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post #166 of 173 (permalink) Old 04-09-2017, 07:17 AM
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Re: Do some men use porn to relieve an erection?

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Why would a man watch women that are not stunning giving blow jobs, any other reasons? When I think of men watching porn I thought they want to see sexy women more like 10's and not 5 or 6's, it's confusing..


Ever hear of Hugh Grant and Divine Brown?

He's a suave English actor and she was a street prostitute. He got busted for soliciting her for oral sex, iirc.

But the kicker was that his girlfriend at the time was Elizabeth Hurley.

Why? Men (and women) sometimes like to have sex with "low" people who "don't count", so they don't need to have any respect or consideration for the "lowlife".

Also, you've probably heard the saying, "for every supermodel, there's a guy whose sick to death of ****ing her", or words to that effect.

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Re: Do some men use porn to relieve an erection?

I wonder if that was the cause.

I'm married to a lovely woman. There is no way any of my friends could know that she has almost no interest in sex, and a very limited number of sexual activities she will engage in at all.

Elizabeth Hurley may be beautiful, but we know nothing about her sexuality. I'm not blaming her - it may be entirely Hugh Grant's fault in all ways - he could well be a selfish pig - or not. I'm just saying that because sex lives are so private, its difficult to know what motivated him.

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Ever hear of Hugh Grant and Divine Brown?

He's a suave English actor and she was a street prostitute. He got busted for soliciting her for oral sex, iirc.

But the kicker was that his girlfriend at the time was Elizabeth Hurley.

Why? Men (and women) sometimes like to have sex with "low" people who "don't count", so they don't need to have any respect or consideration for the "lowlife".

Also, you've probably heard the saying, "for every supermodel, there's a guy whose sick to death of ****ing her", or words to that effect.

You can't win!
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I wonder if that was the cause.

I'm married to a lovely woman. There is no way any of my friends could know that she has almost no interest in sex, and a very limited number of sexual activities she will engage in at all.

Elizabeth Hurley may be beautiful, but we know nothing about her sexuality. I'm not blaming her - it may be entirely Hugh Grant's fault in all ways - he could well be a selfish pig - or not. I'm just saying that because sex lives are so private, its difficult to know what motivated him.
I agree!! Liz Hurley is without doubt beautiful. But porn is *not* necessarily beautiful. My husband talks of liking amateur porn. I didnt' understand it until I explored it. It is women who look ordinary - NOT staged - real. Contrived porn becomes boring very quickly. But looking at ordinary women can be a bit voyeuristic and sexy.
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I wonder if that was the cause.

I'm married to a lovely woman. There is no way any of my friends could know that she has almost no interest in sex, and a very limited number of sexual activities she will engage in at all.

Elizabeth Hurley may be beautiful, but we know nothing about her sexuality. I'm not blaming her - it may be entirely Hugh Grant's fault in all ways - he could well be a selfish pig - or not. I'm just saying that because sex lives are so private, its difficult to know what motivated him.

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Ever hear of Hugh Grant and Divine Brown?

He's a suave English actor and she was a street prostitute. He got busted for soliciting her for oral sex, iirc.

But the kicker was that his girlfriend at the time was Elizabeth Hurley.

Why? Men (and women) sometimes like to have sex with "low" people who "don't count", so they don't need to have any respect or consideration for the "lowlife".

Also, you've probably heard the saying, "for every supermodel, there's a guy whose sick to death of ****ing her", or words to that effect.

You can't win!
That's definitely a possible causes
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I wonder if that was the cause.

I'm married to a lovely woman. There is no way any of my friends could know that she has almost no interest in sex, and a very limited number of sexual activities she will engage in at all.

Elizabeth Hurley may be beautiful, but we know nothing about her sexuality. I'm not blaming her - it may be entirely Hugh Grant's fault in all ways - he could well be a selfish pig - or not. I'm just saying that because sex lives are so private, its difficult to know what motivated him.


Elizabeth Hurley is a goddess. She certainly was in the 90's when this event took place.

You have a natural reaction of worshipfulness to a god or goddess. Respect and veneration for their specialness and beauty. It matters what they think. It would be horrifying if you repulsed them with your "baser" behavior. Not a bj specifically; but perhaps the way in which it is performed, and how you might want to act during it.

With a "lowlife" person, it's foot-off-the-brake time. Anything goes. Who gives a rat's ass what they think. They are worthless human beings;and their opinions and reactions don't matter. You can be as nasty and deviant as all get out.

He could have been down and dirty with Liz; but perhaps couldn't lose his inhibitions with her. There's often an automatic rush to judgement on the woman; she's beautiful, but she must be frigid. Else he wouldn't be getting up to such shenanigans.

We'll never know. I always thought this was a classic Madonna/ho story.
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Really no way to know. I think someones sexual passion or inhibition has nothing to do with their appearance. She may have been the most wonderful and passionate of lovers, or she may have been horrible and selfish.

He may have been looking for a lowlife to use and abuse, or he may have been trying for a brief escape from a horrible passionless relationship. We can't know.

Whatever the situation, I think what he did was wrong, even if I don't know why he did it.



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Elizabeth Hurley is a goddess. She certainly was in the 90's when this event took place.

You have a natural reaction of worshipfulness to a god or goddess. Respect and veneration for their specialness and beauty. It matters what they think. It would be horrifying if you repulsed them with your "baser" behavior. Not a bj specifically; but perhaps the way in which it is performed, and how you might want to act during it.

With a "lowlife" person, it's foot-off-the-brake time. Anything goes. Who gives a rat's ass what they think. They are worthless human beings;and their opinions and reactions don't matter. You can be as nasty and deviant as all get out.

He could have been down and dirty with Liz; but perhaps couldn't lose his inhibitions with her. There's often an automatic rush to judgement on the woman; she's beautiful, but she must be frigid. Else he wouldn't be getting up to such shenanigans.

We'll never know. I always thought this was a classic Madonna/ho story.
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With a "lowlife" person, it's foot-off-the-brake time. Anything goes. Who gives a rat's ass what they think. They are worthless human beings;and their opinions and reactions don't matter. You can be as nasty and deviant as all get out.
That's taking Madonna/whre to a rather jaundiced extreme. It's true some men are intimidated by beauty & mask desires they think may be seen as uncouth, just as said beauty can lead to a certain passivity or lack of creativity on her part. But having the confidence to be adventurous or kinky with someone you see as more "in your league" doesn't automatically mean you see them as a "lowlife" and "worthless!"
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But having the confidence to be adventurous or kinky with someone you see as more "in your league" doesn't automatically mean you see them as a "lowlife" and "worthless!


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Oh, I couldn't agree more.

But that's just the thing with Madonna/ho, [ or Nice Guy/bad boy]; you DON'T have the confidence to get wild with Madonna or Nice Guy.

You need "a bit of rough" or "go slumming", in order to get off.
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