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Old 07-30-2012, 06:25 PM   #46 (permalink)
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The etymology of the word pornography is:

"pornography
1857, "description of prostitutes," from Fr. pornographie, from Gk. pornographos "(one) writing of prostitutes," from porne "prostitute," originally "bought, purchased" (with an original notion, probably of "female slave sold for prostitution;" related to pernanai "to sell," from PIE root per- "to traffic in, to sell," cf. L. pretium "price") + graphein "to write" (see -graphy). Originally used of classical art and writing; application to modern examples began 1880s. Main modern meaning "salacious writing or pictures" represents a slight shift from the etymology, though classical depictions of prostitution usually had this quality."
Yes. The word comes to us from the French pornographie, via the French speaking section of New Orleans in the 1840's. The French word was in turn derived from the Greek, πορνογραφος.

It was a compound word formed by fusing the feminine noun, πορνή (Prostitute) with the infinitive, γραφειν (to writie)

Unlike Greek words of recent origin like "Photograph" or "Cardiograph" this was real bonafide ancient word that was used in speech.
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Old 07-30-2012, 06:35 PM   #47 (permalink)
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Jen's Husband...sounds like you married me (to an extent). My husband is 19yrs my senior and I'm in my 30s SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED does not begin to explain what I'm feeling right now.

I love him dearly and have for sometime; however have always been the one with the naughty side & high drive. Now I'm just a full on pervert! If we're apart & I'm near my computer...I'm watching porn and touching myself. This is my way of satisfying my desires...not bother him...and not go outside the marriage

I've tried talking to him (in many different ways) to express my insane attraction & desire for him most recently. He says he loves it, but when it comes to the bed...he doesn't show it. I spend so much time coming up with new ways to satisfy him and possibly open him up to try new things but get shot down. So...

There I go taking care of myself...watching the mens faces in the videos and too appreciating when they look into the women's faces...wishing it was me. Eventually...our connection will be lost I'm sure...but I feel I'm left with no other recourse. I will add to the 'Wife Addicted To Porn' Tally...by default.
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Old 08-01-2012, 11:12 AM   #48 (permalink)
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There I go taking care of myself...watching the mens faces in the videos and too appreciating when they look into the women's faces...wishing it was me. Eventually...our connection will be lost I'm sure...but I feel I'm left with no other recourse. I will add to the 'Wife Addicted To Porn' Tally...by default.
It almost seems for you it's the emotional aspect of the porn that's the most arousing (i.e. the look in the men's faces). I wonder if there's a distiction there between what is appealing to women versus what is appealing to men.

For me the most appealing aspect is the excitement level of the participants. If I'm convinced the 'actors' are truly into it I find that very exciting.
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It almost seems for you it's the emotional aspect of the porn that's the most arousing (i.e. the look in the men's faces). I wonder if there's a distiction there between what is appealing to women versus what is appealing to men.

For me the most appealing aspect is the excitement level of the participants. If I'm convinced the 'actors' are truly into it I find that very exciting.
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Old 08-01-2012, 01:30 PM   #50 (permalink)
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It almost seems for you it's the emotional aspect of the porn that's the most arousing (i.e. the look in the men's faces). I wonder if there's a distiction there between what is appealing to women versus what is appealing to men.

For me the most appealing aspect is the excitement level of the participants. If I'm convinced the 'actors' are truly into it I find that very exciting.
No sh*t?! I never thought about it...but I think you're right. I am mostly turned on when I can see the male's face and not so much with the crotch shots.

I can appreciate the excitement too, though. A motionless, silent female certainly will not be added to my list of favorites
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I can appreciate the excitement too, though. A motionless, silent female certainly will not be added to my list of favorites
Neither in a movie or in real life...
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