shy_guy

I was younger. That's a relevant point and distinction.

It is possible for a man to have 2 vases on one side or the other, and I understand that can be missed sometimes. I have a neice from this situation. However; there is a follow up to a vasectomy: A man is supposed to return and have a sperm count done. It is very important to have this done as it will catch situations where the man is not sterilized by some situation such as having more than one vas and one not being snipped. I understand that many men skip this because, at least when I did it, it involves having to masturbate and people knowing about you masturbating. That's rather embarassing to some.



I realize that men are usually viewed as not having strong feelings, or at least not showing them. Outwardly, I usually don't show feelings much. However; I have them, and I'm especially sentimental where matters of my family are concerned. I've had a few times when I was surprised at the feelings that welled up in me - caught me off guard. This was one of those situations. Some of our roads on life's journeys bring tears - the death of a friend or parent for instance.

I'm not scolding, so please don't take my tone of voice to sound like that. I'm speaking with a soft voice when I write this. I post for those who may travel the same road I did just to tell them there may be a rough spot on that road, or a nice spot to stop and rest.

Freak On a Leash

No offense taken! I actually understand where that sort of sentiment comes from. I've seen it firsthand, I'm just not like that. I guess I'm not that sentimental in general.

I do remember when my son was born that I did feel some real sadness that he would be the last. I always wanted two children..a girl and a boy. That's what I got. I still recall how sad I was right after my son was born. I remember holding him and staring down at him and crying, feeling all sad and whatnot. Of course it might've been a postpartum depression situation. Unfortunately I was at the beginning of a long period of emotional problems when my son was born.

But then he got older, got rambunctious and was diagnoised with ADHD and tore apart my house. That convinced me that my child rearing days were over so I got my tubes tied and never looked back.

My husband did surprise me. He is a very practical man in most respects and he told me that when he became 40 he'd get "snipped". When the time came he just refused outright to do it. Said he "just couldn't do it". I tried to talk him into it and then I gave up and said "Ok, I'll do it then and you'll wait on me hand and foot." So I did and he did indeed pamper me for a week.

In any case, I highly recommend it for those who want the ultimate form of birth control. It's more reliable than a vasectomy.

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SimplyAmorous

You say IUD's cause problems, did she have one before, did a doctor tell her she couldn't ? Just curious, I got the non hormonal copper paragard. IN my opinion, that is the best birth control on the market ...love mine, gave me sexual freedom, I really went to town , I never feel it, never think about it, you wouldn't even know it is there and effective for 12 long years.

If a woman feels she is done with kids but still pernament is not something she is jumping at, not allergic to copper & are monogomous - it is what I always recommend anyway. Inserted in the office in less than 3 minutes time, just a large cramp and you're done, on your way.

I never had one issue with mine. Love it.

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charlotte2

I have non hormonal iud aswell.

Don't like hormonal birth control.
Ive only had mine in for two weeks but no problems so far. Hurt a bit when it was put in but that was my cervix is strange apparently.
Mine lasts for 10 years with yearly check ups

romantic_guy

Had my vasectomy about 25 years ago and it has been awesome! It is even easier now...no incision. Before that we used condoms or diaphragm. This is so much better!

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