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post #16 of 51 (permalink) Old 04-07-2017, 12:03 PM
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The other searches showed women that had shapes similar to mine so it wasn't that shocking ad opposed to these 2 names
Might be similar to a guy who would not trade his Corvette for any other car because it's the best in his eyes, but still is curious to look at new SUV's.
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Porn is a lot about variety. That is something that you can never give him. And I don't say that to put you down. Clearly you cannot be every size, every shape, every complexation, and so forth.

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My wife is 4' 11 and 90 lbs. I enjoy looking at good looking all types of women, including big beautiful women. My ex fiancee and a girlfriend are what are called thick girls. I have dated all types and sizes of girls. I have learned throughout the years that sexy is how you act, talk and make love, not how you look. Too many women are hung up on how they look as if that is all that a guy is looking for. A big girl can look just as hot and sexy as anyone else. Size and looks change throughout history. Look at some older paintings and you will see that the hot girls are all Rubenesque, not thin. Thin meant lack of wealth and a better chance of dying in childbirth at one time.

I can find something hot in most women and it does not have to be looks. There is a lot of porn about Big Beautiful Women for guys who like that. There is probably some truth to your husband liking to look at someone not like you. I do not look at porn with petite women with 38C breasts. I have that at home. I look at porn almost daily and my wife does not mind. She gets the benefit from it.

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Lizzyb,

Are you worried that your husband is looking at these women because he prefers that type and he is not really attracted to you? If that is the case, as a Man, I would say don't worry about it. We are not wired like that.

In general... men like women. Any man can look at a good looking woman and go 'Wow! hot!'. You are still special and there is nothing to worry about.
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Lizzyb,

Are you worried that your husband is looking at these women because he prefers that type and he is not really attracted to you? If that is the case, as a Man, I would say don't worry about it. We are not wired like that.

In general... men like women. Any man can look at a good looking woman and go 'Wow! hot!'. You are still special and there is nothing to worry about.
I know he is attracted to me, I think I'm more insulted because these women are not stunningly beautiful. It's a weird feeling is all.
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I know he is attracted to me, I think I'm more insulted because these women are not stunningly beautiful. It's a weird feeling is all.
But they have stunningly huge boobs. For some men, that's very attractive. Or at least it's a novelty. Remember, he's looking through his own eyes, not yours.

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If he is really shy about saying what he wants, there is a site mojoupgrade that has a 2 person questionnaire.

I think the way it works is that you each (separately) select out of a list things that you would like for yourself and things that you are happy to do for your partner. Then it tells you what things that at least one of you wants and the other is OK with. Anything that at least one person doesn't want, won't show up on the list.

If there is something he (or you) would like to try but is to shy to ask for, he can put it on his list. If its on you list of OK things, then great, you get to try. If not, you won't have seen what it was he wanted.


Meanwhile, don't delay with the BJs. But be sure to tell him what *you* would like him to do for you. (asking him 90% of the way through BJ is fair )

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We have talked and he is happy with our sex life and he knows I am open to trying more if he desires. I do know that he looked at some BJ porn so I will make sure to step it up in that department
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Maybe it's that they are different. Variety you know? Most men don't just have one type. Some men don't have any type they like any type. It's doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you. Ask him.
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If he is really shy about saying what he wants, there is a site mojoupgrade that has a 2 person questionnaire.

I think the way it works is that you each (separately) select out of a list things that you would like for yourself and things that you are happy to do for your partner. Then it tells you what things that at least one of you wants and the other is OK with. Anything that at least one person doesn't want, won't show up on the list.

If there is something he (or you) would like to try but is to shy to ask for, he can put it on his list. If its on you list of OK things, then great, you get to try. If not, you won't have seen what it was he wanted.


Meanwhile, don't delay with the BJs. But be sure to tell him what *you* would like him to do for you. (asking him 90% of the way through BJ is fair )

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We have talked and he is happy with our sex life and he knows I am open to trying more if he desires. I do know that he looked at some BJ porn so I will make sure to step it up in that department
I am going to look that up, that's a great idea!
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Maybe it's that they are different. Variety you know? Most men don't just have one type. Some men don't have any type they like any type. It's doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you. Ask him.
I did ask him and he says he likes bodies like mine athletic looking with curves, not skinny and not thick. He said he only looked up Laura because it was name he remembered, he didn't think I would catch on it was a porn star. He said he wasn't interested in her it was just a search term to throw me off and he was hoping that other porn would come up under her name. He said he couldn't type in porn or something graphic since it would be a dead giveaway
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I did ask him and he says he likes bodies like mine athletic looking with curves, not skinny and not thick. He said he only looked up Laura because it was name he remembered, he didn't think I would catch on it was a porn star. He said he wasn't interested in her it was just a search term to throw me off and he was hoping that other porn would come up under her name. He said he couldn't type in porn or something graphic since it would be a dead giveaway
Sounds like he needs to work on his internet searching /incognito skills
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He is and he knows it lol
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I did ask him and he says he likes bodies like mine athletic looking with curves, not skinny and not thick. He said he only looked up Laura because it was name he remembered, he didn't think I would catch on it was a porn star. He said he wasn't interested in her it was just a search term to throw me off and he was hoping that other porn would come up under her name. He said he couldn't type in porn or something graphic since it would be a dead giveaway
Sounds like he needs to work on his internet searching /incognito skills [/QUOTE ]

He's technology challenged
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Everyone is different. Some it may be about the acts, some the looks, some a combination of both. I wouldn't watch a porn if an actress didn't have most of the physical attributes that I find attractive. For example, I don't find tattoos attractive, so the moment I would see one on an actress I would pass on the video.
That's funny, that's my partner as well he finds tattoos very unappealing
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