Honest to God, I was so quiet , sometimes we'd go at it with our toddlers at the foot of our bed...... I was embarrassed / inhibited to moan for a good 19 of our marriage, we were both quiet, it was the most rediculous thing really. Looking back, I almost feel foolish to say these things.
Boy are those days ever gone! We never talked about sex either, we were both somewhat sexually repressed. And I guess we just got into " the habit " of being terribly quiet, although we were never bored....these things never bothered him, and I just didn't think about it , other than feeling a little embarrassed to act like something we might see in porn.
He knew I was totally enraptured in the experience- with no words, no moans, he always KNEW when I was "ready" -needing to be taken, our bodies were always in sinc, I am not sure how he even knew , the breathing, the kissing, I don't know but 95% of the time we finished together. But ... quiet as quiet could be .
He is still quieter than me -even today -but I openly breath heavy now, -do some moaning, some teasing, some playing, saying "Plow Me" , "give it to me hard", you never know what might fly out of my mouth , I feel freedom at last to express what was always there -just felt too taboo to let it out, not sure how to explain it...but I sure changed and did a 180 in this area!
I was never one to be shy or backwards outside of the bedroom though, so my personality was kinda "caged" in this area, I think if a wife is generally on the more "quiet" side in all areas of life -- this might be really hard for her to step it up, BUT if it is a case of sexual repression, just feeling embarrassed, inhibited to show sexual ecstasy somehow, there is surely hope to overcome if she can break out of her cage, let the cougar be unleashed.