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post #31 of 80 (permalink) Old 05-19-2017, 04:39 PM Thread Starter
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Re: Do you have inappropriate sexual fantasies

I'm starting to think I asked a dumb question.

I was thinking of "appropriate" fantasies as things that many people would think are OK - as fantasies, even if not in reality. Maybe different / multiple partners. Unusual scenarios - secret agent, house maid. Mild kinky things like spankings. Things that would generally be OK if out were not in a relationship.

I was thinking of inappropriate as things that would seriously shock many people - incest, rape etc. Things that would never be OK in real life.



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I guess I'm hung up on the definition of inappropriate. Are we talking illegal like incest, child or rape or something like threesome or sleeping with your wife's best friend? Just saying aren't most fantasies inappropriate? That's why their fantasies and not reality?

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Thanks for explaining, in that case no, I don't have inappropriate fantasies. The problem with fantasies is they can consume you to the point where real sex no longer is satisfying. I would suggest anyone​ fantasizing about illegal/inappropriate things be cautious.

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https://www.amazon.co.uk/Men-Love-Na...s=nancy+friday

I have this book and it made me think somewhat differently towards 'inappropriate' fantasies. However, there were chapters I skipped (yuk).

The general essence of the book is that inappropriate fantasies are normal, but NOT acted upon, and they are very diverse and individual.

(if anyone wants a copy I will post if free - my charity will not take it)
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I wouldn't feed or dwell on any fantasy that was illegal or immoral. After all we can control where our minds go.

The sort of fantasies that to me would be unacceptable are anything that involves violence or force(rape, incest), sex with an underage person, bestiality, fantasizing about someone you are not married to, pretending your spouse is someone else when you have sex with them etc etc.


Of course you wouldn't, dear. Because we all know you are a princess who ****s gold and it smells like roses, oh perfect one.

All hail Diana! Princess of perfection!

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https://www.amazon.co.uk/Men-Love-Na...s=nancy+friday

I have this book and it made me think somewhat differently towards 'inappropriate' fantasies. However, there were chapters I skipped (yuk).

The general essence of the book is that inappropriate fantasies are normal, but NOT acted upon, and they are very diverse and individual.

(if anyone wants a copy I will post if free - my charity will not take it)
Actually the women's version came first:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Secret-G...+secret+garden

This would be quite an eye opener for a lot of guys
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A lot of my fantasies are things I wouldn't want to happen in real life so I guess that makes them inappropriate.
Same here!
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I recently had sexual fantasies that were inadvertently inappropriate.

My daughter is in gymnastics, and her prior coach was a fit, beautiful young woman. DD really liked her. I thought she was about 21 or 22, and would occasionally allow my mind to wander to vivid imagery.

Turned out she was 17.

I scrubbed myself in the shower for a very, very long time. And not in the "pun intended" kind of way. It was the "Ace Ventura discovering Einhorn is a man" kind of way.
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I wouldn't feed or dwell on any fantasy that was illegal or immoral. After all we can control where our minds go.
The sort of fantasies that to me would be unacceptable are anything that involves violence or force(rape, incest), sex with an underage person, bestiality, fantasizing about someone you are not married to, pretending your spouse is someone else when you have sex with them etc etc.
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Of course you wouldn't, dear. Because we all know you are a princess who ****s gold and it smells like roses, oh perfect one.

All hail Diana! Princess of perfection!

I'll take a ban for this one...it's been coming


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Diana's stance on inappropriate sexual fantasies may seem unrealistic or even dishonest. It's also possible that this is an exact reflection of her sexuality: her fantasies may consist of herself and her husband being Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden. On the other extreme, if she's fantasized about sex with an animal----maybe she feels a lot of shame about that [understandably], and doesn't want to share it with anyone.

But either way, she shared what she shared; and I don't think you should be ****ty to her about it. Please roll your eyes privately.

I felt the need to stick up for someone that I think is being picked on for who they are; not what they are saying.
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https://www.amazon.co.uk/Men-Love-Na...s=nancy+friday

I have this book and it made me think somewhat differently towards 'inappropriate' fantasies. However, there were chapters I skipped (yuk).

The general essence of the book is that inappropriate fantasies are normal, but NOT acted upon, and they are very diverse and individual.

(if anyone wants a copy I will post if free - my charity will not take it)
Actually the women's version came first:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/My-Secret-G...+secret+garden

This would be quite an eye opener for a lot of guys
The women's fantasy book was much better than the male one, IMO. Both of them were fascinating though.

Those books were written pre internet. These days you can read incredible fantasy stories all day long if you want. When those books were written, the author had to do it by questionnaire and interviews. But she got a great slice of a view of fantasies in general and the books are a great compilation.

The books include both real stories and fantasies about incest, beastiality, rape, and other interesting topics.
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Same here!
Really?

You fantasize about aliens with tentacles too?



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I wouldn't feed or dwell on any fantasy that was illegal or immoral. After all we can control where our minds go.
The sort of fantasies that to me would be unacceptable are anything that involves violence or force(rape, incest), sex with an underage person, bestiality, fantasizing about someone you are not married to, pretending your spouse is someone else when you have sex with them etc etc.
LOL!!! Seriously this is your list of unacceptable and you have the hutzpuh to claim to have such a banging sex life? Honey if this stuff is unacceptable to even think about there is no way your sex life is anything but a snooze fest.

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lol I'm thinking TAM could could start an ice cream factory with all this vanilla. I'm also thinking my reading list would make several on this thread faint.


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After reading this thread, I am certain that I must be a demon. Lol

I fantasize about all kinds of crazy stuff when I am bored. Most of it inappropriate for real life.

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Aah, the the Japanese.

Of course in ancient Greek myth Zeus seduced women by appearing as golden rain, or as a swan. um....

I think kinky fantasies are nothing new....



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post #45 of 80 (permalink) Old 05-19-2017, 11:43 PM
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Re: Do you have inappropriate sexual fantasies

Fantasies are not reality. What is inappropriate would have to be defined to know if the fantasy was inappropriate. I do not judge my fantasies, just my reality.

Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality.
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