Cherry

P.S. I can bet you money if you decide to cheat and it only consist of a bj, you will be paying money to some nasty street *****, or good money to a high class escort service... No self respecting woman would agree to JUST suck a married man's d!ck. Any way you do it... STD galore. Your poor wife.
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trey69

Here it is 15 pages later and 200 and some posts later, and apparently no one has gotten through to him. I think he had made up his mind long ago before he even posted he wanted BJ's and he would get them anyway he can, period. I think he was looking for validation, and whether he gets that or not, he will still do whatever it takes to get a BJ, if not from his wife from who ever. Good luck!

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Cherry

True.
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ScaredandUnsure

I really hope his wife finds out. No one deserves to be cheated on, but some people deserve to be divorced.

that_girl

Yea. This is really sad.

Not "boo-hoo sad" either.

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SunnyT

SOME marriages just need to end. OP and his W treat each other like garbage. What is the point of being married when you don't really like each other?????

CallaLily

Some like the drama of it all. I know some people claim they do not like drama and chaos etc, but for some, if they didn't have at least that, they wouldn't have any thing. Just sayin.'

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thegreatwm

I actually learned a lot from this thread. I was originally ready to cheat on her earlier but from the advice here, I decided to try to fix this situation 3 months after she gives birth. I also learned that I deserve to be happy just like my children need a father. That's why I feel it's better to not divorce her over this. If my wife fails to meet my demands in the bedroom, then I will have to turn to alternate sources so I can be happy. It may not be worth tearing my family up over but it's not worth me living the rest of my life unhappy either. Is there any woman here that can honestly deny their husband a normal sexual act and then get upset when he gets the same act from someone else. I'm sure the answer is no.

SunnyT

The answer is YES. When you got married, you made PROMISES to her. So IF you cheat, then you are breaking those promises.

I agree that you have a valid grievance, and it's good that you are letting it sit for awhile til after the baby is born. But the idea that it will be ok to cheat at that point is whack. When you feel it has come to the time to cheat.... THAT is the time to get a divorce. You will still have your children if you divorce.... it's all about how you handle it.

Cherry

Do what? Do you REALLY need to ask? When your unsuspecting wife catches you cheating, I'll let her answer that question. You are basically here telling a bunch of people you plan on cheating on your wife, the mother of your children... We can't fix why your wife doesn't want to suck your ****, we have given you several ways for you to resolve this and you want nothing to do with any of them... The only solution you see is lying and cheating to your wife.... That sir is a disgrace for an act of love, but no, that's right you just need a mouth to masturbate to... It has nothing to do with love to you and I suspect your wife knows that AND that's why she finds it disgusting. Good day.
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Catherine602

You haven't learned a thing except to delay cheating until 3 months after the birth of your child. I am going to predict that your wife will not give you a bj. The fact that you think you can demand a sex act shows that you have a warped view of sex.

If you can think of a woman responding positively to a demand and a threat, you have really bad times ahead.. When your wife makes demands of you and threatens you, what do you do? You resist and you don't do what she wants. That is what she will do. Only a women with extremely low self esteem would dream of servicing you. Your wife does not sound like that kind of women. You will be lucky if she has more than occasional sex to shut you up.

Under those circumstances you'll cheat and i am certain ler her know. If you expect her to capitulate then you are in a serious delusional state. Your wife will not tolerate coersion and you will likely lose your family. I don't think you will do so well in your search for a woman to service you because your view of women is worped. You may have had beginners luck with your wife, not many women would tolerate your bj demands for as long as she did. You will discover that after your wife has moved on.

I hope wake up and take the lead to solve the problems in your marriage. You may have to hit rock bottom before you turn yourself around.
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thegreatwm

Maybe it is a little harsh if I say that I demand a sex act but that doesn't detract from the fact that it is something I like and that I want. For example, if your son keeps asking you for candy and you keep saying no, you can't really be too upset with him when you find out he went behind your back and stole the candy. You would be just as much to blame since giving him candy would not have been wrong in the first place and your decision was purely arbitrary on your part.

Contrary to what everyone here thinks of me, I do not demand bjs from my wife to demean her or to solidify my role as king of the castle. I feel that bjs are a act of gratitude and it tells me how much she loves me as a husband and a provider. If I come home from a long day and she gives me one, it tells me that she appreciates me and this is my reward for taking care of my family. I have explained to her my view on this btw. Maybe my view is twisted but when she denies me, it makes me feel like I am not appreciate or loved at that moment.

Bobby5000

Better analogy. You go for a job interview, and everyone is very nice and pleasant, and when you start working, people want you to do work, sometimes at off hours, nights, and weekends, and have criticism, and inconsistent rules.

Do be realistic about your marital options. With divorce, you're looking at custody and visitation orders, seeing your kids about once every weeks, paying about 15,000 to 50,000 for a lawyer who will tell you everything is your wife's fault, and you are entitled to whatever you want and then when your money runs out you get a dose of reality, your parent(s) complaining about their lack of access, friends taking sides, hassles over everything, support orders and garnishments. Consider whether it's worth it.

Look, we I did a survey about this one drunk Saturday about 3:00 A.M. and the participating wives were about 20%. That number will presumably be less when a wife just finished a pregnancy. If you believe there should be a federal labeling and disclosure law for this, I wouldn't disagree, but it's not something to get divorced about.

Before anyone jumps on my case, I will start off with an analogy. Imagine that you bought a new car and you love it dearly. When you bought the car, the A.C. worked perfectly and it gave you no problems. One day, the A.C. stopped working and you found out that there was no way possible to repair it. Even though you love the car, you have to drive around unhappy and uncomfortable because you are hot due to the lack of A.C.. Would you continue to drive the car without the A.C. or would you trade it in for a new one even though you love your old one dearly?

This is how I feel about my wife. She is currently pregnant and I'm getting recovering from a masturbation addiction. When we first got married. My wife would give me BJs whenever I asked her. Usually she wouldn't do it if I didn't ask. Last year, every time I asked for one, she always made a stupid excuse such as her mouth hurts or she doesn't feel like it. Please keep in mind that I never ejaculated in her mouth.

Now, I understand that she is not always in the mood for sex (especially since she is pregnant) but she told me a couple months ago and she thinks BJs are disgusting and she doesn't want to give them to me anymore. I thought she was kidding but every time I asked about it, she gets really upset and defensive. She really stands her ground and refuses to satisfy me. This makes me upset because she used to give me Bjs before we were married and also during the first part of our marriage. I feel like I was scammed because I am young (28) and I can't imagine living my life without another BJ. If I was older, maybe I would be content with this but not at 28!

Now the issue is....What should I do? I really love her and we already have 1 son together. She is due to have the second baby in May. I have always did what she wanted to do sexually and I can't get anymore BJs? I help with chores around the house and I do everything a good man should but she neglects me on this. Like I mentioned before, I feel duped on the whole thing. The only option I think I have is to either leave her or either find someone on the side to satisfy me. She is a good woman and mother but I feel that she doesn't love me if she can't give me a bj. She knows that I am clean so there is no excuse for her not to satisfy me. I am also open to any tricks that anyone has that may change her mind and start to give them to me. I am thinking that if I can convince her that another women wants to give me one, she might submit on the issue. Please Help![/QUOTE]

Cherry

How can you even say that? You're willing to let some woman, any woman, suck your **** if your wife doesn't, are those *****s showing their love and gratitude to you too?

I wish you would head over to coping with infidelity forum.... You can read up on all the hurt caused by what you are saying you're going to do. It's more that a just a sex act. You are missing that aspect of the whole thing. I personally don't give a crap what you choose to do, but give your wife the opportunity to choose whether she wants to be cheated on or not. Tell her your plan. Ohhh noooo, that's a concept huh????
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Jamison

I think the thread is now more all long the lines of anything for attention. He has made it clear he wants a bj and they are highly important to him, and if he his wife fails to give him one, he will seek it else where. 16 pages later he is still saying pretty much the same things, he wants, needs gotta have bj's. He is recovering from masturbation addiction which IMO the bj's has been all long, has been the replacement for the masturbation. If it wasn't bj's it would more than likely be something else.