Originally Posted by FeelingBetrayed View Post
I think it's a problem, my husband doesn't.
Sex should be fun, exploratory , playful and bonding. It should not be about counting or scoring orgasms.
Obviously his not climaxing bothers you and you imply it doesn't bother him.
Why does it bother you? Do you feel you are somehow being a greedy lover or an unskilled lover, or sexual failure? You probably aren't if you H is truly happy.
Figure out why this bothers you. Once you have figured it out sit down with your H and tell him it bothers you and why. Tell him that you don't have any right to change him and don't want to change him. Tell him that you want to help change yourself so that you and he are both happy when it comes to sex.
Tell him that changing yourself and your feelings may take his helping you to change yourself and that you would like the two of you to go to a sex therapist. ST's are marriage counselors with extra training in sexual matters. Work with the ST on figuring out satisfying things that build intimacy between you that you BOTH feel good about and enjoy.
It should be about intimacy and bonding not orgasm count.
P.S. There could be a bunch of medical reasons and most of them are very bad. You should probably express concern for this medical health and ask that he get a full medical check up with blood work, etc. But as long as he is enjoying sex with you, that should be the goal.
How old are the two of you and is he on any significant medications or have significant medical issues.
As men get older, sometimes they don't "finish" as easily or often as they did in their youth.