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post #61 of 80 (permalink) Old 04-02-2017, 09:29 PM
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Sex and intimacy makes all of life's other problems seem less important and easier to deal with together.
Y'all need to learn how to compartmentalize a bit better..

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In my marriage it would have given me the extra snap to my step to enable me to meet her requirements. My ex was pretty demanding (ironic given that she expected me to be easy-to-please). The way I work is that I really am happy to go the extra mile for someone, at least occasionally. But consistently stepping up and going "beyond the call of duty" takes energy; if a lady expects this of me, then she needs to be ready to give back.

In my case, she didn't, so I stopped caring so much, and it was downhill from there. Her matching my effort by providing sexually would have prevented that cycle.
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I am gearing this question toward the men:

If you were initimate with your wife/gf, (be it actual sex, hand-jobs, blow-jobs, anal, anything that you consider sexual intimacy,)
every day or every other day, how would that impact your life? Or would it??
How might that type of frequency affect how you feel as a man?
Would you value her in a different way?

This is assuming the quality was average-high. I am not talking about if she was reluctant...Only willing and enthusiastic! : )

Think about how that would impact you...

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Lol, you watch too much porn. A lot of what you are talking about are not things that occur outside of porn sites or letters to Hustler.
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Re: What would being intimate often do for you?

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Vaginal, oral, and manual sex happen often. Some women like anal, although I don't like anal myself

I assure you all of it was going on without videos and magazines. I participated in it before I saw videos or read stories about such things. Just because you aren't adventurous doesn't mean other people aren't.
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Vaginal, oral, and manual sex happen often. Some women like anal, although I don't like anal myself

I assure you all of it was going on without videos and magazines. I participated in it before I saw videos or read stories about such things. Just because you aren't adventurous doesn't mean other people aren't.
Yeah there are gross people out there. I am aware.
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Yeah there are gross people out there. I am aware.
Judge much?

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It's not hard to judge people who do objectively disgusting things because they aren't disciplined enough to control animalistic urges. I mean, come on. Some of this stuff is just way beyond the pale of acceptable sexual behavior.
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It's not hard to judge people who do objectively disgusting things because they aren't disciplined enough to control animalistic urges. I mean, come on. Some of this stuff is just way beyond the pale of acceptable sexual behavior.
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Here's the problem with that: everybody is judging everybody else, all the time. I know I am being judged. It's why I have a thing called discretion. If there is something I am doing to be ashamed about, I don't broadcast it all over the planet, unlike some.
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Here's the problem with that: everybody is judging everybody else, all the time. I know I am being judged. It's why I have a thing called discretion. If there is something I am doing to be ashamed about, I don't broadcast it all over the planet, unlike some.
If they're broadcasting it, then they're not ashamed of it.

But you seem to think they should be ashamed. Because they're "gross" people.

Most of those "gross" people wouldn't try to shame you or judge you for being vanilla in your sexual interests.

Yes, some people judge. But there are also a lot of people who say live and let live, because as long as you're not hurting anyone, they honestly don't give a **** what you do or don't do.

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If they're broadcasting it, then they're not ashamed of it.

But you seem to think they should be ashamed. Because they're "gross" people.

Most of those "gross" people wouldn't try to shame you or judge you for being vanilla in your sexual interests.

Yes, some people judge. But there are also a lot of people who say live and let live, because as long as you're not hurting anyone, they honestly don't give a **** what you do or don't do.

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Everybody judges. The ones who claim not to? They judge AND lie.

Judging is a necessary part of human society. We have a set of conventions we are expected to follow. These people are violating conventions that are designed to protect them. The things they do are gross, yes, but as people I would describe them not as "gross" but as pitiable slaves to their own animal lusts. They are trapped in a world of degradation and dehumanization and it saddens me.
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(1)...If you were initimate with your wife/gf, (be it actual sex, hand-jobs, blow-jobs, anal, anything that you consider sexual intimacy,) every day or every other day, how would that impact your life?

(2)Or would it??

(3)How might that type of frequency affect how you feel as a man?

(4)Would you value her in a different way?

This is assuming the quality was average-high. I am not talking about if she was reluctant...Only willing and enthusiastic! : )

Think about how that would impact you...

Thank you!
1 Yes, profoundly.
2 Yes it would positively impact my life.
3 Very positively. I would feel valued by my wife, cherished and a very high priority in her life.
4 I would worship her, because I would know how hard she had to work to make such a change.

Not fair to make a man dream like that.
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I enjoy my animal lusts. My wife and I have fun.

Nobody gets hurt. Even though some odd people here or there might try to come up with some convoluted unreasonable reasoning to try to say things which actually don't hurt anyone might hurt people in some way.
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When you judge, what are your standards for right and wrong?

Often its complicated but in cases where no one is harmed, I don't see any reason to judge someone negatively.

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Everybody judges. The ones who claim not to? They judge AND lie.

Judging is a necessary part of human society. We have a set of conventions we are expected to follow. These people are violating conventions that are designed to protect them. The things they do are gross, yes, but as people I would describe them not as "gross" but as pitiable slaves to their own animal lusts. They are trapped in a world of degradation and dehumanization and it saddens me.
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