I am sincerely hoping for a genuine advise and suggestions. This is a rather long post, so let me start with a summary to save you time: my wife told me that she fantasizes about double penetration, or simultaneous oral and vaginal sex, albeit she does not have a particular third in mind and her fantasies involve some abstract entity. More details below.
My wife and I have been happily married for nine years, and have two kids. Our marriage, I feel (as does she) is a strong one. Our love life is great -- we are both as much into each other as we were when we first met, and are always open with each other sexually and emotionally.
Two years ago, during a particularly exciting session, she told me "I want it in both..." It was almost a thought out loud. I think she didn't even realize she said it. I had not brought it up again for many months, but at some point decided to challenge her. She never gave me any details, but would only smile every time I brought it up. I usually brought it up during hot sex sessions, and I noticed how much it turned her on.
Recently I decided to have a conversation about it, just to set things straight, with a sober mind, so to speak. Now, generally my wife is quite shy (albeit, as I already mentioned, for the most part is rather open with me). I am also the only man she has ever been with. Long story short, it took a lot of effort to get anything comprehensible out of her. She avoided my questions, claiming it was only a "side effect" of a wild orgasm, heat of the moment thing. Eventually she confessed that sometimes the idea of having another penis turns her on. She said (and I knew this about her before) that she likes feeling weak, dominated, and forced into submission. She loves the idea of submitting to a strong man (and she considers me a strong man).
Now the confusing part: when I asked her how she hopes to fulfill the fantasy, she said it was only a fantasy, and that I already somewhat fulfill it when I use my hands. When I asked her if she has any particular man for the role of the third in mind, she said she didn't, and cannot imagine having sex with anyone but me. She said the fantasy that she has is somewhat abstract -- no particular physical person attached to it.
This is something I find hard to understand. I also do not know how to respond to this. Did she start feeling unsatisfied by me at some point? The strong man that she is talking about -- have I stopped fulfilling that role for her at some point, and now she needs something more (or someone else)? How common are these fantasies for females?
I would really like a female perspective, but would also appreciate answers from men. Thank you!
My wife and I have been happily married for nine years, and have two kids. Our marriage, I feel (as does she) is a strong one. Our love life is great -- we are both as much into each other as we were when we first met, and are always open with each other sexually and emotionally.
Two years ago, during a particularly exciting session, she told me "I want it in both..." It was almost a thought out loud. I think she didn't even realize she said it. I had not brought it up again for many months, but at some point decided to challenge her. She never gave me any details, but would only smile every time I brought it up. I usually brought it up during hot sex sessions, and I noticed how much it turned her on.
Recently I decided to have a conversation about it, just to set things straight, with a sober mind, so to speak. Now, generally my wife is quite shy (albeit, as I already mentioned, for the most part is rather open with me). I am also the only man she has ever been with. Long story short, it took a lot of effort to get anything comprehensible out of her. She avoided my questions, claiming it was only a "side effect" of a wild orgasm, heat of the moment thing. Eventually she confessed that sometimes the idea of having another penis turns her on. She said (and I knew this about her before) that she likes feeling weak, dominated, and forced into submission. She loves the idea of submitting to a strong man (and she considers me a strong man).
Now the confusing part: when I asked her how she hopes to fulfill the fantasy, she said it was only a fantasy, and that I already somewhat fulfill it when I use my hands. When I asked her if she has any particular man for the role of the third in mind, she said she didn't, and cannot imagine having sex with anyone but me. She said the fantasy that she has is somewhat abstract -- no particular physical person attached to it.
This is something I find hard to understand. I also do not know how to respond to this. Did she start feeling unsatisfied by me at some point? The strong man that she is talking about -- have I stopped fulfilling that role for her at some point, and now she needs something more (or someone else)? How common are these fantasies for females?
I would really like a female perspective, but would also appreciate answers from men. Thank you!