your post from the end of my thread:
So, I read this entire thread in one go last night, stayed up way too late. Lately it's been very important that I get enough sleep and I thought (many times) to myself how weird it was that I was staying up late to do this. I do a lot of thinking about topics I consider important. Lately I've been thinking a lot about relationships, particularly between men and women, particularly about sex. Since my usual interests are History, Public Policy, Global Warming and Baseball, this topic doesn't seem to fit. Especially since I have few problems in this area personally. But, then again, what’s more important than sex?
I was describing what I’d spent the last night doing to a friend that shares the same diverse group of interests. He asked what the story was and I highlighted the main elements of Nueklas’ tale. As I got near the end, he asked “Does it end well?”.
Well, that depends. It seemed like a happy ending. After all, there’d been self-improvement, more satisfying sex. But I was haunted by something Nueklas had said early on: "I fight all day at work. It's business. No one is going to give it to you, so you have to take it. Home is the sanctuary. Last thing I want there is more of what I just left at the office. It's not so much conflict avoidance at that point as it is a strong desire to have one place in your life with no conflict at all."
By that measure, maybe it wasn’t that happy an ending after all. He’s got to be on the top of his game all day long at work and he just wants to come home and have his wife respect him, love him, enjoy his company and relax in his “sanctuary”. I don’t think that’s a bad thing to want. Sure, constant striving leads to more achievement. But really, sometimes you just want to relax. Be at home. Whatever was going on in his wife’s head; could it really have been worth taking this away from him?
I'd answer your question this way: without my children, who I adore, no, it's not worth it. Which is why, if I were the OP and at his stage of life, I would run for the hills.