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Old 01-28-2012, 10:44 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hai all;

Would like to get some good comments from husbands and wives to know what is the regular interval to have sex between a healthy husband and wife? Mine is as follows. Me and wife is together for 7 years....

Normal Sex : Twice per week, mainly on the 2 weekend days.
Just blow job or hand job : Once or twice per week , mainly on weekdays.

Pls post your comments ........
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Old 01-28-2012, 11:12 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Married 25 years...
Once a week (on a weekend evening) if I'm lucky. Sex with oral as part of foreplay. Wife unwilling to "spice things up" or try new positions (only 3 permitted.)
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Married 2.5 years (together for 4). Our normal is about 5-7 times a week.
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@that girl.....quite interesting interval ...5 to 7 timnes a week...that means, once in a day.....pls advice some tip on this forum, so that other married couples who keep less intervals may be able to increase and spice up their sex life little more....
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lol. But that's just normal for us. We both have high drives.
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Married 39 years (got married at 16 & 17).

It really depends on the week. When she is on her period, I get hand-jobs (which she does VERY well!!) On normal weeks, 3 or 4 times. I give her oral as often as I can, she will give it to me as part of foreplay once a week or so.

It is different when we take a romantic trip. On our 39th anniversary trip to Cancun, I gave her oral around 5 times and we had sex 6 times.
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married 21 years, average 2-3 times a month. less in summer and the holidays because the kids are around and she just cannot get into it when they are in the house. i would like to see 2-3 times a week, she would be happy with once a month
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Married 23 years. Current average is around 2-3 times a week for intercourse. But we've had periods in our marriage where the average was only once a week or every 10 days for intercourse up to multiple times a day (in the first year or so). And one period with a high-risk pregnancy where there was no intercourse (was manual/oral though) for about 10 months or so.

As long as you both are reasonably content, then all's well. Since most couples are not always in sync with their drives and such, it requires some amount of compromise on each partner's part to meet somewhere in the middle, and I think some fluctation is normal. Just as long as it doesn't go down to zero and stay there.

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I think people often ask the question because they are wanting to justify their own drive. Often it is because a spouse is telling them that their drive is too high.

What you have is normal for you.
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Since when does "normal" imply healthy or reasonable or fair?


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@that girl.....quite interesting interval ...5 to 7 timnes a week...that means, once in a day.....pls advice some tip on this forum, so that other married couples who keep less intervals may be able to increase and spice up their sex life little more....
It is very simple. Any time you can you have sex do

I'm very high drive, and wifey is too except she has a hard time separating "momy" from "sexy" and at times we aren't demonstrating it. Sometimes it's great, sometimes it's not. Pre-kid 3-5 times a day steady was the norm. At 40+ now I can't do more than twice a day. The norm right now bounces between none or once a week sometimes and then 5+ times a week at other times.
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Since when does "normal" imply healthy or reasonable or fair?
I guess that's up to each couple to decide. You've got to decide what you'll live with.
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Married 2.5 years (together 12.5 years)
6-7 days a week (some days are 2x)
Oral is just about everyday
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Normal is 1-3X's/wk I'd say. That was the question. I'd say 80%+ would agree with that.

3-5X's/day is not normal (it is freakish, but all the power to you if it is not interfering in your lives).

Why is sexless easy to define (it is <10X's/yr), but many here refuse to acknowledge normal @ 1-3X's/wk?

Any male who is not getting enough sex will say in 90% of the cases they want it 1-3X's/wk.........
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Married 22 yrs...it wasn't always this way..but our 40's have been the best most rocking years... 4-6 times a week consistently for the past 3 + years. (I even keep a sex calendar to see how long we can keep this up)....

My husband swears he is not worn out yet and we haven't gotten bored either. Bj's are always forplay and when it is that time of month, he gets it all the way to the finish line.
Is this thread a chance for people to brag about their sex lives or answer the question asked????
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