Like others, my sex life has stalled with my husband. After 13 years and 4 kids, I guess it was bound to happen. We've been open about the lack of sex and the lack of intimacy. We've tried toys, scheduled sex, nothing seemed to bring back that spark. My husband told me he wanted a 3 way and I agreed out of desperation. I figured if I at least did something to make him happy, maybe I could find happiness myself. What surprised me is that he wanted another man. I guess I just assumed he wanted a woman. So my husband set everything up and found the guy on Craigslist. We met for coffee and the guy seemed pretty nice. He said he had done it once before but I still couldn't help but feel nervous.
So I'll spare the unnecessary details about the sex but the problem and the reason I'm here is because during the encounter, my husband began to give this man oral sex. I was not ok with that and I couldn't stand to see him doing that. I don't know why but it just feels like that wasn't his first time. He moved as if he did it before. He also did it until the guy climaxed. This whole thing just killed my mood but my husband seemed so happy. We talked later about it and he said it was his first time. The worst past is that he enjoyed it and said he wants to do this again. I love this man but I don't know what to do. Maybe this behavior is normal since this was my first 3 way. I don't want to deprive him off his happiness but it just hurts to see him do that sinceI could never satisfy him in that way. Am I overreacting or is this normal?
So I'll spare the unnecessary details about the sex but the problem and the reason I'm here is because during the encounter, my husband began to give this man oral sex. I was not ok with that and I couldn't stand to see him doing that. I don't know why but it just feels like that wasn't his first time. He moved as if he did it before. He also did it until the guy climaxed. This whole thing just killed my mood but my husband seemed so happy. We talked later about it and he said it was his first time. The worst past is that he enjoyed it and said he wants to do this again. I love this man but I don't know what to do. Maybe this behavior is normal since this was my first 3 way. I don't want to deprive him off his happiness but it just hurts to see him do that sinceI could never satisfy him in that way. Am I overreacting or is this normal?