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How awesome to treat your wife like a sperm receptacle.
How awesome of you to make that comment. We both owe no one here any explanations as to how we run our lives and our married life together. As long as we are happy, and we are very happy, why should you care? We answered a question that was asked here. Since we had some experience with threesomes, we thought we would answer. It does not take much thought, however, to insult, judge, and make negative comments. How adult of you to do so.
Instead of making negative comments you could have just asked questions as to how and why we felt as we do. You know...maybe learn something instead of judging? We judge no one here, and you are free to live your life just the way you see fit.
If you have been reading our comments you would know that we have been together for almost 19 years now. We have a great life together, great jobs, wonderful children, a nice happy home.......we are planning a nice anniversary together and lots more years together. But if you want to insult and judge people for what they want to do in their own lives...well feel free to do so.
Its not going to shame us or change us, or upset us in any way. Theres a few people here that just love to make snide comments on things that they have no idea about. Instead of taking the chance to find out why we do the things we do, and asking intelligent questions, they have been reduced to showing just how intelligent they are. Also, as we have said before.....if you dont like whats on the channel, just change it.
This was a thread about threesomes.......if you dont want to hear someone talk about them, or dont agree with what we are saying here...well why not start your own thread about evil people like us that are ruining the fabric of America, and married couples everywhere?
But dont be small minded and petty...try learning something about others before you make comments about what you have never done......and remember..we never said that what we were doing was right or wrong...and we never tried to convert anyone over to anything.
I am not married but does not mean that i am not in any relationship.i have a gf.I love her from bottom of my heart.She is the first and will be the last woman in my life.i am not gonna let any man touch her.
and about ur **** study report and statistics, if its true, this one of the many ways people use to justify their actions.
and one last thing.like other people here i would also like to know how was ur great loving husband and his great friends were able to cum inside u while using protection. "Innovation at Work" huh!
We will answer your question......since you and a few others wait with baited breath to comment on every little thing we say. What we meant to say was.....With the use of protection, its possible to cum inside the vagina with out actually cumming inside the vagina. Let me answer another question for you......We never "Justified" anything, and you would know that if you read our earlier comments. We were answering a comment on threesomes. If it makes you this upset...why are you still here making rude comments? Being hateful just makes your comments ugly, mean, and unneeded.
Its real easy to be small minded about things instead of asking thoughtful well thought out questions..isnt it?
But it's not ruining anything! It's just enhancing the relationship.
We never said that it was "Enhancing" anything. Thats what you said. We tried to answer a question here..and thats it. However, if you do have any questions that you would like to ask..we as a couple would love to answer them for you. I dont think that you are trying to judge us, I think, but please dont judge us for something that you may or may not understand. Thanks
We will answer your question......since you and a few others wait with baited breath to comment on every little thing we say. What we meant to say was.....With the use of protection, its possible to cum inside the vagina with out actually cumming inside the vagina. Let me answer another question for you......We never "Justified" anything, and you would know that if you read our earlier comments. We were answering a comment on threesomes. If it makes you this upset...why are you still here making rude comments? Being hateful just makes your comments ugly, mean, and unneeded.
Its real easy to be small minded about things instead of asking thoughtful well thought out questions..isnt it?
i am not afraid of anyone judging me bcos i know i have not done anything wrong in my life or hurt any family, only cowards do that.
Why dont u retrospect on what r u doing.You are bringing other people in your marriage, so its obvious that they r cheating on their spouses and you are the part of this cheating.So you are one way breaking the other families.Whats ur answer for this ?
hard to digest how people lower themselves for their enjoyment and break other families.
i am not afraid of anyone judging me bcos i know i have not done anything wrong in my life or hurt any family, only cowards do that.
Why dont u retrospect on what r u doing.You are bringing other people in your marriage, so its obvious that they r cheating on their spouses and you are the part of this cheating.So you are one way breaking the other families.Whats ur answer for this ?
hard to digest how people lower themselves for their enjoyment and break other families.
Hmmmm......maybe the third party is single. Posted via Mobile Device
[QUOTE=vickyyy;591498]i am not afraid of anyone judging me bcos i know i have not done anything wrong in my life or hurt any family, only cowards do that.
Why dont u retrospect on what r u doing.You are bringing other people in your marriage, so its obvious that they r cheating on their spouses and you are the part of this cheating.So you are one way breaking the other families.Whats ur answer for this ?
hard to digest how people lower themselves for their enjoyment and break other families.[/QUOTE
Why do you continue to insult us with comments like this one.."Hard to digest how people lower themselves for their enjoyment and break other families" Cant you just ask a question, which it seems you tried to do, but just could not resist added another insult?
While we are do have threesomes, I hope you are not under the impression that this is a regular thing for us. Its not..... we do this, and have fun with it, but its not a driving force in our lives. I think, to answer your question, we would say that when we do play, its with other married couples, or single women and men.
While we cant be always sure that the single folks are not married, we just dont hop into bed with anyone, and always not right away. We always meet the couple or single person and talk first, usually at a public place such as bar. Its always good to get to know someone first, to see if there is a spark there....then we usually proceed from that point.
Ninety-five percent of the time, we end up not sleeping with anyone, but have made friends that we can go out with and have fun. Dont assume that we are some wild couple out there just having sex all the time and with anyone.
It's amazing how some of the responses are so distict, cool and level headed, while others are crazy rants. For the record, we have had 1 threesome and a few foursomes and have enjoyed it. Our marriage is fine. We do not promote it, encourage it or discourage it. It could end your marriage (although i suggest that if it does, there were other problems there to begin with), it could enhance your marriage ( hearing this from a few members) or it could do neither. All the advice should be listened to. This isn't for everyone, and i would suggest, not for most. As far as how it pertains to a marriage, that is each couple's decision on how their marriage is defined. If you're religious, this won't work and of course you'll find it immoral. If a couple truly seperates sex from love/emotion then doing this without problems is certainly possible, although i would suggest that this isn't attainable for most. No, i'm not saying it is for us either. It has been, though, to this point. We've only done this with long time friends and to be honest i can't see us ever doing it with anyone else. Neither of us would be comfortable with or interested in a stranger(s). Neither my wife or myself are interested in falling in love with someone else. We love each other. We're mid/late 30's and have been together for 20+ years. Our sexual experiences were very limited before we met so has been fun for us to be able to explore a little more within the confines of OUR marriage. Now, speaking for myself (the husband), i can say i had and have NO interest in ever being with another woman unless my wife was right there with me. While i have had great fun having the 3/4 somes, for me, it's the shared experience. I enjoy doing/watching equally. Her enjoyment is paramount to me and i personally find nothing sexier than my wife having a good time. With me, another women, another man, it doesn't matter. It would if i wasn't there though, it certainly would. There really isn't any absolute piece of advice that could ever properly be applied to the op as each individual/relationship is different. Go slow, be honest and truthful with yourselves and each other and always be communicating.
that is stuff you view in porn or swingers have if you guys are swingers and crazy into sex go ahead however i think its rather sick and is making a mockery of the marriage.
But hey marriage as a whole should be removed from the states and instead churches should only deal with marriage. People are ruining the credibility of marriage by defying all that it once stood for. Thank god there are still good people out there who are in true marriages.
I will say this i think you are not right with god (imo) and not actively right in the head to want to bring anyone else into your marriage for sex. However i can see and understand why you might have set desires i do not want to get into a debate a psychological one or try to tie in evolutionary things or anything else. So yes go ahead bring in a 3rd person if that is what you wish to do it may break your marriage. However (imo) your marriage is already not right in the fact that you have a wish to do such a thing.
that is stuff you view in porn or swingers have if you guys are swingers and crazy into sex go ahead however i think its rather sick and is making a mockery of the marriage.
But hey marriage as a whole should be removed from the states and instead churches should only deal with marriage. People are ruining the credibility of marriage by defying all that it once stood for. Thank god there are still good people out there who are in true marriages.
I will say this i think you are not right with god (imo) and not actively right in the head to want to bring anyone else into your marriage for sex. However i can see and understand why you might have set desires i do not want to get into a debate a psychological one or try to tie in evolutionary things or anything else. So yes go ahead bring in a 3rd person if that is what you wish to do it may break your marriage. However (imo) your marriage is already not right in the fact that you have a wish to do such a thing.
Another country heard from...and I was real interested in what you were saying...that is until you accuse people of not being right....of not being good people....who are you to judge others? Did God die and appoint you judge and jury?
i think it takes not loving you partner to have in your head it is ok for you and your partner to be with others.
Yup..thats got to be it..right? As I have said..this is a thread for people who might try a threesome, and the original question of if a threesome was right for a couple.....If you have nothing but bad things to say, and you dont think its right....why do you all keep coming back? You must find it sexy or interesting...or maybe you just have nothing better to do than judge people on things that you know absolutley nothing about. Why dont you go read your bible, and leave us heathens to the question at hand.
How awesome of you to make that comment. We both owe no one here any explanations as to how we run our lives and our married life together. As long as we are happy, and we are very happy, why should you care? We answered a question that was asked here. Since we had some experience with threesomes, we thought we would answer. It does not take much thought, however, to insult, judge, and make negative comments. How adult of you to do so.
Instead of making negative comments you could have just asked questions as to how and why we felt as we do. You know...maybe learn something instead of judging? We judge no one here, and you are free to live your life just the way you see fit.
If you have been reading our comments you would know that we have been together for almost 19 years now. We have a great life together, great jobs, wonderful children, a nice happy home.......we are planning a nice anniversary together and lots more years together. But if you want to insult and judge people for what they want to do in their own lives...well feel free to do so.
Its not going to shame us or change us, or upset us in any way. Theres a few people here that just love to make snide comments on things that they have no idea about. Instead of taking the chance to find out why we do the things we do, and asking intelligent questions, they have been reduced to showing just how intelligent they are. Also, as we have said before.....if you dont like whats on the channel, just change it.
This was a thread about threesomes.......if you dont want to hear someone talk about them, or dont agree with what we are saying here...well why not start your own thread about evil people like us that are ruining the fabric of America, and married couples everywhere?
But dont be small minded and petty...try learning something about others before you make comments about what you have never done......and remember..we never said that what we were doing was right or wrong...and we never tried to convert anyone over to anything.
You don't owe an explanation and yet you give one. I didn't read it, sorry. I was only commenting on how you stated "busting your load" or something, as well as your friend "busting his load" inside your wife. It was rude. lol. Funny too.
I have no problem what you do in your life, but your wording about your friend and your wife is just so disrespectful to her as a woman. But I guess if she likes it...
It's amazing how some of the responses are so distict, cool and level headed, while others are crazy rants. For the record, we have had 1 threesome and a few foursomes and have enjoyed it. Our marriage is fine. We do not promote it, encourage it or discourage it. It could end your marriage (although i suggest that if it does, there were other problems there to begin with), it could enhance your marriage ( hearing this from a few members) or it could do neither. All the advice should be listened to. This isn't for everyone, and i would suggest, not for most. As far as how it pertains to a marriage, that is each couple's decision on how their marriage is defined. If you're religious, this won't work and of course you'll find it immoral. If a couple truly seperates sex from love/emotion then doing this without problems is certainly possible, although i would suggest that this isn't attainable for most. No, i'm not saying it is for us either. It has been, though, to this point. We've only done this with long time friends and to be honest i can't see us ever doing it with anyone else. Neither of us would be comfortable with or interested in a stranger(s). Neither my wife or myself are interested in falling in love with someone else. We love each other. We're mid/late 30's and have been together for 20+ years. Our sexual experiences were very limited before we met so has been fun for us to be able to explore a little more within the confines of OUR marriage. Now, speaking for myself (the husband), i can say i had and have NO interest in ever being with another woman unless my wife was right there with me. While i have had great fun having the 3/4 somes, for me, it's the shared experience. I enjoy doing/watching equally. Her enjoyment is paramount to me and i personally find nothing sexier than my wife having a good time. With me, another women, another man, it doesn't matter. It would if i wasn't there though, it certainly would. There really isn't any absolute piece of advice that could ever properly be applied to the op as each individual/relationship is different. Go slow, be honest and truthful with yourselves and each other and always be communicating.
yes u will find other responses so distict, cool and level headed bcos they r justifying ur actions, thats what we want to hear in our life only good things about ourselves and find responses crazy huh.
what a great husband you are for making it sure that you are present right there while ur wife **** other men.great.
U said u love ur wife and respect each other and enjoy watching her being fu** by other men.i would like to know what kind of love and respect is this.your great long time friends treating her not more than a cheap wh*re and piece of a meat in front of u and u enjoy this.or has the definition of love has changed in our country.
You both are putting each other at the risk of STD and you said you both love each others.
u really need psychological counseling.
I really want to know the answers of this questions from you or others.
i am not afraid of anyone judging me bcos i know i have not done anything wrong in my life or hurt any family, only cowards do that.
Why dont u retrospect on what r u doing.You are bringing other people in your marriage, so its obvious that they r cheating on their spouses and you are the part of this cheating.So you are one way breaking the other families.Whats ur answer for this ?
hard to digest how people lower themselves for their enjoyment and break other families.[/QUOTE
Why do you continue to insult us with comments like this one.."Hard to digest how people lower themselves for their enjoyment and break other families" Cant you just ask a question, which it seems you tried to do, but just could not resist added another insult?
While we are do have threesomes, I hope you are not under the impression that this is a regular thing for us. Its not..... we do this, and have fun with it, but its not a driving force in our lives. I think, to answer your question, we would say that when we do play, its with other married couples, or single women and men.
While we cant be always sure that the single folks are not married, we just dont hop into bed with anyone, and always not right away. We always meet the couple or single person and talk first, usually at a public place such as bar. Its always good to get to know someone first, to see if there is a spark there....then we usually proceed from that point.
Ninety-five percent of the time, we end up not sleeping with anyone, but have made friends that we can go out with and have fun. Dont assume that we are some wild couple out there just having sex all the time and with anyone.
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