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OK, here it goes, most of all on this site have been married a pretty long time,and I love that. My marriage included, there are always struggles, emotional, financial, sexual,etc. I told myself years ago, that I would'nt ever say no to him. We have been through much. Job loss, Bankruptcy, and a lot of fights... With alll of that said I still want my hubby in me and loving me with his big red.....
The point is through all the tough times, do you still seek your man/women and basically drain your loving brains with your love making skills.........yum ......yum
we even taught our daughter, before marriage KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED, AFTER MARRIAGE NEVER CLOSE YOUR LEGS...
Shortly before my wedding, my mother gave me this advice, "If you want to keep your husband happy, always keep his belly full and never tell him you have a headache." LOL
Shortly before my wedding, my mother gave me this advice, "If you want to keep your husband happy, always keep his belly full and never tell him you have a headache." LOL
Sounds like 3 of Dave Chappell's 4 rules for keeping a man happy.
OK, here it goes, most of all on this site have been married a pretty long time,and I love that. My marriage included, there are always struggles, emotional, financial, sexual,etc. I told myself years ago, that I would'nt ever say no to him. We have been through much. Job loss, Bankruptcy, and a lot of fights... With alll of that said I still want my hubby in me and loving me with his big red.....
The point is through all the tough times, do you still seek your man/women and basically drain your loving brains with your love making skills.........yum ......yum
I only wish I had more mentors like you -with this attitude earlier in my marriage, I can't say one women ever talked to me about the importance or "drive" of a husband...for all I knew he felt the same as me.
I did say "No" during our years of infertility - trying to conserve his sperm for better chances, this set him up for alot of hurt....but he hid it from me..... after this spell & the babies wouldn't stop coming, I rarely said No, but the internal damage was done....he never was the aggressive type, and we didn't talk about sex.....we could have enjoyed so very much MORE than what he did......all mindless and a waste of our good years.
Now.... I live what you wrote, the legs may be a little too open, nothing thrills me more than being intimate with my husband. If we could go back in time and relive those precious years, it would be the greatest thing...what a simple valuable truth I wish I had known all along.
why has the last 2 generations absolved themselves of teaching their children about sex and marriage, maybe a symptom of the final decay of western society, marriage is not a legal document, that is just so the divorce courts have something to go on, it is a commitment made in front of family and friends then consumated, this sexual bond is most strong if the woman has kept her legs closed to other men, so many women wish they were virgins to be their husbands pure darling, some strangely think that you need heaps of sex partners to get'experienced' with well why not heaps of loving with one man, surely that is what women really want
You wouldn't believe the amount of men I know (good hard-working men by the way) who despair at the fact that their wives only sleeps with them as more of a favour than a genuine desire to show appreciation and affection. I don't think alot women realise the silent emotional hurt men go through when their wives reject them in that way.
very true, so many dont understand what covenant means, not what is in it for me, that is a contract, but what can i do for you, coupled with a loving heart willing to show it, equals an unbreakable marriage
Its mutually open minds and open hearts, closed legs dont happen then , nor closing of marriages..nor relation nor commitment...but simply Fulfilling Life...
I only wish I had more mentors like you -with this attitude earlier in my marriage, I can't say one women ever talked to me about the importance or "drive" of a husband...for all I knew he felt the same as me.
I did say "No" during our years of infertility - trying to conserve his sperm for better chances, this set him up for alot of hurt....but he hid it from me..... after this spell & the babies wouldn't stop coming, I rarely said No, but the internal damage was done....he never was the aggressive type, and we didn't talk about sex.....we could have enjoyed so very much MORE than what he did......all mindless and a waste of our good years.
Now.... I live what you wrote, the legs may be a little too open, nothing thrills me more than being intimate with my husband. If we could go back in time and relive those precious years, it would be the greatest thing...what a simple valuable truth I wish I had known all along.
OMG SA, I just had this exact conversation with my Wife last night after awesome sex. All the years wasted to sexual repression! The parallels continue huh!
You wouldn't believe the amount of men I know (good hard-working men by the way) who despair at the fact that their wives only sleeps with them as more of a favour than a genuine desire to show appreciation and affection. I don't think alot women realise the silent emotional hurt men go through when their wives reject them in that way.
I think I can honestly say that I have never rejected my husband's advances in bed. I did in the very early years of our marriage when my kids were young, working full time and having the day to day stress of work, homework, baths ect. I found myself trying to be everything to everyone. When he would gently wrap his arms around me while I was cooking or whatever, I would push him away not knowing the pain I was inflicting on him. I was rejecting him not knowing that was what I was doing. My parents were NEVER affectionate that we saw, but I know they were sexually active at least 5 times. LOL.
With all of this said, I learned to accept love and in doing that I believe that I also became more in love with sex.
Rejection is something that doesn't heal easily and IF I CouLd go back into time, my love would never have experienced that and I can only imagine what our sex life would be now, considering it is steamy hot.
I think I can honestly say that I have never rejected my husband's advances in bed. I did in the very early years of our marriage when my kids were young, working full time and having the day to day stress of work, homework, baths ect. I found myself trying to be everything to everyone. When he would gently wrap his arms around me while I was cooking or whatever, I would push him away not knowing the pain I was inflicting on him. I was rejecting him not knowing that was what I was doing. My parents were NEVER affectionate that we saw, but I know they were sexually active at least 5 times. LOL.
With all of this said, I learned to accept love and in doing that I believe that I also became more in love with sex.
Rejection is something that doesn't heal easily and IF I CouLd go back into time, my love would never have experienced that and I can only imagine what our sex life would be now, considering it is steamy hot.
Nice to see your post. No worries your husband doesn't even hardly remember that stuff. He doesn't concern himself with the past, only the present and the future. He is totally pleased with you nowadays and the futures so bright hes gotta wear shades!
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