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Ok. So after a hellish year and a lot of work, Mrs. Conan and I have become strong again and improved in many areas.

She is more independent and stronger in every area.

Her sexual confidence, aggression and skill have really gone up.

So I am now experiencing ED?

I don't believe it is a physiological issue as I wake up with wood all the time.

I have found a couple ways around, it proving it is at least partially psychological.

Before I talk about what I am trying, has anyone had something similar happen and how did you deal with it?

This started about a month ago when things were really improving for us.

I am 46, in very good shape with no health issues.
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I don't believe it is a physiological issue as I wake up with wood all the time.
Do you ever have sex with it? Can you maintain it? I have ED from a medication's side effect, so it's not just in my head. I frequently have morningwood but it rarely lasts (I do try). While I do think it's more likely psychological, don't completely rule out physical just yet.



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absolutely, i've experienced it. like you, i've always been in good shape (almost always).
no high blood pressure, no diabetes, heart conditions, et.

it's transitory, or at least in my case. and I mean going back to when i was in my thirties and forties until now.
there would be times when i could hardly get it up on my own, and then.........the week after, no problema.

now, i have not been married most of my life, and single, so it didn't matter right?
that is until i rediscovered women about 12 years ago and needed the thing to do it's job.
my g.f.'s were amazed at how good it did it's job. that is until i hit a flat spot. then, sure enough it came back.

now, i've been married 4 years to a high drive woman. the thing needs to work!
in that 4 years, it's acted up about 3 times (and i mean periods of time, not literally).
currently, i'm on my best streak ever, going on about 15 months with no problema about 3 times a week.

the solution? get yourself one of the big three (cialis, viagra, levtra), a small sample. don't use it unless you hit a flat spot.
keep it just for confidence, knowing if it happens again, you've got it. it's a sure thing.

call it non-physiological, psycological, cyclical, up-down testosterone..........whatever.
as long as it doesn't last long, you're good to go.
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that is until i hit a flat spot.
No pun intended!

I'm 52 and occasionally Willy sometimes does not feel up to the task. But Willy rises to the call half heartedly. It passes and Willy gets back on his solid game. Sometimes to the point of being insatiable. I suspect you are experiencing the same.

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Before I talk about what I am trying, has anyone had something similar happen and how did you deal with it?
While I have not struggled with ED, I have had issues in the past with performance anxiety. So from a psychological point of view I found it helpful to talk about that anxiety with my wife. Once you discover what might be causing you anxiety, talk to your wife about it in a nonsexual context (while eating lunch together or something) and try to discuss ways to work through that as well as understanding and knowing your wife's attitude for when a problem occurs in advance. This should help

Probably not wise to try and solve it all on your own, let her participate in the process.

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Do you ever have sex with it? Can you maintain it? I have ED from a medication's side effect, so it's not just in my head. I frequently have morningwood but it rarely lasts (I do try). While I do think it's more likely psychological, don't completely rule out physical just yet.
Good points. I am going to try it out. Already been discussing this with Mrs. C and she agreed to be woken at any time to try it out.

I will probably get a check up since it could be a physical problem after all.
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An example of what has happened.

We get to making out and feeling each other up.

I go to give her oral and start out hard as steel.

About a minute in, my steel turns limp.

Never happened before. Usually eating at the Y produces steel not melt it.
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It's like hitting a baseball.

The more you think about it, the worse you perform.

And then, the worse you perform, the more you think about it....

... round and round.

Sure, a physical is a good idea, but go for the Viagra as a stopgap to help you break out of the death spiral.
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It's like hitting a baseball.

The more you think about it, the worse you perform.

And then, the worse you perform, the more you think about it....

... round and round.

Sure, a physical is a good idea, but go for the Viagra as a stopgap to help you break out of the death spiral.
Yup. Never felt insecure before and didn't like it one bit!
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Ok. So after a hellish year and a lot of work, Mrs. Conan and I have become strong again and improved in many areas.

She is more independent and stronger in every area.

Her sexual confidence, aggression and skill have really gone up.

So I am now experiencing ED?

I don't believe it is a physiological issue as I wake up with wood all the time.

I have found a couple ways around, it proving it is at least partially psychological.

Before I talk about what I am trying, has anyone had something similar happen and how did you deal with it?

This started about a month ago when things were really improving for us.

I am 46, in very good shape with no health issues.
I am 68, have low T, but am in reasonably good health. I have had temporary ED problems when my health plan changed the approved HRT brand of Testosterone. The topical applications all have different carrier chemicals that change the absorption rate. During times when the prescription was changed and my T levels plummeted to less than 100, I had trouble keeping it up. Usually, within a month I got tested and my doctor was able to bring my T-levels back into a proper range.

What I found was the a flexible C#ck Ring, is a great erection aid, for times when one needs a little extra help. The good ones are a little expensive but last a long time (and hopefully, you won't need it all the time, so you want it to last). https://www.enticeme.co/product-cate...or-him/page/5/ I recommend the Tantus C-Ring. The bad word correction prevents me from directly linking to the product.

One of the scary things about being a man is that if you are lucky enough to be in a relationship and live long enough, you will probably get prostate cancer, even if you live a healthy lifestyle. It may not kill you, but there is a high chance treatment for it will likely result in some level of impotence. Luckily, I haven't gotten prostate cancer yet. So far my low T during HRT prescription adjustments has been my main ED problem....aside from perhaps a bit too much to drink on an occasional night.

I would strongly suggest you go to a doctor and get a full physical and blood work as someone over 45 should start getting in the habit of annual physical examination.

Good luck and enjoy. Sounds like your wife is supporting you.
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Should you decide on it, the pharma route is a "tell your doctor" thing and not an "ask your doctor". And if you're there anyway...



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On a day your wife is not home.

Go through every one of your wife's dresser drawers, in her coat pockets in her closet. On top of things, under things.

Find the Voodoo Doll. Remove the pin that is stuck in the male dolls penis.

Better yet, stuff the doll with Viagra dust. Every time the pin goes in, the shaft gets coated with "Hard Magic".

If you find no doll at home, then it must be another women that you pissed off.

How to get around this? Wear tin foil underwear. The bad radio-frequency signal will not get through.

When having sex, punch a small hole in the aluminum foil underwear just large enough for Peter Rabbit to poke through.

It would not hurt to coat the inside of your condom with aluminum jelly for added protection against strong waves.




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On a day your wife is not home.

Go through every one of your wife's dresser drawers, in her coat pockets in her closet. On top of things, under things.

Find the Voodoo Doll. Remove the pin that is stuck in the male dolls penis.

Better yet, stuff the doll with Viagra dust. Every time the pin goes in, the shaft gets coated with "Hard Magic".

If you find no doll at home, then it must be another women that you pissed off.

How to get around this? Wear tin foil underwear. The bad radio-frequency signal will not get through.

When having sex, punch a small hole in the aluminum foil underwear just large enough for Peter Rabbit to poke through.

It would not hurt to coat the inside of your condom with aluminum jelly for added protection against strong waves.




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LOL! Thanks for the laugh!
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Never happened before. Usually eating at the Y produces steel not melt it.
Usually when someone mentions the Y they are talking about the local YMCA, so not quite sure what to make of this post except maybe that is your problem, you should be doing this stuff at home!
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I started taking a zinc supplement to boost possible T level deficiencies and started treating Mrs. C like a fc toy.

I was as hard as ever while treating her like a cheap piece of ass.

I discovered that I have never truly just fd the hell out of her before.

I have seriously ravaged her but it was still making love.

I have also had angry sex for the first time ever. I have never been able and bring myself to do it before but sometimes it helps now.

The strange thing is she is responding very positively to getting fd instead of love making.

We still make love but we are fing a lot more often and I'm still occasionally having issues.

Going to get a check up for sure but this has got to partly be psychological.
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