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post #1 of 40 (permalink) Old 04-06-2017, 03:44 AM Thread Starter
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This is something I do when I am alone and it gives a very long and incredibly powerful orgasm.

I have never actually done this with my husband as I fear he would not have the patience and edging has never been his thing (he doesn't really understand it because he comes from a background of getting it over with as quick as possible). But I would love to share the experience with him.

I was wondering if this is a common sexual practice and if men like it as part of couples sex?
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This is something I do when I am alone and it gives a very long and incredibly powerful orgasm.

I have never actually done this with my husband as I fear he would not have the patience and edging has never been his thing (he doesn't really understand it because he comes from a background of getting it over with as quick as possible). But I would love to share the experience with him.

I was wondering if this is a common sexual practice and if men like it as part of couples sex?
Just did it to someone special earlier this evening, so...yeah. Drives her nuts. I'd say about half the women I've been with like it, the rest were too impatient. I love doing it because pleasing my partner is always a turn-on.

Speaking of which, why would it have to be "his thing" if it's clearly YOUR thing? If I were he and knew that about you, I'd be eager to learn even if I didn't want edging for myself...and as far as understanding goes, the concept doesn't seem like rocket science. Maybe you're selling him and his capacity for comprehension a little short. Does he know how much you enjoy this?

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Does he know how much you enjoy this?
I mentioned it to him a long time ago when we talked about male edging. He looked at me like I had grown 2 heads. But I am thinking that the up and coming holiday (no work) may be a good time to be more experimental.

He's not very adventurous and likes routine but does get there eventually . (ASD)
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Interesting.

I've never looked at edging from a female perspective. I only associated edging for males that suffer from PE.

OP you're not alone... if I mentioned this to my wife she would have 3 heads instead of 2.



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I was wondering if this is a common sexual practice and if men like it as part of couples sex?
From your husband's point of view he may be confused regarding this topic in the event you are multiorgasmic. Many men enjoy edging as we only get to enjoy one orgasm (under normal conditions), whereas women can often have as many as they want for which they tend to grow stronger and stronger.

Women also have a tendency to complain if their partner changes/varies stimulation upon getting close to an orgasm. This technique is required for edging, so if you have instructed your husband to keep doing what he is doing no matter what in the past, you will now need to explain and help him understand how/when it is preferred for him to alter stimulation to help you avoid orgasm.

Do I think this is common? No. Society regularly conditions everyone that bigger, faster, stronger, more, and even more is preferred. Do I think you and your husband would enjoy exploring this concept? If he can get over the fact that "less can be more" then you two should go for it. But you will need to talk to him before hand or else it may be a confusing experience for him.

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PS: you do know you can edge PRIOR to having sex with your husband?
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I mentioned it to him a long time ago when we talked about male edging. He looked at me like I had grown 2 heads. But I am thinking that the up and coming holiday (no work) may be a good time to be more experimental.

He's not very adventurous and likes routine but does get there eventually . (ASD)

Yes, be more experimental. You may have to edge him for him to understand just how powerful, playful, and delightful edging can be.

I did this to my H and he loved it. Fully body massage, get him erect, play a bit, then focus on his feet, or his shoulders. After a few minutes work your way back to his erection, play a bit, then focus on another his toes, or his fingers. You can bring him right to the brink, or you can just get him fully aroused over and over, laughing and being playful the whole time. Then make him promise to clean the kitchen floor or something if he wants to cum. I can't imagine any man not LOVING that afternoon of play.

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Requires enormous amounts of communication and you need to be in "synch". But what is the downside? He gives you an orgasm "too soon"? Seems worth trying for most couples.

For us my wife would never give any indication that I was able to understand / appreciate when she was close or if she ever had an O so no way for me to edge her. We simply don't work well enough together for us to attempt anything so advanced. Then again, for all I know, all I ever did was edge her and never actually got her off.

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badsanta;17661793]From your husband's point of view he may be confused regarding this topic in the event you are multiorgasmic. Many men enjoy edging as we only get to enjoy one orgasm (under normal conditions), whereas women can often have as many as they want for which they tend to grow stronger and stronger.
True to some extent but edging is an orgasm that does not compete with multiples. It is almost painfully intense - but in a good way - a totally different experience.

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Women also have a tendency to complain if their partner changes/varies stimulation upon getting close to an orgasm. This technique is required for edging, so if you have instructed your husband to keep doing what he is doing no matter what in the past, you will now need to explain and help him understand how/when it is preferred for him to alter stimulation to help you avoid orgasm.
I think it would be doable with practice

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Do I think this is common? No. Society regularly conditions everyone that bigger, faster, stronger, more, and even more is preferred. Do I think you and your husband would enjoy exploring this concept? If he can get over the fact that "less can be more" then you two should go for it. But you will need to talk to him before hand or else it may be a confusing experience for him.
There is a good reason why I was curious as to whether it was common. I discovered it when I first started using a vibrator. For me to have multiples I have to move the vibe to less sensitive areas for a few minutes to start again. So by NOT following through the orgasm is it literally seconds whilst the urge dies off. This pretty much adds up to a long session of strong arousal (without breaks) and then an intense orgasm.

So when I mentioned this to H he thought it was 'kinky' and bizarre. I didn't know it had a name until I began reading about male edging - I thought bingo - that is what I am doing. So I mentioned it to H again. He had never heard of this technique and was convinced it was unhealthy or part of a fetish .

Fast forward to yesterday when @Anon Pink posted a link about a female orgasms. A woman on the website described the exact same thing. The difference being that she discovered it when her partner did it to her NOT through masturbation - I thought WOW.


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PS: you do know you can edge PRIOR to having sex with your husband?
Not the way I do it. But I could experiment and see.
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Every woman who likes to be edged likes to be edged in a different way. For me, edging has to be part of play but can be varied. However, to switch it up when heading up is more like a mistake or a fumble. Edging has to be the obvious intent or it comes off as fumbling.

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I think there are two kinds of edging - pre-orgasm, and post-orgasm. Pre-orgasm does not work for my wife. She just loses all arousal if I back off, and can't get it back for hours. The first orgasm takes however long it takes (2 minutes to 30 minutes), but has to go directly for the prize. Post-orgasm edging is different. After that first, I can keep her on the edge indefinitely, give her another (usually the second and third are MUCH more intense), and then keep that going for up to a half hour more.

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I used to do this, sometimes still do. When I was in a D/s relationship, it was a requirement of me to edge several times a day, and then I may or may not get to O when I finally got together with him. Usually not. Loved it.
After that relationship ended, my husband and I played around with it for a bit. He'd edge me in bed before letting me come. My highest number of edges was 50. LOL It's like riding a wave. It's great to do before having sex with your partner because you're all ready to go, too. Probably more normal that you'd think. Google female tease and denial. You'll get an eye and earful. lol
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It is something as a man that I do enjoy doing with my wife.


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Every woman who likes to be edged likes to be edged in a different way. For me, edging has to be part of play but can be varied. However, to switch it up when heading up is more like a mistake or a fumble. Edging has to be the obvious intent or it comes off as fumbling.
@Anon Pink but fumbling is like my specialty. I have it down to an art form at this point!

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So when I mentioned this to H he thought it was 'kinky' and bizarre. I didn't know it had a name until I began reading about male edging - I thought bingo - that is what I am doing. So I mentioned it to H again. He had never heard of this technique and was convinced it was unhealthy or part of a fetish .
Since he is a christian man, have him read this from a religious-themed website about improving intimacy in marriage:

https://site.themarriagebed.com/sexu...ter-sex-4-him/

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Peaking: While orgasm is certainly the most pleasurable sensation of sex, it’s not sudden enjoyment preceded by no pleasure. Stimulation of the penis produces pleasurable sensations from “start to finish.” The feelings get better and better as the man approaches climax, and shortly before orgasm, the sensations are very, very pleasurable. With practice, you can learn to take him to that pleasurable “peak,” and then back off just enough to avoid orgasm. Doing this repeatedly produces a great deal of pleasure. You can also learn to take him to the peak and keep him there, on the edge for a couple of seconds. Making this happen just takes practice and attention to what you are doing. Watch his body, especially his genitals, and learn to read the signals about how close he is to climax (see the article on arousal). Initially peaking will need to be done during manual simulation, but once you know his body’s responses, well you can probably do it during intercourse too.
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This is something I do when I am alone and it gives a very long and incredibly powerful orgasm.

I have never actually done this with my husband as I fear he would not have the patience and edging has never been his thing (he doesn't really understand it because he comes from a background of getting it over with as quick as possible). But I would love to share the experience with him.

I was wondering if this is a common sexual practice and if men like it as part of couples sex?
A few suggestions.

First talk to him and tell him what you posted above.

Ask him is there is anyway that every now and then as a special treat the two of you can do this. Ask him if there is any fantasy or role-playing he might have/want which could incorporate this as part of it? Say his tying your up, or his slowly making love to you, or slowly teasing and denying your until you beg for orgasm and become (whatever fantasy he wants).

Alternately tell him it is your fantasy and you would like him to help you explore it.

Another approach might be tell him that you would like each other to masturbate while the other watches. Then demonstrate for him how much you enjoy edging yourself.

If your H is Good, Giving and Game, he will come around and give you what you want. You just need to be brave enough to ask for it and explain or demonstrate what you want.

You have to understand that we all have been conditioned (like Pavlov's dog) by our spouses as to how to perform sex. This further gets complicated by the conditioning your spouse's past lovers (or parents or religious views/training) may have inflicted upon them . He may have been taught/conditioned that fast and quick is what was required for car-sex on a lonely road with a past girlfriend or that sex was PIV missionary position only and anything else was sinful masturbation. Your challenge is to change his conditioning so that you break the "old" habits you have gotten into with him. Most people resist changing. Fear of change, especially something as emotionally charged as sex, can be a big deal to anyone. It will take time, but if you are gentle and persuasive, you should get what you want.

Good Luck.

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