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I was talking to a friend the other day and during our conversation, the topic of porn came up. I said that porn is not good because it alters men's perception of sex and women. He said he agreed but he believes that for many men the allure comes not from the beautiful women having sex but in their behavior in the sex scenes. I asked him to elaborate and he said that it was their enthusiasm - real or fake - that is the real attractant to many men. I thought about for a minute and it does seem to make sense for how many times the best sex we've had with our wives or GF has been when they've wanted to have sex as much - or more - than we? What do you think?
I was talking to a friend the other day and during our conversation, the topic of porn came up. I said that porn is not good because it alters men's perception of sex and women. He said he agreed but he believes that for many men the allure comes not from the beautiful women having sex but in their behavior in the sex scenes. I asked him to elaborate and he said that it was their enthusiasm - real or fake - that is the real attractant to many men. I thought about for a minute and it does seem to make sense for how many times the best sex we've had with our wives or GF has been when they've wanted to have sex as much - or more - than we? What do you think?
I think it's true, I do believe it's the way the women look as well, but yes, the enthusiasm is probably pretty desirable.
I was talking to a friend the other day and during our conversation, the topic of porn came up. I said that porn is not good because it alters men's perception of sex and women. He said he agreed but he believes that for many men the allure comes not from the beautiful women having sex but in their behavior in the sex scenes. I asked him to elaborate and he said that it was their enthusiasm - real or fake - that is the real attractant to many men. I thought about for a minute and it does seem to make sense for how many times the best sex we've had with our wives or GF has been when they've wanted to have sex as much - or more - than we? What do you think?
I agree with this thought. Even though it is fake, the image of a woman being that into sex (and into me) is very alluring. It is what I want when I say I want my wife to be my own personal porn star - its not the weird positions, the fake body or the different acts, it is that she will be into me and having sex with me that much.
good for you.... if our theroy is right you should be married forever.
lol Well, that's the plan!
I just love sex with my husband. He's so yummy! I know that sometimes people have issues that cause sex to take a bad turn...but...I have always desired him. Sex with him is amazing and I let him know I think so.
I attacked him this morning after my shower and we had a quickie ...with 2 minutes to spare before his alarm went off
I think that is wonderful, and sometimes rare. I bet he has helped you to be able to keep desiring him too. I'm not just meaning in his looks/physical sense, but meeting your needs in other ways as well. I'm sure thats a "desirable" trait when your needs are being met.
When women ask how to really knock their guys world I always first think: be excited, put energy into it, put thought into it. Enthusiasm.
I think this is why folks who report affair sex to be good find it that way. They actually have a partner putting effort into it, as they themselves are. Mean while back home each of them inputting zero, r little effort in and companions that sex with their SO is bad.
Honestly, wanna rock a guys world like a porn star - then throw yourself into the act like a porn star.
I wonder if there is selfish bored wife porn out there where the guy spends two days begging her,pestering her, followed by her giving 10 minutes of just get it over with sex? Posted via Mobile Device
I think this is why folks who report affair sex to be good find it that way. They actually have a partner putting effort into it, as they themselves are. Mean while back home each of them inputting zero, r little effort in and companions that sex with their SO is bad.
I wonder if there is selfish bored wife porn out there where the guy spends two days begging her,pestering her, followed by her giving 10 minutes of just get it over with sex? Posted via Mobile Device
Well of course, its like that in the beginning of most relationships too, until they get to see their true spouse, then it all changes.
Are you meaning a porn vid out there of a bored wife acting like she doesn't want to do anything? I doubt it, I mean Sex and Enthusiasm, is what sells.
Me too! So why does H so rarely want to partake???
As I said before, how we treat each other out of bed can have a great impact on how we will feel when the time comes to be sexually intimate. It is not the only factor of course that has an impact in wanting sex (work, depression, low levels of testosterone, etc) but it is the one we have control over. Our behavior is an extremely important factor affecting sexual desire. Resentment is a definite desire killer.
This is exactly what I told my GF a few weeks ago when she was bemoaning porn.
There are plenty of very popular porn stars who are not conventionally pretty. There are plenty of amazing looking porn actresses who are not popular in the slightest. The difference is often just enthusiasm.
There's a temporary suspension of disbelief when you're looking at it - that this woman REALLY wants to have sex (and you put yourself there, in some sense, so it's with YOU).
It's hard to keep up that illusion if, in real life, the person you are having sex with has done nothing to indicate any desire for the act.
That you're having sex on/in her but not WITH her.
This all blew my GF's mind - "Why would a man care??"
A friend's comment regarding porn 
