02-02-2012, 02:23 PM
Join Date: Jan 2012
| | Re: 16 yrs sexless marriage
Originally Posted by Cre8ify
If his outlet is his hand you might wonder if he uses fantasy or porn to arouse himself. Both can bend the mind over 16 years and they are so much easier than a real emotional connection to a partner that he would not be the first guy to choose "easy".
If he's not gay, not having an affair, and does masturbate, I guess the only reasonable conclusion is that he prefers porn and fantasy to the reality. I did offer to watch with him, but that didn't lead to anything.
Of course fantasy to arouse myself is basically all I've had for the past 16 years, but I digress. It does bend the mind-- the longer I went without the real thing the stranger and more elaborate my fantasies turned.