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post #31 of 64 (permalink) Old 04-18-2017, 04:18 PM
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Thank your lucky stars that you have such a woman. When her mommy days are behind her she'll go more "girly".
My daughter is a lot like this. She is in the medical field, and as a career, it is exhausting. So dressing up is foreign to her, however, her residency program requires they dress professionally when doing rounds, so my wife and I went out and bought her some nice dressy suits with skirts and pants. So, 1-2 days a week she has to dress. The rest of the time is is scrubs, and thank goodness for them, judging by the things that go flying at her (*get ready for the gross* Vomit, saliva, blood, amniotic fluid (she's an OB/GYN), feces (according to my daughter 99% of women **** while pushing out a baby), so yeah, better to wear scrubs which are pitched quickly and replaced.
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It's totally ok to tell your wife that it would mean a lot to you if she would dress up for you once in a while. Physical attractiveness is a top need for many spouses, and it sounds like she is almost there (often it's a weight thing, but in this case, it's not- just more of a preference to see her dressed up).

I'd ask her how she'd feel taking more time on date nights to get dressed up for you. Let her know that you'll handle making reservations for a weekly night out where she can do this.




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If she is insecure about your past experiences and that you continued being sexually involved with others, even after you were with her; then I'd be doubly, triply careful about asking her to change into something that even remotely resembles the women you used to chase and date. I can't begin to describe how painful that is---to feel like your S.O. wishes you were something else.

If she detects the slightest whiff of, "I don't like how you dress", or, "the way you act in bed can't hold a candle to Old Girlfriend"; then you are on the fast track to a low sex marriage.
Good post. Vital to distinguish between innate qualities and tactics.

It's as if... she has a History, with strapping construction guys in coveralls. She always admired how they put walls and roofs together.

You...don't build so good. You've no experience. And you look like an amateur when you put wooden boards on top of other wooden boards. The result doesn't hang together somehow.

You sense her chagrin. When pressed, she talks to you about how it could all be different, IF--

and right away, you pull up a Kodachrome image of Mr Brawny from her past: a rougher kind of Chippendale wearing only a day-glo orange vest, huge forearm muscles rippling as he swings the hammer--

and what you miss is that she doesn't want HIM, she only wants you...

...to get a hammer and learn to wield it, because construction goes better when you use nails.

Sorry, I went all @SunCMars there for a sec. But making her understand the above is your big challenge given the history you have.
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Have you two worked through your infidelity? That hurts forever if it's not resolved. No wonder she thinks you want to have sex with someone else. You already proved through your actions that she wasn't/isn't enough for you. She's never going to shake that feeling if you don't continuously prove to her that you are faithful and only want her.

Tread very carefully. If you don't like her the way she is, she's going to think you will find someone else and based on what you wrote, she may be right. Do you think there is any reason for adultery?

How often do you take her out on dates? How often do you take her out of town just the two of you?

Make plans now for several dates. Have the babysitting set up and put the dates on both of your calendars. Also plan a weekend getaway for May or June.

I recommend that you take her out shopping, just the two of you, and ask her to find some date night clothes. Everything from dress and shoes to underwear. Have her choose outfits for several dates. Also buy her clothes to replace things that are old. She should have several pair of shoes for work and more for dressing up. Taking her out shopping at least quarterly would probably be a good idea.

I realize it's April, but you might keep in mind after Christmas sales and take her shopping on Boxing Day (December 26th). There are a ton of sales and still plenty of merchandise in the store the week after Christmas, but people are returning lots of things on Boxing Day, so that's a good day to start. The fact that everything is on sale may spur her on to thinking that it's a good time to stock up.

Do you know where she has her hair done? I recommend that you get her gift cards to that place every 6-8 weeks. Make sure it includes enough for manicure, pedicure, hair cut, color, and a decent tip for the staff. You treat her to this. Tell her it's because she is beautiful and you want to take good care of her. It's not that you want her to be beautiful. She is beautiful and you want to take good care of your beautiful wife.

In order for your wife to feel confident, especially if she is already shy, you must show her in word and in deed that you love her, she is the only one you ever want, and you are fully committed to her and her well being. If she doesn't believe that, she will always be afraid that she's not enough for you.

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If we "go there", then the thread becomes much deeper than fashion style, or bedroom personas.

But it is kinda the elephant in the room.
Yes, it's rather important to establish whether there was cheating here...................

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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She's right. You're not into her.

My wife was like that, and still is. Funny thing, though, I didn't expect her to change how she dressed after I proposed to her. And she didn't.

It's my opinion your wife shouldn't be expected to "up her game" because you've decided you don't like her the way she was when you dated her, started having sex with her, proposed to her.

Oh well.
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I'll take her.

Does she like to fish?

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There are a number of ways to open this jar of olives.

You have a gem...in the rough.
You have a beauty, not rough but firm smooth and curvy.
You have a ten....to yourself. Once she is free of her clothes all doubts of her beauty vanish.

If she dresses up. MORE heads will turn.
If she dresses up, more heads will stand up and seek to enter her garden.
If she dresses up, she will up her sex ranking, sex status. Yours, by comparison will wither...fall flat, and sag in comparison.

In my youth, I used to build "sleepers". One was an old station wagon with a huge motor [409], upgraded shocks, springs and brakes.
I installed four mufflers on them. Two muffers in series for each bank of four cylinders. Why? It was very quiet. Nobody knew what was under the hood.
I took out everything that added weight.


I could leave it in a dark parking lot in the Ghetto and nobody would steal the banged up thing.

Nobody knew what it was until I opened it up, the hood would jump up a foot.....leaving pretty Vettes and Purple Chargers in my dust.
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Your wife is a sleeper. Much much more attractive than my [on the outside] clunkers. Your wife is above average looking.

But under the hood, Wow. She will blow the doors off those skinny azz models on New York streets and the 1/4 mile dolled up runways that they strut down.

On the sly, take her to nice restaurants, "as is". I would not care.

You have a gem. Do not let another dude polish her up...put a shiny smile on her face.

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Depends on her personality.

If she always wanted to dress up, but simply lacks the confidence, some of the above suggestions might work.

If you're just trying to change her to be more like your ex gfs, then any efforts will be a guaranteed flop.
Best to let her go and find someone with sex appeal.
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What I noted first on this thread was the fact the OP dated his wife just as she is. He enjoyed her fine then. He proposed to her then. She has not changed.

The only thing that has changed is his expectation.

After he got married he now wants her to become a fashion model, I guess.

I just don't see how he should want that, or she should be expected to provide it.

My wife wears no makeup at all. She didn't even wear makeup at our wedding. She never did during the years before I dated her. She didn't during the three months we dated. And she hasn't during our 43 years of marriage. I thought she looked great before I asked her out the first time, and before I proposed to her. I thought she looked great at the wedding, and every day since.

I do not understand how a guy can justify expecting a woman to change her ways and start being a totally different person after getting married. Did the OP discuss with his wife this expectation that she would have to become some other girl after the wedding before she accepted his proposal for marriage? Did he tell her, oh by the way you better start dressing up like you live in New York City after you get that wedding ring, babe.

Then in another thread if a woman does change after she gets married, a guy will complain bitterly about that!
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OK, let me get this straight - you cheated on her early in your relationship? Or was this going from woman to woman before you and she were together?
I'm trying to say this without sounding like a self absorbed ****. I have been thinking about how I want to word it for two hours. I don't intend for this thread to turn into a debate on how big of an ******* I am or was. The only reason why I am saying this is because it might help my wife.

I'm 4 years older than my wife. I met my wife in high school, she entered the year I was graduating. For about a year I flirted with her and got to know her. She was very shy and it took a lot of persuading. I saw it as a challenge and I didn't care that I took a year of working at it to get her clothes off. I was involved with other women and knew how to keep my wife interested and use her jealousy to my benefit. I toyed around with her and gave her enough to keep her around but we were not in a relationship. I didn't care what she wanted (a relationship) because I was getting what I wanted (sex) and kept her where I wanted her. She got pregnant at age 16/20, we still were not a couple. I kept seeing her, admittedly not as much. Like before, I kept seeing other women. The reason she got pregnant was because I got her drunk to try and loosen her up, the condom broke and I didn't tell her. Everyone at the high school my wife attended knew she was pregnant with my baby and knew she was just a "play thing" that was being led on. She was teased and harassed a lot and switched to online classes in the next term, I could have handled it better but instead did nothing. She always had a small group of friends, she was never popular but knew everyone and everyone knew her. I definitely failed her in that time. When our daughter was born I tried to be involved but wasn't as much as I should have been. When our daughter was 6 months old I had some sense knocked into me and started to get to know my wife as the mother of my child instead of a FWB. A while after (age 18/22) we (I; she always was) went exclusive and have been together for 7 years and married for 5. We have an 8 year old and 2 year old. For years I did a great job at making her feel like she wasn't good enough to commit to. When our daughter was born I did a great job at making her feel like she and our family still wasn't good enough or worth more than random hookups. I have tried to make that up to her but the past can never be erased.

I have not slept with or had any other form of sexual contact with another woman since committing to be with her. I may have been an ******* but I didn't go that far. I can't say that I haven't cheated on her, because in her mind I have, in a way. If I were asked on a polygraph if I had ever cheated on her I would be conflicted because of how SHE feels.

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If she's into working out, perhaps another great option is pole fitness classes. Not only will she get a bomb ass workout, it will help with her self confidence and work on her sexiness in a controlled setting with a group of like minded women. The pole fitness classes can also be sourced through groupon.
Thank you, that is a good idea. I'm going to see if we have that locally. I just looked it up and it is offered in our city, and they have a class for mothers. That might be something she'd like to try, especially with similar women.

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Well, it does sound like you appreciate your wife's good qualities. That is good; you don't take her for granted.

If she is insecure about your past experiences and that you continued being sexually involved with others, even after you were with her; then I'd be doubly, triply careful about asking her to change into something that even remotely resembles the women you used to chase and date. I can't begin to describe how painful that is---to feel like your S.O. wishes you were something else.

Have you ever considered that her sweetness and au naturel style may have attracted you initially? It can be very common for us to be attracted to someone for a certain quality; then try to change it.

My husband has always been a very blunt, tactless person. It was incredibly fascinating to me when I first met him. And even though it was hurtful at times; his honesty was very refreshing.

But then I started to wish he wouldn't be as honest. It started to grate on me to always get the unvarnished truth. And I saw how he ticked other people off.

So, while encouraging him to be as honest as possible, I also caution him to watch out when and where he just blurts out the first thing that is on his mind.

Point of the comparison: encourage your wife to be *her* best self. Not a copycat of the ****tier women you used to date.

Silly example: if she likes sunflowers, buy her a cute casual dress with sunflower print. She might have a dressier style; but still have her own personality shining through.

Overall, I get the feeling that your wife needs tons of reassurance that you find her attractive enough. What a sweetie, I hope she's okay.

Start small. Get her a Bath and Body Works collection in a scent you know she likes. Small encouragements. From you to her because she deserves nice things; and you want to see her get pampered from time to time.

If she detects the slightest whiff of, "I don't like how you dress", or, "the way you act in bed can't hold a candle to Old Girlfriend"; then you are on the fast track to a low sex marriage.
The women that I use to engage with were the types that always had their hair, makeup, nails done, always wore revealing clothing, put out. You're right that I don't want my wife to feel like I am trying to turn her into one of them. She already feels like she isn't good enough or doesn't compare. I try to compliment her a lot and reassure her that I want her and only her.

My wife is attractive. To be blunt, if she wasn't I wouldn't have had any interest in her many years ago. When I first saw her I was attracted to her, when I learned how shy she was it became a challenge for me to "get" her, when I "had" her I that is when I started to like who she was for more than just her body. No my finest moments but I can't change it now. You are right that if she had a different personality that blended in with the other women I saw, I probably wouldn't have focused on her so much. She has a lot of great qualities that other women I've known haven't come close to having. There was always something different about her that I wanted to figure out. I'm the lucky one that she wanted to and continues to want to be with me.

I'd just like her to dress up sometimes, even just once a week on date nights. I don't want her to change everything about who she is. I don't want our marriage to get boring, stale, bland.

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We spend 2 hours together every night when the kids are in bed and we go out on dates once a week. She doesn't want to go anywhere nice because she has nothing to wear, doesn't want to buy anything and it's too expensive (frugal). I would be happy with her just dressing nice once a week on date night. I'm not looking for her to a do a full transformation into a different person.

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You might try teaching her what you like to in the bedroom. She has no clue about what you want. Buy her lingerie; let her know how you enjoy seeing her. If she doesn't know the right way to touch you, show her. As she learns what you want, she will become "more sexy", at least in the bedroom.

Sexiness outside of the bedroom is another story, especially for working women. Make-up and styling her hair take time; she might not have time for that on every day, and you should be mindful of that.

In the end, I would hope that you find other things about your wife "sexy" that aren't necessarily physical. There are a lot of emotional aspects of "sex appeal", and overall, I think it's either there or it isn't.
It can be difficult to guide her in the bedroom. She is not up for experimenting with different things like sex anywhere other than the bed, roleplaying, new positions. It would be nice, but it's fine. At least I'm getting regular sex, I suppose. She is very submissive. The problem with trying to guide her is that she thinks it's not feeling good for me and that I've never enjoyed it or immediately jumps to not being as good as other women. I have to be very careful how I work and initiate things. It's my fault, really. She doesn't like to do things that I have done with other women, like sex in certain places, or certain acts. I caused that on my own so I have no one to blame but myself.

Her mornings are already rushed so I can understand that she wouldn't have time to do her hair and makeup before going to work. That's ok. I don't see her at work anyway.

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Have you two worked through your infidelity? That hurts forever if it's not resolved. No wonder she thinks you want to have sex with someone else. You already proved through your actions that she wasn't/isn't enough for you. She's never going to shake that feeling if you don't continuously prove to her that you are faithful and only want her.

Tread very carefully. If you don't like her the way she is, she's going to think you will find someone else and based on what you wrote, she may be right. Do you think there is any reason for adultery?

How often do you take her out on dates? How often do you take her out of town just the two of you?

Make plans now for several dates. Have the babysitting set up and put the dates on both of your calendars. Also plan a weekend getaway for May or June.

I recommend that you take her out shopping, just the two of you, and ask her to find some date night clothes. Everything from dress and shoes to underwear. Have her choose outfits for several dates. Also buy her clothes to replace things that are old. She should have several pair of shoes for work and more for dressing up. Taking her out shopping at least quarterly would probably be a good idea.

I realize it's April, but you might keep in mind after Christmas sales and take her shopping on Boxing Day (December 26th). There are a ton of sales and still plenty of merchandise in the store the week after Christmas, but people are returning lots of things on Boxing Day, so that's a good day to start. The fact that everything is on sale may spur her on to thinking that it's a good time to stock up.

Do you know where she has her hair done? I recommend that you get her gift cards to that place every 6-8 weeks. Make sure it includes enough for manicure, pedicure, hair cut, color, and a decent tip for the staff. You treat her to this. Tell her it's because she is beautiful and you want to take good care of her. It's not that you want her to be beautiful. She is beautiful and you want to take good care of your beautiful wife.

In order for your wife to feel confident, especially if she is already shy, you must show her in word and in deed that you love her, she is the only one you ever want, and you are fully committed to her and her well being. If she doesn't believe that, she will always be afraid that she's not enough for you.
I technically have never been unfaithful to her, however she does not fully agree so the damage and feelings of inadequacy are the same. I have done some things, like showing her that I only want her, removing other women from my life, removing friends who encouraged a sleazy lifestyle, she has always had full access to my phone and computer if she felt the need to look - don't think she has in many years, we spend quality time together every day. We may not have done enough work on it.

I have no desire to be unfaithful to my wife. None. I have enough self control, respect and love for my wife that even if a situation presented itself I wouldn't even think about taking it. I am much happier and much more fulfilled being with my wife than I ever was when I was hooking up with other women. My wife may not be the only woman I've dated, kissed or had sex with, but she is the only woman I've loved. To me, that trumps everything else.

We spend usually 2 hours together every night after we put our kids to bed, and we go on a date once a week. Going out of town alone is harder, we haven't done so this year and I think once last year. Our son is still nursing and she hasn't wanted to leave him longer than 24 hours. My parents are going to take the kids for a few weekends this summer, hopefully. We do a family trip once a year (going down south, Europe, etc.). We try and learn something together but I haven't kept up at it. The most recent was archery. Sometimes I am not great at changing up our dates, doing what she wants to do or leaving the plan until the last minute. Or having our daily time always be quality time. My wife appreciates the time that we do spend together, it was a challenge in the beginning but all the time spent together really did help our relationship.

I am going to go shopping with her and encourage her to find some new clothes. I'll try and keep Boxing Day in mind. If she doesn't want to I'll just have to accept that. I do know where she gets her hair done. She hasn't had it even cut since last September, when I bought her a gift card to have it done before a wedding we had to go to. She had her hair cut and coloured, eyebrows done and nails. If I keep getting her gift cards she might keep it up.
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'She is beautiful without makeup, hair done and a sexy outfit, but sometimes it would be nice. I find that my eyes wander a lot.'

You have a beautiful caring wife and mother, and yet you are still discontent. How sad. She is who she is, you married her that way. Discontentment is deadly for a marriage, and BTW, the eyes wandering part can easily be controlled by you, the eyes go no where unless you make them. Many men would be so happy with what you have.

I don't get this thing some men have of their wives needing to wear make up. I am glad I have a husband who isn't like that. He loves me just the way I am. Please appreciate the many good things about her and be thankful. Thankfulness and gratitude are such positive and beneficial emotions, discontentment is so negative and will lead to bitterness and the poisoning of your marriage. The choice is yours. Change you thinking instead of trying to change who she is.
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I'd like to start this off by saying my wife is beautiful and I love her. I have no intention of forcing or pressuring her to change. She is a great wife, great mom and I'm lucky to have her.

My wife is the type of woman who wears leggings, a t-shirt and mismatched socks every day of her life. On a good day she puts on some skinny jeans and a t-shirt, maybe shorts if it's hot out. We met as teenagers and back then I didn't give a rats behind what she wore, as long as she would take it off . To work she wears scrubs, so between that and leggings I rarely see her in anything else. She wears the same pair of shoes until they are totally worn out.

My wife is 25 and has a great body. Even after 2 children she has no sign of ever being pregnant. If she were uncomfortable with her body I could understand why she is uncomfortable dressing up or upping her sex appeal. The only makeup my wife wears in foundation and mascara. On a good day she might throw on some lip chap. She never does her hair, instead always wears it down how it naturally sits. I have known her for 11 years and I have seen her will a full face of makeup and hair done once, for our wedding. The only jewelry she wears is her wedding rings.

We have talked about it and I try to encourage her to dress up or nice. Her excuse for not wanting to is that she doesn't have time to spend hours in front of the mirror, doesn't know how to do make up and her hair "sucks" for doing anything with. Everyone has to learn at some point. I have seen her in a dress 4 times, prom, our wedding, and both of our baby showers. And a handful of casual dresses for friends weddings.

I am not going to be an ******* and tell her that she has to start doing x, y and z. I want to encourage her to do it at least sometimes. When I ask to go out to a nice restaurant she says no because she has nothing to wear but doesn't want to go buy anything. She is beautiful without makeup, hair done and a sexy outfit, but sometimes it would be nice. I find that my eyes wander a lot.

Same goes for the bedroom, she doesn't know how to be sexy. I have told her that I don't like dirty talk, really I don't like it coming from her. It just sounds so unnatural. She isn't good at being sexy with her body, or taking charge. I have a more colorful sexual past than she does (I'm her only partner) and sometimes I miss the woman who did ooze sex appeal and who could get me going without even touching me.

Is there any way to encourage her? Or is this a suck it up and deal with it situation?

Hi @seek&find

Great post and thanks for your honesty.

It's incredible how much this situation pops up and i've seen it so many times, not only in my own life, but also with clients and close friends. Sadly most of them go about addressing it in all the wrong ways and it just leads to even more frustration and a lack of passion.

There have been a number of great responses here and they all have really points but i'll give you my perspective based on what i've experienced.

Firstly, I think it's great that you're calling this out now and are prepared to do something about it. You sound like a really lovely guy who loves his wife and doesn't want to be disrespectful towards her. That's a great approach and ensures you are moving in the right direction.

Secondly, it's easy to fall into the bracket of judging yourself for having these thoughts and not finding her as sexy as she was or could be. In my personal opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's natural for things to fade from time to time hence the importance of both parties making a conscious effort to grow the relationship on all levels. I'll mention here that this also applies to her view of you as well...

There have been some really good ideas here on things that you can do so I won't repeat them but what i'll say here is that, you need to make a conscious effort to make her feel as sexy as possible. Reaffirm her as much as you possibly can and do it again and again and again until she absolutely believes it. Then, in addition to that, when the right moment comes, it's important to communicate some of your desires in a way that doesn't make her feel like you don't find her attractive for how she is. This can be a bit tricky because i've seen a lot of people slip up on it but an approach that has worked for me is something like "hun, I love that blue dress you have. You look so gorgeous in it! Would you put it on the next time we go out?". Now i'm not saying this will work for everyone but it did for my wife because it was more focussed on the positive, rather than the negative (ie I don't like how you look when you wear X). We actually had a chat about this a few months back and she said that the key to the way I communicated it was that I did it in a way that still allowed me to accept her unconditionally. If you can strike the right balance here, I have no doubt that you can turn this around.

Finally, be patient with it. Always come from a place of love and let that guide the way for you. As long as fear kicks in, the situation becomes really difficult but as long as you continue to find more and more ways to serve her and meet her needs, whilst communicating your own needs, then i'm certain that there will be a level of reciprocity that you are looking for.

Hope that all makes sense.

Any questions, please let me know.

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How about a mommy day/weekend? You can treat her to a spa visit, follow up with a surprise outfit and date night.

She says she doesn't know how to do makeup and her hair sucks, both of which may be true. I don't blame her with regards to the make up, have you tried it? Seriously, I've sat down with how-to videos and it's still difficult. If she's that young with 2 kids, she hasn't even had the time to do that much less sit around trying to figure it out herself. Same goes for the hair. So again, how about you surprise her with a make-up class and a trip to a good hairdresser? You can find both of these options on groupon.

You know her size by now, try buying her something nice. Sites like asos (online store) will let you buy, try and return without much hassle.
Keke24 advised you full option and with no Vat. May God Bless her. Now just put it on practice and do not ask your wife more than she knows. Offer her the dress and the look you want by paying those services with your own money. You will have a queen at home.. But keep carefull to lose the hard work wife and mother aspect... You will regret that too.

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I'd like to start this off by saying my wife is beautiful and I love her. I have no intention of forcing or pressuring her to change. She is a great wife, great mom and I'm lucky to have her.

My wife is the type of woman who wears leggings, a t-shirt and mismatched socks every day of her life. On a good day she puts on some skinny jeans and a t-shirt, maybe shorts if it's hot out. We met as teenagers and back then I didn't give a rats behind what she wore, as long as she would take it off . To work she wears scrubs, so between that and leggings I rarely see her in anything else. She wears the same pair of shoes until they are totally worn out.
*EDITED - Never mind, I read the rest of the thread. Get ahold of yourself. That is all.

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