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post #1 of 3 (permalink) Old 04-07-2017, 08:10 AM Thread Starter
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sex after children

Referring to the mechanical aspects not the fact kids drain your energy throughout day.

Do women feel sex differently than prior to children? My wife claims her orgasms don't feel like they used to. I am assuming maybe kegel muscles are weaker or something?
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Re: sex after children

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Referring to the mechanical aspects not the fact kids drain your energy throughout day.

Do women feel sex differently than prior to children? My wife claims her orgasms don't feel like they used to. I am assuming maybe kegel muscles are weaker or something?
Yes, could be kagel but if this is her first it's not likely, unless she is typically obese.

How long ago was the birth?

How was the actual birth? Episiotomy? Did she tear? Were forceps used? Vaginal or C?

All of these things can alter nerve ending, sometimes permanently. Scar tissue and surrounding tissue don't experience sensation normally. Sometimes the area is completely numb, sometimes sensation is hardly felt. Some of this clears up in time, some many not ever clear up.

Will she give you more details or have you had to pull that small amount from her?

"Some women are blessed with multi-orgasmic ability for a reason and I'm damn sure not going to waste a blessing" ~FrenchFry

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Re: sex after children

I am a guy (2 kids decades ago), so I will defer to the ladies and any medical professionals.

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4 Best sex positions after having a baby


This tried-and-true position is one of the best just after you've had a baby. Pressure is kept off your perineum, and if you had a C-section, your abdomen isn't bearing the brunt of any pressure. This position allows you to ease into things, and it's a good position if you're feeling self-conscious about your after-baby body.


Lying side by side, either facing each other or away from each other as you would in a cuddle, is the spooning position. This position is great if you underwent a C-section birth, because it will keep pressure off your C-section scar, and it allows you to control the speed and depth of penetration, making sure sex stays pain-free.

Woman on top

Not only is this position fun because you can be in control, but it's also a good position after childbirth because you're in control. You can direct the experience based on any pain or discomfort you're feeling — or not feeling, hopefully.

The School of Rock (a.k.a. chair sex)

Have your man sit on a chair with a sturdy back, then straddle him and rock back and forth. This takes you out of the bed — which is always fun — yet still allows you to be in control. It also keeps the pressure off your perineum or incision.
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