It would be interesting to hear some theories on what drives this interest in men, particularly when it's a very strong interest that they feel compelled to act on. When you think about the act, what aspect of it is the turn on?
I enjoy aspects of tantric tease and denial and discovered this while reading the forums about karezza at https://www.reuniting.info/
which is a very monogamous site that discusses using orgasm denial as a means to explore sex for the purpose of emotionally bonding with one another. So in my efforts to research and learn more, the topic orgasm denial is all too often associated with chastity play and then you guessed it, cuckolding. When first researching this, I was always like "WTF why can't couples just enjoy some form of orgasm denial without all this humiliation crap and swinging lifestyle." Anyway, I am now somewhat fairly well read on this topic out of morbid curiosity and I do find some wive's aptitude towards the psychology of knowing how to tease their husbands to be somewhat fascinating. But in all my reading about cuckolding, here are a few of my theories: THEORY 1
Most men grow up watching porn and essentially the experience of watching a desirable woman have sex with multiple partners becomes too rewarding. Men that watch porn compulsively likely know that these female objects of their desire will never love them back and are inaccessible in real life. Some men that get into cuckolding seem to be obsessed with an opportunity to have their wife emulate the porn they watched growing up by taking photos/videos or her sleeping with another man and then use that for erotic stimulation knowing that for the first time that the porn they are watching actually loves them back and did this just for them. THEORY 2
In a great deal of cuckolding porn and websites there seems to be some form of suppressed male homosexuality (perhaps bisexuality) that these men fear for whatever reason. Meanwhile they are able to attract and have sex with other men via proxy by using their wives. My theory is that this type of man is aroused by observing and trying to experience another man's arousal. If his wife is in charge of this, it allows him to have very close participation with the other male which usually will culminate in a threesome for which the wife will encourage the other male to have direct sexual contact with her husband in ways that humiliate him pleasurably for his fear of homosexuality. THEORY 3
Some men grow up feeling inadequate to please their wives and are engrained that all other men are bigger, stronger, and better then them. This type of man's biggest fear is that his wife will leave him for another man. For whatever reason he feels that her fidelity to him is an unfair punishment due to his inadequacy and he feels that she deserves to have a satisfying sex life. So this type of male is excited about being very in control of finding another man for his wife to entertain herself with sexually as it allows him to confront his fears of abandonment and experience his wife coming back to him after the experience is over. For this male it is all about the euphoria each time she returns to him because this is what he needs to feel loved and know that she will not leave him.
One blog that I have enjoyed reading because I find the nature of how his wife teases him to be rather fascinating, and combined with the fact that he has blogged continuously about it now for over a decade but yet I can never guess what will happen next. It is like watching a movie where you know the main character is doomed and will be destroyed by all his villains, but somehow manages to barely survive, just like Batman when he is tied up and suspended over a tank of acid. I'll revisit that blog every once in a great while knowing that it should have ended by now, but somehow the guy has managed to survive to live another day in his marriage. I am always like WTF, and HOW is his wife managing to keep putting up with him AND encourage this???? OMG she did what to him last time!!!! Holy crap Batman! She is now in the process of slowly turning her husband back into her alpha male from beta, emphasis on SLOWLY and humiliating him by not allowing him to progress as fast as he wants at this! She lets him take one step forwards and she pushes him two steps back. She seems motivated by empowering her husband to become her sole and only lover, but she knows she has to tease him back into this role in order for it to work so she can quit the "lifestyle" and have a normal marriage as they get too old for anymore nonsense.