02-16-2012, 02:31 AM
Join Date: Jan 2012
| | Re: thinking of getting a sex partner whilst married
If there is one thing I have noticed too is that people who put more emphisis ontheir social life, GNO etc, seem to do more damage than porn or any other thing. Even affairs. While these things seem to cause damage to relationships, it is often curable as both sides are more attentive to working it out. (This is apart from serial cheats).
However, party animals rarely admit they are the problem. That what they are doing is neglecting their partner. In their eyes, they seem to see it as they are spending time with their partner and doing their part in cementing the relationship. WHile in some circles, this may work, in many cases it doesn't.
One partner has a tendancy to feel that the person they are with is enough. They want to settle down, start a family and fall into the role of Mr and Mrs Citizen. The other partner isn't ready for this life and enjoy the bright lights, loud music and the social company of many friends. For them, friends become more important than their partner and place them first.
As the ressentment builds in one of the partners, the resistance grows stronger. The party animal begins to feel trapped and suffocates while the other partner feels neglected.
Once this happens, the relationship is doomed.