02-14-2012, 11:21 AM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | Re: Husband is not interested in sex anymore.
There are so many possible reasons, first and foremost may be a health issue.
He may be embarrassed about the potential for a problem or feeling insecure or inadequate.
Stress can have a major impact on the frequency of sex. If you are tired and focused on work, bills, kids and all the responsibility rather than on the moment and being happy and relaxed.
My husband has all kinds of guys at work complaining all the time about not getting any from their wives. This really made him appreciate his situation.
I have spent the last several years really working on my spiritual growth. This has made me very aware of where my focus is. I spent lots of time focusing on things that caused stress instead of living in the moment and really enjoying all the positive there is.
Learning to let the crap go, and let me tell ya most of it is just crap, has been very good for me and for my life in general.
The bills will be there tomorrow but the time that you missed to share your love and be happy, well, time we can't get back, it is just gone.
My husband and I make a point of doing little things to share our love for each other. We send texts to each other. We appreciate the little things as well as the big things. We let annoyances go and focus on the positive aspects. We touch each other more, hugs or back rub or just a caress. We make sure tell each other "I love you" every morning and never leave without a kiss first. We snuggle up to each other on the couch to watch a TV show or movie. We hold hands.
It is amazing how sometimes all these little things that are so common in courtship, get left behind when you have been married for a while. Bringing them back into our daily life has improved our intimacy and the example that we are setting for our children.
Communication is key. Sometimes it is hard to open up when you are embarrassed or insecure, but it can improve things so much when you have those open lines of communication. It may take counselors to get the information that each of you need.