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post #76 of 78 (permalink) Old 04-27-2017, 04:25 PM
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Re: I need help with sustaining my marriage

See, that first sentence added a hint of compassion. I remove my 'dislike'
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@Anon Pink, Stretch marks are very different from sexual abuse scars. The former speaks happiness, while the latter speaks sadness. That guy was brave to marry her, but he wasn't prepared, which was a foolish thing to do. No women would marry a guy that was broken. That guy tried maintaining his vows for the first few years, but after not seeing any results, he lost hope. That's when thing went downhill from there on, with both of them opening up their marriage and so on. In fact, when his wife opened up the door and let him have sex with other women, that itself was symbolic. It was a symbol of the breaking of the covenant between a husband and his wife. He probably lost himself at that point, not being able to differentiate between a husband or a cheater. That was why he couldn't go on anymore, because the more it goes on, the more he loses himself.

That guy wasn't prepared, he had an easy life since young, that's why you don't spoil your children.
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@Anon Pink, Stretch marks are very different from sexual abuse scars. The former speaks happiness, while the latter speaks sadness. That guy was brave to marry her, but he wasn't prepared, which was a foolish thing to do. No women would marry a guy that was broken. That guy tried maintaining his vows for the first few years, but after not seeing any results, he lost hope. That's when thing went downhill from there on, with both of them opening up their marriage and so on. In fact, when his wife opened up the door and let him have sex with other women, that itself was symbolic. It was a symbol of the breaking of the covenant between a husband and his wife. He probably lost himself at that point, not being able to differentiate between a husband or a cheater. That was why he couldn't go on anymore, because the more it goes on, the more he loses himself.

That guy wasn't prepared, he had an easy life since young, that's why you don't spoil your children.

It doesn't matter why a scar is present, or how it got there, if it affects how a woman feels about herself, about her body, makes her self conscious and inhibited about getting naked, the man who wants her to be naked with him had better be able to honestly look past, look beyond, and convince her she remains the beautiful woman he married.

I find it hard to believe this idiot couldn't get beyond his own issues to help his wife. The need for a husband to convince his wife her mastectomy scars, lumpectomy scars, biopsy scars, and all the tubes and crap all over her chest...scars from a not pleasant event.... are not affecting how he sees her, is like basic husband 101.

"I am about to marry a woman I love dearly who was recently a victim of a brutal traumatic rape that nearly killed her. She has emotional scars, of course, and she has physical scars. I am prepared to help her through this because I will be patient about getting laid."
What an idiot!

It doesn't matter that he led a charmed life and never had to face a hardship. Everyone gets to have life smack the **** out of them at some point and most are unprepared. We deal with it, we learn how to deal with it. We figure out what we need to know in order to make it better. This husband did none of that. The next time life smacks the **** out him, he will probably continue to fail not because he was pampered, but because he lacks fortitude and uses excuses and blames others instead of looking in the mirror.

At the age of 54, I have decided I don't want people like that in my life. They suck you dry because they can't cope. OP spent her marriage trying to make things easier for her poor wittle wee baby husband. And he shows his lack of mettle by hooking up with someone else and then texting her for a divorce. OP will be so much better off with out this man.

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