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You are going a bit far here, I understand being more empathetic to the female etc. but a bit far.
Sure, he didn't live up to your superman expectations. He made a mistake, thought he could handle it and the brave thing to do was to stand by her and get married. Unfortunately he was wrong. Just a really ****ty situation all around.
I agree it's a really ****ty situation all around.
How many women hate their stretch marks? The extra weight they can't lose after the baby? Getting grey hairs and seeing wrinkles? What every woman wants from her husband is reassurance that none of those things prevent him from seeing his wife as the attractive woman he married. That's not news to you, nor to anyone else here at TAM or even the big wide world. A woman's body changes and she is self conscious and unsure and her husband knows to reassure her. Right?
And yet here we have a very different kind of body change but a body change none the less and the husband not only failed to reassure her, he doubled down by not being able to look upon her scars.
If you think that can be excused because it's a ****ty situation all around you are mistaken in your belief about what women need from their husbands.
Secondarily, the brave thing for the husband to do would have been to work therapy and learn to forgive himself so that he could step up and be his wife's support. But he failed.
He had an opportunity to rethink marriage after the attack and he decided to go with it because he couldn't imagine himself as the kind of guy who doesn't stand by his woman when she is in need. So he was all about appearances but put nothing behind it.
That is the very definition of weak IMHO.