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post #16 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-06-2017, 05:23 PM
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Tease. But I really like the term edging.

I started my wife on it on our second date in 1973. Spent over an hour pushing her up close and backing off. Called it teasing in those days. She came well. Her first orgasm, ever.

That's why we spend hours every day having sex. We both edge.

Of course, Mary gets to come many times once she starts. So about an hour or two teasing her, and half an hour or more of orgasms.

Since I turned 60 I found I can't come every day any more, so we could say I edge over more than a day. That used to bother Mary, and she tried to be less sexual when she thought I wouldn't be able to get off that evening. I convinced her of the error of that thinking.

When she does herself during the day I notice she doesn't edge. No idea if that means anything. It's all fun.
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Add me to the list. My fiance doesn't like it done to him really, but I really like it. He will say while it's happening... ''Suppose this is all I do?'' I don't know what it is about that statement but omg...soooo amazing. I have been in two other relationships where the guys edged me and I'd say that the thing that works about it, is you really need to build trust with your partner, because then they know your likes and dislikes, and how far to take things. Just my opinion.

I've tried to edge myself but it doesn't really work. lol I can do it for a few minutes and then I'm like...ok, that's enough. I think when my fiance does it, my orgasms are so much stronger, because he can push it beyond a limit that I'd push for myself, if that makes sense.
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I've tried to edge myself but it doesn't really work. lol I can do it for a few minutes and then I'm like...ok, that's enough. I think when my fiance does it, my orgasms are so much stronger, because he can push it beyond a limit that I'd push for myself, if that makes sense.
My wife says, "Yep, that makes plenty of sense." She can't do it for herself. But she loves it when I do it to/for her.
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My wife says, "Yep, that makes plenty of sense." She can't do it for herself. But she loves it when I do it to/for her.
It's more surprising when you do it for her, when my fiance does it for me. I have no idea what's coming next, will he ''let me,'' etc...it's so exciting. I read an article a few months ago about couples and their sex lives and so many couples hate the idea of teasing each other. I wonder if on some level, they might see it as a ''mean'' thing,'' but it's really not if you trust your partner.
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there are no cliffs around me to edge my wife.
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The first time I edged somebody, she had stars in her eyes.

Thank you for posting this PEACEM. I had no idea that this is what it was called. I didn't even know that it was a thing.

I did not surprise her though. It had become a pattern with this girl that she would come very fast and would watch me edging myself to high heights before coming. It came from life time of rushing to get off before her male partner would come and she would miss her chance. One day, we talked about it and asked her to trust me and let me take control. I had her relax completely and not try to charge to an orgasm, just go with the flow and enjoy the edge. She was shaking when she finally exploded.


Why come when you can edge?
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This is something I do when I am alone and it gives a very long and incredibly powerful orgasm.

I have never actually done this with my husband as I fear he would not have the patience and edging has never been his thing (he doesn't really understand it because he comes from a background of getting it over with as quick as possible). But I would love to share the experience with him.

I was wondering if this is a common sexual practice and if men like it as part of couples sex?
I LOVE this idea! We have never really tried it, but then again we're married with kids, I work late many days, and our schedules are hectic. So if we do find some "alone time" my DW's attitude is like, "Ok, let's do this, ready? Go!". We take our time in the bedroom sometimes, but then we run the risk of one of the younger kids waking up randomly. Nothing worse than getting all hot & bothered only to have the 3 yr old wake up crying...total buzz kill of the worst order. Our youngest is a terrible sleeper, and the next oldest has some type of sleep apnea that wakes her throughout the night (she is having surgery this year to correct!)

I'd love to try it if we are on a trip or something and have a room with no kids. I fear that my wife is now "pre-programmed" to rush things though so this may be tricky. Plus she will wonder where I got the idea...maybe I'll just tell her that an old gf really loved it, so I thought she would like it, too?

On a side note, I did stumble upon something that really turned me on...the Yoni massage. Basically a body massage + a female happy ending. Lots of oil & rubbing, plus a long, drawn-out stimulation of the vagina and all the surrounding areas. But the key is to not focus all the attention between her legs, you need to rub the arms, legs, etc, intermittently to break the tension. So yeah, lot's of "edging" type characteristics. This is one of my fantasies. My wife loves rubs so I think she will like this!
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Update: He said yes! And it was amazing. I really had to take charge which I think he was a bit relieved about - then PIV and it was an incredible feeling we haven't experienced before (I am someone who struggled to orgasm PIV). The words 'we should have done this sooner' were used!

Why is this not suggested in any of my sex books??
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I try it sometimes with my wife and either I am not doing it right or it is not for her. It does seem to work better with oral rather than PIV (PIV edging completely doesn't work as once she loses the "wave", she finds it hard to get back onto one again. With PIV she prefers continuous momentum and steady built up.) Oral seems to work a better and eventually she can come even if I am not doing anything, because the anticipation is so great and she can't take the "edging" anymore.
Maybe someone can describe how to do it better? Maybe there are better techniques out there.

PS: edging does work for me very well (male)
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I try it sometimes with my wife and either I am not doing it right or it is not for her. It does seem to work better with oral rather than PIV (PIV edging completely doesn't work as once she loses the "wave", she finds it hard to get back onto one again. With PIV she prefers continuous momentum and steady built up.) Oral seems to work a better and eventually she can come even if I am not doing anything, because the anticipation is so great and she can't take the "edging" anymore.
Maybe someone can describe how to do it better? Maybe there are better techniques out there.

PS: edging does work for me very well (male)
Sorry I don't think I was very clear. We edged with a vibrator and then when I was ready we did PIV which made me finish in seconds and felt good for him too (because the contraction was strong and long). But he kept going - even after my orgasm this felt amazing and I had the potential for multiples.

Because PIV orgasms don't come easy to me it was quite a moment for us.

Edit: I edged many times (maybe 20+), the time between getting to the edge became less and less. When it got to just a second or two to getting there is when I gave in and we did PIV.
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Ah got it. Sorry to be specific...but was vibrator used inside or on the outside? The reason i ask is that my wife seems to get two types of orgasms: one from oral and one from PIV.
If I start working on her clit (but don't finish) she then needs to build up almost "from scratch" if we do PIV so I realised that perhaps her clit and g spot work a bit more independently form each other.
I guess you must have come continuing using the vibrator (if it was used on outside) so the sensation of PIV was an added bonus?

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Outside. And no when we did PIV my clit was too sensitive by this point to have anything on it. I just went on the sensation inside. I'm experimenting so no expert - making it up as I go along so to speak.

My husband couldn't do this without me being in control - he has no clue when I am getting there - he just went along with it and enjoyed it (surprised he didn't get bored or frustrated). I wanted him to experience the intense orgasm I was having because it was something I usually do alone and is very different. I wanted to show it off I suppose .
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Outside. And no when we did PIV my clit was too sensitive by this point to have anything on it. I just went on the sensation inside. I'm experimenting so no expert - making it up as I go along so to speak.

My husband couldn't do this without me being in control - he has no clue when I am getting there - he just went along with it and enjoyed it (surprised he didn't get bored or frustrated). I wanted him to experience the intense orgasm I was having because it was something I usually do alone and is very different. I wanted to show it off I suppose .
I see. I think it will add to your sensations if you actually let your husband take control of your orgasms (or, more precisely, if he can have enough confidence to take that charge). It is relatively easy to tell for me when my wife is close (only rarely do I miss the point of no return for her), and letting him be in control of the build up, edging and actual orgasm should (in theory) make it more intense for you. At least it is this way for my wife but I realise couple dynamics can vary a lot and I have no experience beyond my wife so please ignore it if it doesn't work for you.... From your descriptions, it sounds as though you your husband is an extension to the vibrator (that's no a criticism: I love it if my wife "uses" me for her pleasure. I write it with the thought of providing helpful suggestions). But what vibrators can't do, is take charge. It can be liberating for the woman (and man).
On the other hand, your husband may not be comfortable with that role (being in charge) and it might ruin an otherwise healthy sexual dynamic...So just a careful suggestion...
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You could look into a We-Vibe. Which stimulates both clit AND G-Spot, and can be adjusted to favour one or the other, or both (using the phone app). And leaves room for 'PIV' at the same time.
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... From your descriptions, it sounds as though you your husband is an extension to the vibrator (that's no a criticism: I love it if my wife "uses" me for her pleasure. I write it with the thought of providing helpful suggestions). But what vibrators can't do, is take charge. It can be liberating for the woman (and man).
I like your idea of him taking charge when he is confident. I don't think of him as an extension to the vibrator, it was more that I wanted HIM to feel the orgasm.

In the past this has been a very difficult for us to orgasm together but he shared with me that it was an amazing feeling for him. He seemed pleased anyway. We woke up grinning at each other .
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