I don't know, a lot of what I saw in there seems like why females believe that men love oral, not why men actually do. I'd like to think I'm pretty darned self aware of why certain things drive me to act or feel a certain way. And I'm pretty sure that feeling dominant or her having to "submit" to me for me to "feel like a man". Nor do I want my woman to be "vulnerable" to me. And it has nothing to do with her "admiration" of my junk. From my standpoint, that is all a bunch of crap.
But, it does have something to do with "connection" and "percieved love". That I won't argue. There is a great connection to be found in someone giving in such a way that there's no return PHYSICAL satisfaction in it for them. Guess that's why I love to give her oral as well.
But, the fact is, it just feels great, and is a great visual as well (and us guys are very visual). It feels great because it's different, very different when a woman is good at it. And it feels great because I try to be very careful to not do anything that would hurt her or make it an unpleasant experience for her. So, in that regard she's in control, and I'm more or less "along for the ride". I can't thrust too much, or get out of control. And it brings about a long building, slow, intense orgasm at HER speed.
I could care less if she swallowed, though it certainly is a nice thought that she does not despise that part of me. But it is important to complete the whole "bj experience" to finish in her mouth. Because it takes that slow build up to orgasm, and finishes it at the same speed without interruption of thought or sensation. Slow, and intense.
The idea some have is because we men enjoy it because we can lay back and "be lazy" and not do anything is complete horse crap as well. We are always expending large amounts of energy to make sure the woman has an orgasm, as well as to get one ourselves. Most of the time, the man is thrusting (though some return thrusting is very nice), in some awkward or tiring position, and exerting ourselves. Unless she's on top, then roles are a bit reversed. I know that while my W "feels" tired after sex, it is never moreso than when she's on top and doing "all the work".
For some guys I agree it is a thing of dominance. But I think you have to already be sleeping with a guy who gets off on dominating a woman in many ways (sexual ways) for that to be so. If it's a "domination" thing, I think you'll see that domination clearly in other areas of the bedroom (or life) with the guy. I think most every guy enjoys a great bj. I don't think there are nearly as many as enjoy the whole "dominating" of their woman.
To me, it's also been a fairly accurate litmus test of sorts. I've been in relationships where bj's where either non-existent, or were only during the honeymoon phase. Then things turned to "that's disgusting" or "I just really don't like giving them, but did it for you" type of thing. The slowdown in sex almost always ineveitably followed. On the other hand, the one's who seemed to truly enjoy it, it seemed there never was much slow down in passion or frequency. It hasn't been 100% accurate, but pretty close. Like I told my buddy once..."show me a woman who doesn't want to give bj's or think they're disgusing, and I'll show you a woman who is going to stop sleeping with you when she has her hooks in you". Now, don't blast me for that, because I know there are exceptions. And I also know, as stated above, that sometimes it stops because the guy gets out of honeymoon phase (stops showering, manscaping, showing appropriate amounts of appreciation, etc). If I were a woman, I wouldn't do that any more than if my W stopped her landscaping or expected that after a long sweaty day without a shower.
It's a greatly satisfying, natural sex act for both parties in a sexually healthy, open, comfortable and reciprocal relationship.
I know my W enjoys giving them to me. She says she sometimes masturbates to the thoughts of doing so, and also texts sometimes about having a craving or desire to do so. That hasn't changed over time, so I doubt it is her blowing so much smoke up my rear end. I never "have to" ask for one. Though sometimes I do "crave" one myself, and will let that be known. Other than that, she's got me more than covered.