Originally Posted by soccermom2three View Post
Is it really a genuine fantasy? For a few maybe but my opinion is the rise of this new fetish it's just an escalation from a porn addiction. A few years ago an old TAM member made the case for this and I wish I could remember his name or saved his post. Basically a porn addict needs more and more dopamine as the porn gets more boring and mundane to the point where the wants to watch sex in person instead of on a computer screen. I don't think he necessarily wants to see his wife have sex with another man, he just wants to see live sex. His addiction has taken over common sense.
The theory is correct, but I think pretty much every fantasy/fetish/whatever has been around since the dawn of time. Possibly even more so back when sex was far less talked about and more taboo than it is now.
I can tell you, as an extremely casual porn watching male (like once or twice a month), and one who's been around since before the internet, I have fantasies, and they have nothing to do with 'wanting more' than porn.
I have NO desire to see my wife with anybody else, however the thought of watching live sex has always been there. As has being watched by a third party. But for me, it's never been in an amoral way (ie. getting "caught" - quotation marks intended, or sneaking around in the bushes being a perv). I have zero interest in subjecting an unwilling person to something they don't want to see, and I also respect people's privacy, duh. But it's just fantasy, in the end. I don't (think) I have a wife who'd be interested in either of those, so it's a moot point. It's also not even close to being an obsession of mine, just simply something that's in the back of my mind, and almost always has. It'll never get acted upon by me. If my wife were to bring it up, however, I'd be all over it...
The closest I ever came was when I was living in a college residence (not a dorm, so it was co-ed), just rental units for students. Was an old motel, cinder block walls, so you could hear pretty much anything next door. One neighbour was a single woman. Enough said. I wasn't single at the time, so it was initially awkward, being able to hear... everything, but the reality was the only way I could avoid it would be to leave the apt. or crank my music. Not something I particularly wanted to do at 11pm on a school night. So I "suffered" through it
She was... prolific, and mostly on her own. For a 19 year old horny male, that made for a perfect next-door neighbour!