Re: Thoughts on this
I would like to say, too, that for the first 14 years we were together, Dug and I lived together. Other than when he was travelling, we were nearly always together, and with our children (no babysitters). And we have always been close, and had an active sex life.
I just strongly disagree that it is necessary to create physical distance to create sexual interest and physical intimacy. It is necessary to create emotional closeness to create sexual interest and physical intimacy, in our experience.
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man