The Joy it brings & importance of "allowing" our Partner to turn us on to love making
When me & mine have a little conflict... we always seem to get something out of it -that I carry with me. From our latest, I got this little "analogy".... just wanted to share...
One night I told him I wished he was still in "overdrive" (reading too many stories about horny men on this site kinda gets to me)... he replies ...."I wish I still had overdrive, that part of the transmission went out". Ok, that was cute, I even laughed, told him that was a good one. Then I start thinking ....damn his overdrive is all freaking gone, I hate this! I still fall into this mental pit once in a while wishing we could go back in time & relive his younger more sexually urgent filled days & nights.
In the midst of pms (of coarse), playing that comment over in my head, with me feeling more Frisky than him, him being more on the tired side..... I start to go off on him ....telling him he needs a NEW Transmission!! .....we had a few words, tried to ignore each other for about a half hour, then he gets on top of me looking into my eyes .... telling me how I am his soul mate pouring on the sentimental, how he doesn't want to do anything to hurt me, I am his everything in this world -and all I could think to say is.... "But do you still have a sex drive?" he starts :rofl: burying his head in my shoulder shaking it , this is typical of me I guess - then I start laughing - fight over.... onto sex.
Later that night he adds ...."Just think of it as a Manual Transmission, you have to shift it yourself, it's not automatic" ....so I can still get him into all of those gears while driving him. And I just thought .....how TRUE that is ! Somehow him saying this to me just lifted my spirits , although his is NOT automatically in Overdrive anymore - like a young stud.... I can still work those gears taking hold of his gearshift and put him in that glorious overdrive. All is not lost, his Hummer still runs fine ...working those gears, never fails to get us to our destination.
I would imagine there is alot of posters here who, if given a chance, we would also like to trade our spouses manual transmissions in for an Auto & put the pedal to the medal !
At the end of the day, all that really matters is ...our spouses ALLOW us to drive them, allow us to arouse them , cause once we get them going, it was like we were in automatic all along.
When I was younger, I never really thought of these things, he expected ME to be in automatic, but I wasn't... he needed to turn me on.... now we have switched roles to some degree.
And never forget the emotional bonding in all of these things.
When me & mine have a little conflict... we always seem to get something out of it -that I carry with me. From our latest, I got this little "analogy".... just wanted to share...
One night I told him I wished he was still in "overdrive" (reading too many stories about horny men on this site kinda gets to me)... he replies ...."I wish I still had overdrive, that part of the transmission went out". Ok, that was cute, I even laughed, told him that was a good one. Then I start thinking ....damn his overdrive is all freaking gone, I hate this! I still fall into this mental pit once in a while wishing we could go back in time & relive his younger more sexually urgent filled days & nights.
In the midst of pms (of coarse), playing that comment over in my head, with me feeling more Frisky than him, him being more on the tired side..... I start to go off on him ....telling him he needs a NEW Transmission!! .....we had a few words, tried to ignore each other for about a half hour, then he gets on top of me looking into my eyes .... telling me how I am his soul mate pouring on the sentimental, how he doesn't want to do anything to hurt me, I am his everything in this world -and all I could think to say is.... "But do you still have a sex drive?" he starts :rofl: burying his head in my shoulder shaking it , this is typical of me I guess - then I start laughing - fight over.... onto sex.
Later that night he adds ...."Just think of it as a Manual Transmission, you have to shift it yourself, it's not automatic" ....so I can still get him into all of those gears while driving him. And I just thought .....how TRUE that is ! Somehow him saying this to me just lifted my spirits , although his is NOT automatically in Overdrive anymore - like a young stud.... I can still work those gears taking hold of his gearshift and put him in that glorious overdrive. All is not lost, his Hummer still runs fine ...working those gears, never fails to get us to our destination.
I would imagine there is alot of posters here who, if given a chance, we would also like to trade our spouses manual transmissions in for an Auto & put the pedal to the medal !
At the end of the day, all that really matters is ...our spouses ALLOW us to drive them, allow us to arouse them , cause once we get them going, it was like we were in automatic all along.
When I was younger, I never really thought of these things, he expected ME to be in automatic, but I wasn't... he needed to turn me on.... now we have switched roles to some degree.
Who is driving today - will your spouse allow you to take the lead, yeiding themselves to your desires ? This is such an important part of the marraige bed -its simple truth could save so very much heartache for the higher automatic driven spouse. Nothing wrong with our transmissions being different, just the consistent unwillingness when the other "needs" & is antsy to go for that ride.
And never forget the emotional bonding in all of these things.