okeydokie

perhaps quit showing so much interest in him, back off. go out a few times without him. act a little distant and mysterious

Diolay

It's really a hard one as without some sort of input from him, it's really hard to know what your target is. With out a target, where do you aim?

deejov

More than a few of us women have been going through the same thing. Husbands not interested.

I agree with the standard reasons
resentment
weight gain
stress
unhappiness

When your partner cannot or won't tell you what the reason is, it's hard to move forward.

You could try the woman's version of the 180. Get really busy with your own life, focus on being happy. Gets your mind off of it too.

But I do believe that partners need to learn how to communicate what is going on. It's not too late to learn. I just don't personally accept "I don't know". They need to find out the reasons, and participate in working on the why's. Or it's not really a marriage.

lovemylife

There are so many possible reasons, first and foremost may be a health issue.

He may be embarrassed about the potential for a problem or feeling insecure or inadequate.

Stress can have a major impact on the frequency of sex. If you are tired and focused on work, bills, kids and all the responsibility rather than on the moment and being happy and relaxed.

My husband has all kinds of guys at work complaining all the time about not getting any from their wives. This really made him appreciate his situation.

I have spent the last several years really working on my spiritual growth. This has made me very aware of where my focus is. I spent lots of time focusing on things that caused stress instead of living in the moment and really enjoying all the positive there is.

Learning to let the crap go, and let me tell ya most of it is just crap, has been very good for me and for my life in general.

The bills will be there tomorrow but the time that you missed to share your love and be happy, well, time we can't get back, it is just gone.

My husband and I make a point of doing little things to share our love for each other. We send texts to each other. We appreciate the little things as well as the big things. We let annoyances go and focus on the positive aspects. We touch each other more, hugs or back rub or just a caress. We make sure tell each other "I love you" every morning and never leave without a kiss first. We snuggle up to each other on the couch to watch a TV show or movie. We hold hands.

It is amazing how sometimes all these little things that are so common in courtship, get left behind when you have been married for a while. Bringing them back into our daily life has improved our intimacy and the example that we are setting for our children.

Communication is key. Sometimes it is hard to open up when you are embarrassed or insecure, but it can improve things so much when you have those open lines of communication. It may take counselors to get the information that each of you need.