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post #16 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-09-2017, 12:24 AM
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According to the manufacturer of NuvaRing:

"Unlike the pill, NuvaRing requires no daily dosing so you can get effective monthly protection from pregnancy without having to think about taking it every day. In a given 4-week cycle, NuvaRing must be inserted into your vagina, removed after 3 weeks (21 days), and a new ring inserted 1 week (7 days) later."

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"Your healthcare provider will explain how to insert NuvaRing. Later, you’ll insert it yourself at home. You’ll wear the ring for three weeks and then remove it for one week. During this last week, you’ll likely get your period. You’ll insert a new ring when that week is over."

Missing her periods is a serious issue which must be checked up on by a doctor.
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Nevo ring, she says she doesn't want to talk to anyone cause she doesn't have a problem. When we first met she would have multiple orgasms now lucky if she even gets wet
How long has she had it?

I suspect her hormones are seriously being messed up.

Mrs. Conan had an implant near the beginning of our relationship and it turned her into a total b***!

Once it was removed, she became the beautiful person I first met.
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It's already been said two or three times; but DON'T have children.


Hormonal birth control is powerful stuff. It never affected my sex drive. But after I came off it (to give my body a break); I had two-week long periods for years afterwards. The doctor's answer---you guessed it; stay on the Pill.

Periods that last for 2 weeks were not normal for me or the women in my immediate family. I knew that taking the Pill was what messed me up.


Just trying to emphasize how strong hormones are, and how they can throw your whole body out of whack.
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I tried talking to her about getting off birthcontrol since their is no reason to be on it. I had a vasectomy but she is admit she doesn't want a period. I love her to death but she does some of the dumbest things. She went to the doctor 2 years before she met me the doctor told her she had herpes gave her antiviral drugs, so my lovely wife thought once the outbreak went away she was cured. Skip ahead a few years I notice I'm having a outbreak and I'm freaking out cause I've never had a STD I'm my life. She laughs and tells me oh I've had herpes before just take something and it will go away. I sat her down and explained it never goes away and she told me she never had a STD..... She yelled at me that I was wrong herpes goes away, this resulted in a trip to her doctor that explained to her again this will never go away and she can give it to other people. So it broke a lot of trust for me but to her it was nothing.
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time to move along.

or regret it the rest of your life.


good luck
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Umm...


She needs a serious education...or a serious spanking...or both...

Tell.her to get educated with you, lose the birth control or lose you.

I'm sorry but there are also some big red infidelity flags waving in your face as well.
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@DomF

You need to see a doctor, and probably start taking anti-viral medication (ie. Valtrex), if you know that you now have genital herpes.

Having menstrual periods is normal, natural and desirable for a woman of childbearing age. What has given your wife an aversion to such an ordinary fact of life for women?

Apparently your wife has some sort of cognitive disorder, if she, literally, cannot comprehend that viruses never "go away". There is no cure for herpes, plain and simple. But it can be managed.

I'm so sorry that your health has been compromised. I don't know what to say about your wife. She doesn't sound mentally competent.

And, if you ever do have sex, wear a condom. Do not get her pregnant.
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Using hormones to stop a woman's period should be done only under a doctors supervision. I don't find any literature for using NuvaRing for this purpose. It seems unlikely the doctor prescribed it to be used the way she is using it.

It is my opinion the prescribing doctor should be made aware your wife is abusing the prescription in this way.

Your wife needs to see her gynecologist, and explain what she has been doing, and what is going on.
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I'm already on antiviral, me bringing up to her anything about her going to see anyone for any reason will result in a meltdown from her
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I'm already on antiviral, me bringing up to her anything about her going to see anyone for any reason will result in a meltdown from her
She sounds entirely unstable. Maybe time for an intervention.

Sex is the least of your worries here.
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Allowing her to continue to misuse prescription drugs is not a trivial issue.

If it were me I would discuss her current usage with the prescribing doctor. The doctor who writes the prescription has a responsibility to ensure the prescription is used responsibly.

If that leads to an emotional meltdown, so be it. I would not be an enabler if I felt my wife might be abusing prescription drugs. I would do everything I could to find the truth and work with the doctors to ensure the proper solutions were put in place.
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I'm not saying that it is your fault, but here's a question: how teachable are you? When she's shown you in the past, what she likes, have you been able to retain that information for future love making? I ask this because I'm in much the same situation, in that I really couldn't care less about having sex with my husband, and actually try to avoid it when possible. During our 4 years together, he's improved little, and has been virtually unteachable, and I've stopped trying to continue to show him. Was your wife a virgin when she met you?

Also, being on birth control pills to the point of never having your period, is really not good. Women's bodies are designed to expel that waste every month, and I can't imagine that hanging onto it all the time is healthy.


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She is on birthcontrol all the time the whole time I've know het she never had a period cause of the constant birth control. She is not on any medication at this time for her depression cause she feels like she doesn't need it.
As for her family we did get along until her depression became very bad and her family thought it was my fault.
She feels unattractive cause she kinda seems to hate everything about her and constantly compares herself to other women
I've tried everything I can with her and nothing seems to turn her on anymore and she has no desire for sex. Which in her mind is my fault.
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There is no reasoning with crazy.
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Also, being on birth control pills to the point of never having your period, is really not good. Women's bodies are designed to expel that waste every month, and I can't imagine that hanging onto it all the time is healthy.
As far as I know, skipping periods or "menstrual suppression" as my doctor calls it, is not a problem at all. The waste that Ursula above refers to may exist in a woman's natural cycle but that is not the case when one is on birth control. In fact, the bleeding that happens on hormones, really isn't a period. This is simply "withdrawal bleeding" from the absence of the usual hormones and is not at all the same as a period. In a typical period, the natural hormonal changes leads to the thickening of the lining of the uterus. The shedding of this lining when the woman fails to get pregnant is what we know as periods. This natural thickening does not occur on the pill because hormones are stabilized. However the absence of the hormones during the last week causes the existing lining to bleed. Hence the reason periods on the pill are typically lighter and less painful.

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Having menstrual periods is normal, natural and desirable for a woman of childbearing age. What has given your wife an aversion to such an ordinary fact of life for women?
For some of us women, even with birth control, menstrual periods are a discomfort that one would rather avoid. Even with birth control, my experience is still painful, I still get irritable, still feel dirty and unsexy in general. Since periods are not necessary when one is on birth control (this from my doc), it would make sense that a woman who feels very negatively about her period, would try to avoid it.
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On suppression:

Patient Fact Sheet: Understanding Menstrual Suppression
https://www.nwhn.org/menstrual-suppression/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4075955/


The first article also points to studies done using NuvaRing for menstrual suppression. It is very possible that OP's wife got the idea of using her ring for extended cycle birth control from her own doc. Although the studies were done, the ring has not been approved for extended cycle use by the FDA. Apparently extended cycle birth control does exist and is approved by the FDA however. Quick read here says that the brands Lybrel and Seasonale have been approved in the U.S and Canada:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extend..._contraceptive
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