Originally Posted by Claude Veritas View Post
-----if you are a Christian, you are wrong in being a Sexual Repressor so far
Read The Song of Songs...Its one of the best Guides for Erotic Love...
Claude, I agree with your 2nd post when you said .."'Most Preachers are Ignorant or Conditioned by Church...and they dont even interpret the Scriptures rightly, rather they are guided by some Church Doctrines
"... Freaking amen to that !!
I no longer consider myself a Christian , I see no sense in trying to defend myself against "Fundamentalists", better to just separate myself .... I put reason before blind faith, this has enabled me to be more tolerate, more loving and I feel more in tune with my creator. Though others will tell me I am all wet, that is fine.
I feel I went to a near "Puritan" church ... Songs of Solomen was never uttered or hinted at.. Funny... how many wives did he have??...according to 1 Kings 11:3, -he had 700 wives & 300 concubines... Something is a little twisted about that, isn't it?
No, it was all fire & brimstone and our Flesh is "dirty", we need to put it down, premarital sex is deserving of Hell, so it a little Lust, deserving of plucking out our eyes ... ... for me, I could not turn "the switch" ...strippers were condemned, but once married, once we walked down that aisle , we are somehow encouraged to act like them for our husbands --really!!?
No, that "good girl" Mentality wasn't that easy to throw off- it left some deep imprints on my brain......and it kept me "caged". My own conscience warred against it -but I was too weak and uneducated to overcome it . (Can look up my "Awakening" thread- some links within from a psychological perspective to explain what can happen to some .......so I am not alone)...
Not everyone is affected by this... I realize that.... I feel the deeper thinkers are more to fall prey, I tried to take religion/God/ what he wanted from me so very seriously, I feel that was to my detriment. Had I taken a more casual attitude without trying to figure out every detail and demise of my life -due to my sexuality, I might have been OK, and even thrived. But hey, I was young, impressionable and uneducated.
....NOW, getting away from all of that.....I have never felt so alive and in tune with who I was meant to be all along , I found more christian books on sex a hinderance (just being honest), I think the judgemental stuck out for me at every turn & only hindered..... I found the secular more freeing, more human somehow
, more understanding of our natures, although many things in the secular I do not totally agree with -so I spit out what doesn't resonate with me, just as I pretty much do with the bible as well. I am an admitted Cherry picker.
I found this to be the most well written book on sex for the
Christian Amazon.com: Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (9782913356559): Kevin Leman: Books
Had I had something like this to guide me in our early marraige and I took it to heart....maybe I would not have remained mentally caged, I don't know, all speculation.