Re: Wife thinks about other men during sex
If she used to come from you being in her; and post affair she only comes if you use an extender----I think you can connect the dots.
But I'll go ahead and say it, in case you can't: He was bigger than you, it felt better, and now that's what she prefers to get off.
You didn't seem to have any confession from her that she's thinking about anyone else. If the physical stimulation is strong enough; you don't need to think about anything: you simply feel good.
If she is thinking about someone else; it's to put an emotional barrier between you and her. She doesn't feel close to you.
Still want to take her back and "reconcile"?