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Old 01-28-2012, 05:29 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Are there men out there who enjoy cunnilingus almost as much as penetrative sex? Or am I just a freak?

My wife loves cunnilingus but has an irrational fear that I would give her an infection and so we don't do it as often as I'd like. Would love to know if I can overcome that fear of hers somehow.
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Heck yesss...

My wife has a golden V, and I love doing that for her.

Actually, it is the only way she can have an O. Intercourse does not work for her.
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Yes, of course. I hope so for women's sake.

Especially as we get older, penatration does not always work as well or last long enough to "get the job done". I love to go down on my wife before or after intercourse to get her to climax. Now about infections......

I've been plagued with canker sores, a form of oral herpies since before puberty. Doctors have always said that this form of herpies was not the same as genital herpies, and I need not worry. Now though, they are changing their tune. It seems that some varients of what I had CAN be spread during cunnilingus. So be aware...
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I would think using Listerine or a good antibacterial mouthwash beforehand would do the trick. I dunno. Maybe there is a poster on this site who knows medicine.
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Heck yesss...

My wife has a golden V, and I love doing that for her.

Actually, it is the only way she can have an O. Intercourse does not work for her.
Good to know I'm not alone.
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And they shall be called.... THE BROTHERHOOD OF THE TOUNGE!!!
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Old 01-28-2012, 06:42 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Are there men out there who enjoy cunnilingus almost as much as penetrative sex? Or am I just a freak?

My wife loves cunnilingus but has an irrational fear that I would give her an infection and so we don't do it as often as I'd like. Would love to know if I can overcome that fear of hers somehow.
Has she ever had an infection, like a urinary tract infection, from having a lot of oral sex? I have had that happen before - the urethra is really close to the clitoris. We usually have to space out how often we do it somewhat - and it's also not my favorite thing. I rarely ever orgasm from oral sex.

If she's worried about UTIs, then there are steps you can take to alleviate that. Urinate before sex and immediately after. Be cautious of where you are putting your mouth. She can drink cranberry juice or take a daily cranberry tablet (can get them where the vitamins are).

As far as other infections, yah. Somebody who has cold sores can pass that on from their mouth to someone's genitals, if they are having an active outbreak.

HPV can also be passed and can be a bit nastier to some. Certain strains can increase the chances of cervical cancer in women, and oral cancers in men - so YOU would be at greater risk for that by indulging in oral on a woman who has HPV.

You don't mention how long you have been married, but in a mutually monogamous relationship, your chances of the nasty viral things would likely be much smaller.
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If she's worried about UTIs, then there are steps you can take to alleviate that. Urinate before sex and immediately after. Be cautious of where you are putting your mouth. She can drink cranberry juice or take a daily cranberry tablet (can get them where the vitamins are).

You don't mention how long you have been married, but in a mutually monogamous relationship, your chances of the nasty viral things would likely be much smaller.
We've been married for five years. Its indeed UTIs she worries about because she tends to get them a bit more frequently and so wants to be more careful I guess. I don't hold that against her although I would love her to be infection proof so I could have my way with her.
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I would be more likely to get a UTI from penetration than oral.
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Yes, yes YES!!! I love it. My wife likes for me to do this to her, too. I wish I could make her orgasm with this - I would make her orgasm with oral regularly. Even though the oral isn't enough to make her orgasm, she finds it nice and erotic, and it is, as a minimum, a big part of foreplay every time we make love.

FWIW, I think sex is best experienced by 6 senses: Touch, smell, sight, hearing, taste, and the emotional feelings of knowing my wife is really enjoying herself.

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Old 01-28-2012, 08:42 PM   #12 (permalink)
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My wife could careless either way. Sucks for me... I love doing that for her.
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Do it a lot..
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Yes, yes YES!!! I love it. My wife likes for me to do this to her, too. I wish I could make her orgasm with this - I would make her orgasm with oral regularly. Even though the oral isn't enough to make her orgasm, she finds it nice and erotic, and it is, as a minimum, a big part of foreplay every time we make love.
Ask her to tell you when you hit the mark. All women are built differently. When my wife and I first got intimate she had to talk me through it until I got it right. It took a few tries, but now I can make her climax with regularity.
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Ask her to tell you when you hit the mark. All women are built differently. When my wife and I first got intimate she had to talk me through it until I got it right. It took a few tries, but now I can make her climax with regularity.
She has never been able to orgasm passively. I explained in the thread "Do you get sore?" how she has to orgasm. I don't think my face could take that ... although I'd be willing to find out - would probably even be willing to deal with an injury if it couldn't . I have a few ideas that I'm going to suggest such as stimulating her with a toy while I'm giving her oral, or even holding the toy in my mouth while stimulating her to see if we can achieve it that way. Still, I'm not sure my face can take what it will take to push her over to climax.

All in all, she is great. If she is happy, and I never actually am able to get her to orgasm orally, I would still consider our sex life to be better than I could have imagined before I was married, but I have to admit it would be fantastic to be able to stimulate her to orgasm orally.

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