There usually is another issue.
The lack of oral is usually a symptom of a larger problem and not the problem itself ..
I did notice the OP stated he got oral "When he asked".
This leads me to believe she wasn`t really doing it because she liked it but because he wanted it.
After being married awhile she might just figure "What`s he gonna do now? He`s stuck"
Textbook bait & switch.
The OP would need to clarify his wifes past desire to have him in her mouth before I could begin to wonder if her lack of desire is only a symptom in this case.
You should have apps for that so you can just plug it in:
BAIT & SWITCH
That's your answer to every problem. If every man took your advice the divorce rate would be 99%. There could be other reasons why this has happened and exploring them may actually help this man with his frusatrations.
If the problem has to do with a dynamic set up between them that is partically his doing, all of his relationships will end up in frustration. He can always divorce so what is the rusj.
Ummm, let's see, a 28 yo man, with one marriage come and gone, with an emotionally distraught ex that he left with two kids in diapers, paying maintenance and child support, and with visitation every other week, looking for a woman to give him bj's on demand.
Does not look like a promising dating prospect. The question of why you left your wife may come up. You can lie but the fact remains that women with any common sense, will not find a man who leaves 2 young kids attractive.
You'er unhappy but you are not a man who should get himself in a position where he cannot be respected by women. That will make you even more unhappy.
The bj love thing - think about this rationally - is it love when you feel that seeking a sex act matters more than the pain and devastation of ditching your wife and kids?
No I don't think you are that person, a man who commits to a women and has two kids is worth something in this society. He has to know that but what happened?
Something more than bj is missing from your marriage. You sound as if you don't feel loved or respected. It may be easier to focus on bj and not other more serious issues.
Don't run from these problems. Try to work them out and work on being a man that garners respect and a partner willing to please him. Don't take your problems with you to the next relationship.
You don't seem to appreciate your wife and the lovely children you brought into the world. Step back and look at that. That does not solve your unhappiness but it may help you to stay and work on things.
That's the way I see it. But then again, I'm a women and I've never had bj's. Maybe they are like crack cocaine?
I just read your other threads - lots of problems. There are two sides to every story though. MC?