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Old 01-03-2012, 02:38 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I tried searching through all the posts, but only found bits to what I'm looking for.

Recently, my wife and I were approached by a very well off athlete for a threesome. First, I was shocked to have a superstar walk up to us to chat. So, I was in aw for the first several minutes of conversation. Then, he asked me if we were open to which I replied "No."

As the conversation progresses, and the drinks fuddle us more, he says, "well if you guys ever decide to open up a bit, I'd love to be a part of pampering your wife!" Then walks off.

My wife was WTF is he talking about, so I told her. She was just as shocked as I was. Our night carries on as normal. When we get home we are all over each other (drunk too). Fast forward to where I'm about to enter her, and I stupidly and drunkenly ask, "so does imagining having someone else move inside you do anything?" And then I enter hard and fast. Well, the reply as expected was "OMG yes!".

That night we had some of the best sex in a long time. Now, I can't get the idea of a MFM threesome out of my mind. I don't think ill of it or her in any way. We talked about it a few times. Her reply is that the idea of being 'pampered' by two guys is a huge turn on. That she'd love to try it, but morally she doesn't believe we should.

I only see her getting blissfully fulfilled. I never see another guy when thinking of this. And crazily, I would seriously consider going through with it if she wants to one day. I feel in my heart, if we tried it, and I didn't like it, I would never hold it against her. Just chalk it up as one of those things we've tried but wont do again.

SO, finally, my questions to those who HAVE done this before (please don't respond if you haven't) :

1. is it worth it?
2. does the woman actually feel pampered or more like extra work has to be done
3. if it is worth it, how the heck do you initiate something like this?
4. Any advice or suggestions other than answers to my questions will be greatly appreciated!

Thank you!
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Old 01-03-2012, 02:45 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I get the fantasy but keep it just that. Although it works for some ppl it can go horribly wrong feelings can develop for the other man. Jealousy can rear its head.

Keep it fantasy and use it verbally during sex but anything else is a really big crap shoot.
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Old 01-03-2012, 02:48 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I once had a girlfriend back in the day and we tried it, led to other things but ultimately led to us going our separate ways. Not worth it.
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we tried soft swap, it was greate and kida weird the same time but had fun
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Old 01-04-2012, 03:36 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Inviting a strapping, young, alpha male to satisfy your wife in ways you can't is a spectacularly bad idea.
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3 somes sound kinky and maybe you think you both can handle that? Maybe there is someone who can. I think its a perfect way to screw up a marriage.

In fact I think its more likely to aid you in needing a divorce lawyer at some point and or therapy.
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Inviting a strapping, young, alpha male to satisfy your wife in ways you can't is a spectacularly bad idea.


crazy idea. maybe try some toys and role playing
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Inviting a strapping, young, alpha male to satisfy your wife in ways you can't is a spectacularly bad idea.
Yep. If you are the lesser Sexual market place value man you may be watching as your wife finds her next husband.
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Winner.


My sentiments exactly. OP...you will lose her if you do this. You just will.
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Old 01-04-2012, 11:09 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Sharing your wife? More like targeting your wife and possibly sucking her in among his possibly huge harem of seduced housewives.
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Yea, handing your wife over for some jock to use the way he has used a lot of other women is not such a good idea.


Don't be surprised if afterwards you are devistated at seeing her enjoying another man.
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I speak from personal experience about hearing numerous friends stories, threesomes are always over hyped. Truth is it's an awkward act with the only lasting result of jealousy.
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^ That's what the missus tells me, she's been in lots of 3somes in the past before she met me with both men and women, and prefers intimacy between two people instead. Yet she STILL reckons she's 100% straight >.>
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1. is it worth it?
2. does the woman actually feel pampered or more like extra work has to be done
3. if it is worth it, how the heck do you initiate something like this?
4. Any advice or suggestions other than answers to my questions will be greatly appreciated!

Thank you!
I've never done it - but it sounds like a great way to screw up a good marriage. Some fantasies should stay just that. Letting a rich, strapping, famous alpha-male athlete sleep with your wife - NO F**ING WAY!
My guess is, in your situation, 8 out of 10 couples' relationships would be adversely affected by this. The jealousy and insecurity issues that could arise from this are boundless. No way, no how. Push it out of your mind.
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