02-01-2012, 11:50 PM
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: The Jersey Shore
| | Re: Birth Control
Originally Posted by shy_guy
I realize that men are usually viewed as not having strong feelings, or at least not showing them. Outwardly, I usually don't show feelings much. However; I have them, and I'm especially sentimental where matters of my family are concerned. I've had a few times when I was surprised at the feelings that welled up in me - caught me off guard. This was one of those situations. Some of our roads on life's journeys bring tears - the death of a friend or parent for instance.
I'm not scolding, so please don't take my tone of voice to sound like that. I'm speaking with a soft voice when I write this. I post for those who may travel the same road I did just to tell them there may be a rough spot on that road, or a nice spot to stop and rest.
No offense taken!
I actually understand where that sort of sentiment comes from. I've seen it firsthand, I'm just not like that. I guess I'm not that sentimental in general.
I do remember when my son was born that I did feel some real sadness that he would be the last. I always wanted two children..a girl and a boy. That's what I got. I still recall how sad I was right after my son was born. I remember holding him and staring down at him and crying, feeling all sad and whatnot. Of course it might've been a postpartum depression situation. Unfortunately I was at the beginning of a long period of emotional problems when my son was born.
But then he got older, got rambunctious and was diagnoised with ADHD and tore apart my house. That convinced me that my child rearing days were over so I got my tubes tied and never looked back.
My husband did surprise me. He is a very practical man in most respects and he told me that when he became 40 he'd get "snipped". When the time came he just refused outright to do it. Said he "just couldn't do it". I tried to talk him into it and then I gave up and said "Ok, I'll do it then and you'll wait on me hand and foot." So I did and he did indeed pamper me for a week.
In any case, I highly recommend it for those who want the ultimate form of birth control. It's more reliable than a vasectomy.
D DAY: Monday, April 1, 2013
And now it's your chance to move on
Change the way you've lived for so long
And find the strength you've had inside all along
'Cause life starts now