I am Lost and need advice having very limited sex
Well, In the beginning our emotional connection, and sex was awesome. We were so happy and enjoying each other. This is both of ours 2nd go around. Both of us were cheated on in our first marriage. About 2 years ago my wife was told she had interstitial cystitis. She was given hormone creams, numbing prescriptions, and all other methods of treatment. I finally had another conversation with my wife about the lack of, or no sex in our marriage. I have made every attempt I know to try and draw our marital emotional part of our marriage closer. I have repeatedly asked her numerous times what is the problem and why she totally strings me along and does not want to have sex with me anymore. I am a high energy sexual type of person and believe that intimacy in the bedroom along with the emotional being is very important in any marriage, without out it you are just living together without any emotional intimacy in the marriage. When I tell you I have tried everything I really mean it, trying to fix our problems. You can lead a horse to water but you cant force it to drink. She finally told me the truth after multiple attempts to try and figure out what maybe I was doing, not doing, and what I could do to fix the problem of lack of desire, want, and any form of intimacy in our marriage. She finally admitted to me for the last 2 yeas after all the meds, creams, and etc that sex hurts her and she had been lying to me for the last 2 years saying things were getting better. I love her and will always will, till I die, but am having an extremely hard time accepting the fact that our marital status of marriage is no sex. I am not a selfish person and am sorry she has this pain and now it is the root cause. So all my efforts, all the excuses, rejection, and her not being available to me emotionally, and physically has got me spinning in my head. She finally admitted to me last night the reason. So at least I know that for the last 2 years of trying, trying, and trying to fix a broken marital, emotional connection between us is at a standstill. I told her thanks for telling me truth finally, and that I cant fix what is broken, and at least I can quit trying to, and putting myself through all the pain and suffering. I do not know if I can withstand a sexless marriage. I don understand and recognize her problem 100 percent and feel extremely sad for her and her medical problems. I am a very patient individual, caring, loving, and willing to do whatever I can to help with our problem. She told me she had been lying to me for years, and was just going through the motions for my behalf. How can I in good faith even have sex with her, if it ever comes about, which it wont unless I continue to press the issue with multiple rejections over and over, and knowing that if she does it hurts her. I am at a total loss at this point and our marriage is in the dump know that I know the so called truth, finally, if accurate.