01-16-2012, 09:33 PM
Join Date: Jan 2012
| | Re: sexless marriage
That sounds like some emotional trauma that needs to be accepted. I feel like if I were in your position, I might try to see a counselor if I could afford it.
You sound as if you are experiencing sadness, loss, guilt, grief, a lot of other emotions, and until you can fully experience them, either alone or together or both, your reproductive health will be impacted by that suppression of those emotions.
Sex is very complicated emotionally, so perhaps instead of thinking about "the spark," it might be helpful to think about the bucket of water that was thrown on your fire. How to dry out the wood? How to restack it? How to gather more? And then, how to light it? Maybe then, worry about the spark. There is much work to do first.