense of inadequacy about getting older. Above all, she said she was sorry.

I told her, laughing, that I didn't know what to believe but that it didn't matter and either way doesn't change anything between us. I adore her and always will.

Met with my new T. And of course, wife wants to know everything that T and I discussed.
I hope your wife gets some IC. She is basically all over the place. As you said lying seems to be a way of life for her.
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Met with my new T. And of course, wife wants to know everything that T and I discussed.
Big red flag. Don't tell her a thing what goes on in your therapy sessions.
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Wow... Who cares! She wasn't with you. Enjoy your marriage with your wife man.

She shouldn't care about your past either.

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So my wife pulled my aside the other day and confessed that she made it up, not so much a lie but more of an embellishment (what ever that means). She said that she had no idea that I would take it the way I did, that she feels that her life before me was boring and trite, and she just wanted to make herself seem sexier and thought I would 'like' the story. I know that she has been really trying to work on herself and feels a certain sense of inadequacy about getting older. Above all, she said she was sorry.

I told her, laughing, that I didn't know what to believe but that it didn't matter and either way doesn't change anything between us. I adore her and always will.

Met with my new T. And of course, wife wants to know everything that T and I discussed.
This sounds extremely sketchy to me, as if she's trying to backpedal her story to smooth things over.
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This sounds extremely sketchy to me, as if she's trying to backpedal her story to smooth things over.


Who knows now. I think that sucks


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Re: wife reveals truth after 17 years....

My wife is a chronic liar. What was the word the shrink used? Compulsive liar.

They decided it was something she learned to do as a child in order to get through life. She told a story about how she told the truth one time and got her mouth washed out with soap in a very brutal way for lying. That seems to have actually happened.

But the past is the past, I know I love my wife. I am sure she loves me. We have a lot of checks and balances in place to try to keep her from lying, and we stumble along.
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Lol!!
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