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post #1 of 10 (permalink) Old 04-15-2017, 05:48 PM Thread Starter
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Very little sensation.

I have the problem that I don't feel much when having an orgasm. Actually I can barely tell that I do.
I am 38 years old otherwise healthy and had a circumcision done a couple of years ago but my doctor can't see any issues from that.
Going to see him again beginning of next week. It was better before that but so was my marriage and I think that has more to do with it.
I was thinking maybe sex therapy but not sure it would be worth it.

Anyone have any ideas?


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I have the problem that I don't feel much when having an orgasm. Actually I can barely tell that I do.
I am 38 years old otherwise healthy and had a circumcision done a couple of years ago but my doctor can't see any issues from that.
Going to see him again beginning of next week. It was better before that but so was my marriage and I think that has more to do with it.
I was thinking maybe sex therapy but not sure it would be worth it.

Anyone have any ideas?


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Hi @Feeling lost and lonely

Thanks for your post and your openness and honesty. I know it must not be easy.

Now generally there are a couple of different angles here when this sort of thing happens. One is the physical side of things. You're obviously getting that checked out which is good.
The second part is the emotional side of things. Often these feelings are sometimes suppressed due to a blocking of energies and emotions hence, my question is - does this primarily happen during masturbation or during sex?

Inevitably, when there is an emotional connection with someone, some of the emotions can sometimes re-surface, helping with the orgasm but it may be a little deeper than that.

Look forward to your reply.

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It happens during both. My wife and I are very disconnected in so many ways and don't have sex very often.

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I had a circumcision when I was 25 and it did not affect my sex life. In fact, I busted the stitches because I could not wait. It could be a mental problem similar to men who have had a vasectomy. They lose their urge to mate or something. The head of your penis does get less sensitive when you are circumcised but not to the point that it affects your orgasm.

Are you taking any medication? There are some medications out there that will make you anorgasmic. I was on a few antidepressants that either made me impotent or anorgasmic. Other types of drugs can also do that like pain and other meds. One thing you can do is have sex or masturbate, but stop before you orgasm. Do that a few times and then orgasm and see if that helps. My wife and I got into chastity play where we have sex as usual except that she gets to orgasm every time while I have to wait until I am busting. We found that my orgasms are much greater when I have been teased and denied for a period of time. Other than that, see a doctor. Could be low testosterone or mental issues like depression. I did not know I was depressed because I was not like what I saw in the movies or on TV. Depression takes on many forms, some subtle.

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Are you saying that this is something new since your circumcision?

If your doctor says that there is nothing physically wrong, then I think that a sex therapist would be a good idea. You might have a mental block due to the circumcision.
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Age? In decent shape? Do you masterbate and does if feel different?

Do you try to hold back and not orgasm to let the sensation build?
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I had a circumcision when I was 25 and it did not affect my sex life. In fact, I busted the stitches because I could not wait. It could be a mental problem similar to men who have had a vasectomy. They lose their urge to mate or something. The head of your penis does get less sensitive when you are circumcised but not to the point that it affects my orgasm.

Are you taking any medication? There are some medications out there that will make you anorgasmic. I was on a few antidepressants that either made me impotent of anorgasmic. Other types of drug can do that like pain and other meds. One thing you can do is have sex or masturbate but stop before you orgasm. Do that a few times and then orgasm and see if that helps. My wife and I got into chastity play where we have sex as usual except that she gets to orgasm every time but I have to wait. We found that my orgasms are much greater when I have been teased and denied for a period of time. Other than that, see a doctor. Could be low testosterone or mental issues.
It has been the same with being on some medicine as it has been without any. I have not tried the stop before orgasm but I have tried to not masturbate for a week and a half or two with no difference. I tried Cialis because my doctor said that sometimes it helps, I wouldn't say it did any difference. Doctor said testosterone count was within what it should be.

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Are you saying that this is something new since your circumcision?

If your doctor says that there is nothing physically wrong, then I think that a sex therapist would be a good idea. You might have a mental block due to the circumcision.
It was better before my surgery but so was our marriage or at least so I thought so not sure if because of surgery or deteriorated marriage.
He could not see anything that looked like it was damaged, everything healing properly.



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Age? In decent shape? Do you masterbate and does if feel different?

Do you try to hold back and not orgasm to let the sensation build?
I am 38, not in great shape but not bad either.
Same feeling either way.

I have not tried that.

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The more I think about it the more I see the mental part of it being the problem.
I don't know if it is worth the money for sex therapy just for my benefit.

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