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The vast majority of our sex (at least 90%) is f*****g.
That's what I thought was implied by "wildly passionate".
This is what I/we most need/enjoy.
I took "romantic" to mean "making love"...
Interestingly, we are very romantic and affectionate most of the time, with the exception of sex.
Personally I'll taking f*****g over making love any day! And this works for my wife as well.
For us at least, it's just more raw, intense and fulfilling.
To put it another way, it really scratches that itch!
Ok...for all those who are having "wildly passionate" sex...does it include each of the following?
-Anal
-Oral sex with her willing to gag repeatedly and swallowing instead of spitting
-Rough play (hard spanking, slapping, choking or at least pinning or being pinned down while f***ing)
Naturally, what one person finds wildly passionate, another may find ordinary. I guess the three criteria listed above, however, are what I need to push it from "romantic" to "wildly passionate."
Of course, it doesn't mean that my interpretation is the rule and some may need even more than the above to push it from ordinary to extraordinary. To me, simply having vaginal sex, would not qualify as wildly passionate, no matter at what urgency and intensity it was done.
Ok...for all those who are having "wildly passionate" sex...does it include each of the following?
-Anal
-Oral sex with her willing to gag repeatedly and swallowing instead of spitting
-Rough play (hard spanking, slapping, choking or at least pinning or being pinned down while f***ing)
Naturally, what one person finds wildly passionate, another may find ordinary. I guess the three criteria listed above, however, are what I need to push it from "romantic" to "wildly passionate."
Of course, it doesn't mean that my interpretation is the rule and some may need even more than the above to push it from ordinary to extraordinary. To me, simply having vaginal sex, would not qualify as wildly passionate, no matter at what urgency and intensity it was done.
We occasionally include anal, always "enthusiastic" oral that includes swallowing, and usually include rough stuff, but I put this in the f'ing category. I consider wildly passionate when we use toys or lots of different positions or lingerie/costumes, things like that.
We occasionally include anal, always "enthusiastic" oral that includes swallowing, and usually include rough stuff, but I put this in the f'ing category. I consider wildly passionate when we use toys or lots of different positions or lingerie/costumes, things like that.
I approve. lol
Just don't want to see those having vanilla sex classifying it as 75% "wildly passionate" and making me jealous when really it is nothing more than vanilla in my book.
The more I read, the more it seems that "Romantic Sex" should be re-titled as "Vanilla Sex." I am not exactly seeing flower petals leading to the bed, chocolate truffles, candlelight and a musical trio playing as others are having their "romantic sex." ;-)
-Anal
-Oral sex with her willing to gag repeatedly and swallowing instead of spitting
-Rough play (hard spanking, slapping, choking or at least pinning or being pinned down while f***ing)
If this is the definition of Wildly passionate....We are completely and utterly vanilla all the time then. I've pinned him down and I swallow..... I wanted him to spank me, that was more of a joke.... my husband is just not the aggressive type, that has to be more on me, or it simply won't happen. Though he does like that- when I get a little rough.
When I 1st came to TAM, one of my 1st threads was about how to get my husband more aggressive in bed...... I wanted more of that in a bad way.... but I'm not going to change who he is. If anyone has tried...it has surely been me!
He wants nothing to do with Anal- the most he will do is touch those juices when I am on top -which really heighens the sensations.... I am the one who 1st even suggested Doggie- for goodness sakes.
Most would likely be bored with our sex life, but I would still classify it "Romantically passionate" and/or "Sensually passionate" - we can scratch the "wildly" definition then....
...Even though we never really got into toys and all the wild stuff, we both are 100% satisfied, and we never seem to get bored, the emotional connection thing is there very strongly......
......The only time It seemed to be an issue with me was when....my sex drive was "raging" a couple yrs ago... I was like one of these men on here who complain about thier wives being too boring in bed, that is how I felt about my husband sometimes (or I just wanted more of what we had - he couldn't keep up)......I wanted MORE spice, more excitement, more lust, it was a phase I was going through....but it has passed, I have calmed.
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Re: How would you classify your sex?
Actually, part of why I didn't try to define categories at the beginning was because I was asking how would YOU classify ... I expected people to have their own classifications and definitions that set the boundaries, and I didn't expect that I had defined all possibilities even in my marriage. I was just as interested to hear those definitions as I was to hear how people classified their sex, though. I don't want anybody to take my definitions and apply it to themselves. Personally, I think if someone says they are having wildly passionate sex, then they are having wildly passionate sex. I'm interested to know what that is for them, but when they're happy, I'm happy.
For us there are a few ingredients that make sex especially intense and enjoyable:
1. Various fantasies that we discuss during sex (awesome!)
2. Prolonged oral--each giving and receiving, she cums, I usually prefer to hold out for f*****g.
3. Finger f*****g my wife while she's on her knees sucking my c**k, her 2nd O.
4. F*****g in at least 4-5 different positions before I/we cum
5. Probably the most important ingredients are the level of intensity and raw desire that we both experience, and the profound fulfillment we enjoy!
I'm not saying it's like that every time, but these are the sessions I would describe as intense/passionate. No costumes or scuba gear, but it works for us! Posted via Mobile Device
The more I read, the more it seems that "Romantic Sex" should be re-titled as "Vanilla Sex." I am not exactly seeing flower petals leading to the bed, chocolate truffles, candlelight and a musical trio playing as others are having their "romantic sex." ;-)
No way is Romantic Sex the same as vanilla sex! We consider romantic sex the lasting several hours, full body massages, candles, whisper sweet things in each other's ears sex. The kind where you're right on the edge of a happy ending for sooooo long, but you just don't want it to end.
Maybe that's just us though.
Last night we were both really tired, so we used one of our favorite positions for such times. She lies on her back on the bed with the Liberator wedge under her hips. She then puts her legs on my shoulders as I stand at the edge of the bed. She uses a vibrator on her clit (I love the view). It only took us about 15 minutes but she had a HUGE orgasm (and so did I). It was a quickie but I must say that it was VERY passionate!! If we would have said, "it is just too late" we would have missed an awesome sexual experience with each other.
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I equated Romantic sex to making lurrrve. Candles, more sensual, usually involves massage to begin, that kind of thing. No dirty talking or role-playing or kink, simply the two of us exploring and cherishing. The type of experience where I have been known to shed a tear because of the intense emotions/or hormones. It's where we hold each other very close and tight. For us this type of intimacy would likely be an all-night deal. I certainly wouldn't categorize this as vanilla though.
Instead of "wildly passionate" I said "passionate/erotic/playful" .....encompasses various factors. I don't think there's need to expand on this. Everyone has their own idea of what this is to them.
If I'd answered this question 16 years ago, the answer would be different. And no doubt our "majority" style will change again.
I equated Romantic sex to making lurrrve. Candles, more sensual, usually involves massage to begin, that kind of thing. No dirty talking or role-playing or kink, simply the two of us exploring and cherishing. The type of experience where I have been known to shed a tear because of the intense emotions/or hormones. It's where we hold each other very close and tight. For us this type of intimacy would likely be an all-night deal. I certainly wouldn't categorize this as vanilla though.
Instead of "wildly passionate" I said "passionate/erotic/playful" .....encompasses various factors. I don't think there's need to expand on this. Everyone has their own idea of what this is to them.
If I'd answered this question 16 years ago, the answer would be different. And no doubt our "majority" style will change again.
Yep...that would be romantic sex to us too!! But (just thought of this) it could also be spending the day together going to antique shops with her dressed in short shorts. There is much touching, passionate kissing (I will try to catch her in a room with no one else around), etc. By the time we get home, we tear each others clothes off!!!
Camping is very romantic to us too. Nothing like being in nature to get the juices flowing!
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The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)
If your husband has got you so worked up that you can no longer take it,
you demand to be taken. While being taken, you dig your nails into his back and start screaming while having a very intense "O"...........your having Wild Passionate sex.
Strong feelings and Passion go together. Also requires having a very intense "O".
... Oh I demand to be "taken" alright. There likely is not too many on this forum that is a bigger sex hound than me -ha ha , so he must be doing something right !! I told him the other day he runneth my cup over , sometimes when I am cumming, I tell him to "plow me", we always sigh afterwards ...cause if we had our way..... we'd go on & on & on & never get a damn thing done all day.... but some things are just too heavenly to contain.
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Originally Posted by heartsbeating
The type of experience where I have been known to shed a tear because of the intense emotions/or hormones. It's where we hold each other very close and tight. For us this type of intimacy would likely be an all-night deal. I certainly wouldn't categorize this as vanilla though.
I like your thoughts here.... others may call it vanilla but , for us, it really isn't.... because the term "vanilla" implies it is "lacking" somehow -and for us....this is just not the case .... no matter how many times we do the same darn thing, we still get excited for it -for each other, it kind of amazes me in a way.
I would call the experience ....."life giving".... and afterwards, we lay in each others arms, there is such a comfort there, such thankfulness for this gift we have been given, how deeply we touch each others souls- in this experiece of Love making.
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